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Relationships and family

Is gambling affecting your relationships?

Having a gambling problem can be very all-consuming, and as well as the effect on the gamblers themselves, it can have a devastating impact on their relationships with other people, their friends and family. This can take various forms, especially the following:

  • Arguing more with your partner or family, especially about money, budgeting and debt
  • Being preoccupied with gambling and finding it difficult to focus on other things
  • Spending less time with people and more time gambling
  • Lying to friends and family about losses
  • Stealing money from friends and family to gamble with

If you can recognise these things in your relationships, it might be a sign that gambling is becoming a problem. You may want to take our self assessment test to find out more.

Problem Gambling and Relationships 

Instead of spending time with partners and their family, or fulfilling commitments, gamblers may choose to spend their leisure time gambling. This can lead a partner or family member to worry that the gambler does not care about them anymore, or that they are somehow less important. This can lead to emotional distance or tension in the relationship. It is often the case however, that the gambler is so tied up with the gambling behaviour that they are unable to think about anyone else. 

There can also be increased arguments over the family budget and finances when there is a gambling problem in the family. Often the gambler is convinced that they will be able to sort the problems out themselves, when in reality they need help to stop gambling and resolve their debt problems in a more realistic way.Broken promises and deceit can mean that partners of gamblers can lose trust in their relationship, especially if the gambler has tried to stop gambling several times but has ended up returning to the behaviour.It's easy to see how all of these factors can cause stress to a relationship and lead a partner or family member to question the value of it. Sometimes there is a lso a lot of guilt involved as a partner may wonder if the gambling problem is their fault, or if they have somehow contributed to the problem.

Problem gambling in a family can also have an effect on children - the impact of stress within the family unit and potential loss of relationship with a parent can have lasting consequences.


Get help

Once a problem gambler seeks help and enters recovery there can be an opportunity to re-establish relationships. Rebuilding trust can be a difficult task but relationships can heal once a problem gambler enters recovery. Breaking an addiction is a very difficult process. Recovery takes time, hard work and commitment.

If you are concerned about your own gambling, GamCare has a range of help, advice and support services.

Read more - Get support for problem gamblers>>

Read more - Get support for partners friends and family>>

If you are concerned that your relationship with a problem gambler is becoming extremely unhealthy or even violent, it is important to seek help for yourself. Likewise if you feel your children are impacted in an unhealthy way it is important to take action. Women's Aid can help with this.

You might find the following links useful:

Relate

0300 100 1234 (for information on their services)

www.relate.org.uk


NSPCC

Children's charity dedicated to ending child abuse and child cruelty.

0800 1111 for Childline for children (24-hour helpline)

0808 800 5000 for adults concerned about a child (24-hour helpline)

www.nspcc.org.uk


Refuge

Advice on dealing with domestic violence.

0808 2000 247 (24-hour helpline)

www.refuge.org.uk


Family Lives

0808 800 2222 (daily, 7am-midnight)

www.familylives.org.uk

 

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