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Spendlikewater84
(@spendlikewater84)

Hey all

Something tragic has happened. I don't really want to write it all over here, but in the mixed up grief I feel I have the strongest desire to gamble EVER.  I don't know who else to talk to so I'm reaching out here. To say the least I'm devastated and I feel guilty for wanting to gamble when I should be concentrating on grieving. I just feel so incredibly sad and need something to "paper the cracks" I guess.  Sorry for my rambling on. 177 days gf....just shows you should never be complacent!!

A very upset Spend 😭 xx 

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Posted : 11th March 2020 8:46 am
PICA
 PICA
(@pica)

You have done brilliantly for being GF.

Surround yourself with people and the support you need to get through this difficult time with the gambling addiction on the table. These times make you very vulnerable. 

And as you start seeing the light at the end of this tunnel you will feel much stronger and confident in having raised your resistance level.

Don't let your urge to gamble get the better of you. Please stay strong.

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Posted : 11th March 2020 8:59 am
Golfkid46
(@golfkid46)

Really sorry for your loss, death is obviously the extreme but so many people use set backs as a reason to gamble again , we all have fallouts with people unexpected bills loss of jobs the list is endless but afraid is life , we in the main can’t control A lot of what happens to us.

One thing we can control is the determination and desire not to gamble you are doing so well , c**P happens and more will follow in life so be in a strong position to deal with it by not gambling and having all the extra stress that adds to our lives. Good luck

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Posted : 11th March 2020 10:23 am
Forum admin
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Admin

Hi,

Sorry to hear about the bereavement in your family.  Life experiences like bereavement can be triggering for some people.  Please contact the helpline on 0808 8020 133 which is open 24/7 for support and information if you would like additional support at this difficult time. 

Best Wishes

Clare

Forum Admin

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Posted : 11th March 2020 11:40 am
Boo radley
(@boo-radley)
Posted by: Spendlikewater84

Hey all

Something tragic has happened. I don't really want to write it all over here, but in the mixed up grief I feel I have the strongest desire to gamble EVER.  I don't know who else to talk to so I'm reaching out here. To say the least I'm devastated and I feel guilty for wanting to gamble when I should be concentrating on grieving. I just feel so incredibly sad and need something to "paper the cracks" I guess.  Sorry for my rambling on. 177 days gf....just shows you should never be complacent!!

A very upset Spend 😭 xx 

Hello spend its boo.. I'm so sorry to read this.. You sound you are bring pulled in all directions.. I can't commit to chat today for long as work commits.. But talk to helpline. 

Life is never easy is it.. These tense and tender times test us 

My love and thoughts 

Boo 😘😘😘

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Posted : 11th March 2020 12:37 pm
Johnny57
(@johnny57)

Upset can cause you to escape from your grief but rarely solves the problem.

Try to not gamble through this upsetting time

best wishes

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Posted : 11th March 2020 2:53 pm
c43h
 c43h
(@c43h)

Sorry to hear this. If anything reality will come back after playing and will hit harder or less hard depending on what you decide. The history shows that the fix is not worth it. Not 1 min of it will help as you can not stay in that zone for more than a limited period of time.

Best

C

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Posted : 11th March 2020 3:34 pm
Spendlikewater84
(@spendlikewater84)

Morning

Thanks all for your kind words. Well I don't know where I got the inner strength from yesterday not to gamble.  I know your right, grief isn't a excuse to go backwards.  Maybe I'm stronger than I give myeself credit for.

Xxx

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Posted : 12th March 2020 8:40 am
Spendlikewater84
(@spendlikewater84)

@boo-radley no it really isn't 😭💔 xx

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Posted : 12th March 2020 8:41 am
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