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Day 28, do i finally open up to my family?  


Afternoon all, i am proud to say that today i am a month (28 days) GF. This is the first time since around 17 years old that i have done this amount of time and i couldn't be happier. 

The only issue i have is whether or not i should open up to my family? I have been with my partner for 13 years. We have a young son together who is the apple of my eye. I love my partner more than life itself. I have been through this situation before about 5 years ago. My partner found out what i had been doing, i went to GA and i promised that i would never gamble again, that lasted all of about 5 minutes. I know if i tell her she will leave me. I don't want to be a part time dad and my life at the moment is the best it has ever been, but i feel so GUILTY, i feel if i open up a huge weight will be lifted and i can stop feeling the way i do.

Should i tell her and risk it or keep quiet and struggle on my own?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance.



Posted : 7th October 2019 12:31 pm

I told my husband everything, it was so difficult at the time, I wrote him a letter so I could explain everything without any interruptions and then we discussed it. I ll not lie, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but he is so understanding, it your partner loves you, she will stick by you no matter what. I am 42 gf today and not even looking back now. Good luck.

Posted : 7th October 2019 3:21 pm
Posted by: AndyGez

My partner found out what i had been doing, i went to GA and i promised that i would never gamble again, that lasted all of about 5 minutes.

Hello bro

So you weren't ready to give up gambling last time... Fair enough.

Are you ready this time? Are you serious about change this time? It's all well and good 'telling' her and your family about your will and desire to give up the ghost this time, but what have you actually 'done' in pursuit of giving up the ghost?

Let your actions do the talking mate. Talk is cheap in the gamblers world. If you can back up your confessions with bona-fide actions then who knows, the odds may finally sway in your favour for once...


Best of luck ✌️✊

Posted : 7th October 2019 6:33 pm

I'm on day 24 gf I am a secret gambler I'm serious this time but I have no intentions of telling anyone I've gambled I just want to stop and that's it eventually in years to come I might say if it will help anyone else but I've a lot of work to do yet good luck and well done 

Posted : 7th October 2019 9:02 pm

I'm also a secret gambler and like you I've no intention of telling anyone and I'm 72 days gf I think to myself whatever works best and at min I can't cope with anyone knowing x


Posted : 24th November 2019 4:20 pm

Hi I've been a secret gambler  for several years and have mounted up a lot of debt, nearly 3 weeks ago i told my family everything. Yes they were upset but now understand I am so happy i  told them, now they deal with all my money and I just have enough to see the week out, on Friday I have a appointment with  a NHS therapist to talk about my problems, so what I'm saying is that there is help out there you just have to ask. Thanks for reading 

Posted : 24th November 2019 7:05 pm
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