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Invictus
(@invictus)

Nearly 2 years on from my last bet and life is beautiful, peaceful, fulfilling, exciting and all the other things it always could have been if only I hadn't gambled for so long. My story is on my diary thread if you want the back story but it was similar to so many on here. In my case 25 years of gambling and the last 10 or so being a major expensive addiction leading to debt.

Anyway it is all over. I have no urges or compulsion or even thoughts about gambling again and haven't had for a long time.

Here are a few things I wanted to share...

1) Don't expect things to change if you don't. Of course you should put all the blocks in place and if possible hand over finances to a trusted family member or friend BUT also make changes to your life style. Don't go to the same places. Get a new job. If you gamble on sport stop watching or listening to it. Find things to fill your time. Be active. Get away from computer screens. You don't get over an addiction by just stopping. You recover by creating a new life where it is easier to not gamble. If you don't create a new life, then all the factors that brought you to gambling will catch up with you again!

2)There are huge financial dividends to stopping. Every month I have so much disposable income which previously went straight to bookies. If my car breaks down I can pay to fix it. I can take my wife and son to Paris in March. I can support my wife with bills and other finances whereas in the past she had to shoulder all the burden My point is NOW EVERY MONTH FEELS LIKE A WIN. I stopped 90% of the stresses of my life by stopping. Now I have a permanent smile on my face and a healthy bank balance.

3) This all takes time so be patient. I have now come so far and felt such benefits and joy that I will not risk this. I could only get to this point through months of abstinence and leading a different life even though I was in debt and tempted to take the easy route and dive back into the addiction. How many times did I think if "I only had stopped after a big loss or win or whenever then by now I would have been fine and solvent." Well eventually I did stop and make that moment now. Carpe Diem! Now I live the life I knew was always possible because I stopped and looked forward.

4) Don't dwell on losses. Not easy but crucial. This also takes time. So for me I don't focus on the fact that I lost 0000s over 25 years because on the upside I now have 2 years of £ that I DIDN'T lose and things are only going to get better.

Best of luck. Make this your year. Life is a beautiful precious thing. Gambling nearly destroyed me and my family but it didn't and now every day I am a winner.

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Posted : 11th January 2019 11:39 am
Loxxie
(@loxxie)

Great post....all very true...
Well done to you. ..enjoy every moment x

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Posted : 11th January 2019 1:33 pm
Lil30
(@lil30)

Thanks for sharing this, this is exactly the kind of thing I need to focus on.

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Posted : 12th January 2019 7:31 am
Byfreshedd
(@byfreshedd)

I’m a student and recently Ive been going casino after nights out & winning loads of extra money from roulette I played two days ago after a night out an went up to xxk profit but in the space of 1 hour I lost it all & my own money. I feel disgusting but from the way I bet I feel like it was certain that if I kept that profit and went to the casino again it the same thing would happen eventually so if I quit now it won’t happen in the future and I’ll get a life lesson from this. Has anyone got any advice? Thanks,

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Posted : 17th March 2019 2:03 pm
holycrosser
(@holycrosser)

What a fantastic post from the OP, such an inspiration and I will use this every day to create a new me, I think that is the big key to many, it’s deffo me, I need new stuff in my life, I never gamble when I’m busy...when I go on holiday I never even think about it, it’s the bedrock of my recovery and thank you for posting it.

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Posted : 18th March 2019 10:29 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

Byfreshedd wrote:

I’m a student and recently Ive been going casino after nights out & winning loads of extra money from roulette I played two days ago after a night out an went up to xxk profit but in the space of 1 hour I lost it all & my own money. I feel disgusting but from the way I bet I feel like it was certain that if I kept that profit and went to the casino again it the same thing would happen eventually so if I quit now it won’t happen in the future and I’ll get a life lesson from this. Has anyone got any advice? Thanks,

Yes. Ban yourself from that casino and others. Ones that you have never been to. Just do it. Now. Consider yourself lucky. Ban yourself from all roulette anywhere. Bookies. Phones etc. I cannot begin to tell you and explain how much of a horrible road it is in Life.

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Posted : 19th March 2019 12:19 am
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