I finally made the confession to my partner tonight as I knew it was coming and I had to get the weight off my shoulders once and for all.
A bit of background, we have been together for 3 years nearly and she is nearly 20 weeks pregnant. I am 28 and have had issues since I was 17 which I am currently at my wits end with and don’t know how much more I could take which has resulted in my ‘fessing up’ so to speak in order to save myself and hopefully my relationship.
I had to tell her over the phone initially, which wouldn’t have been my choice really but I just had to get it out. She exploded which was to be expected really and said she didn’t want me or the baby and for me to stay away, she has insisted I tell my parents which I have told my mum and brother who did go mad but then turned supportive.
She won’t talk to me at the minute and has told me she’s no where near it. Not sure what to do now.
A bit of an update....
The other half did go mad, which was expected and at first I didn’t think we would make it or she would want to carry on..
however I came home and spoke to her about it and explained everything to her and was open and honest about things as I needed to be to be free myself of the weight but in order to get things straight properly
She is going to take control of the finances for the foreseeable and I will get an allowance... this may even become a permanent arrangement but she says she loves me and wants to be family which I will be eternally grateful for. I told her I’d do what it takes fix things
At present I’ve self excluded from everywhere, casinos and bookies etc and gave up financial control. I do still feel quite low but I can see a way through.
Making the confession is hard enough, when you then follow that up with relinquishing control of your finances it can almost feel like you are a child that can’t be trusted again.
the trust issue will be there now, it is for me with my wife, but things like trust can be regained.
as you say, you are grateful that she’s not jumped ship, and wants to be a family with you, now you are free you cab fully embrace it!
well done for getting this far