Hi so im 40 married and 2 kids aged 6 and 9. in the past had a blip in 2005, 2009 and now this year. so 2nd incident whilst married. Wife has crohns, had thyroid cancer last aug all removed and took overdose in april. Really struggled to cope and thats what brought the demon back i think. im not blaming anyone but me as my choice. took big steps monday. admitted to wife, we are seeing mortgage advisor, gamban on phone, gamstop, first call from Councillor today to match me up. Going to GA meeting friday. But just had blazing row with my wife. she says we need space but we lovd each other alot. it's hard x
Hi. You told her. You have taken steps. That's the main thing. Look at it as a massive positive. It's going to be really difficult for a while before it starts getting better. I'm going to write a post about how I lost my long term gf because of this illness.
Dear @karlwales80 ,
Thank you for sharing your story on the Forum, I am so sorry to read what a tough time both you and your wife have been through. Such traumatic events as these, can indeed be a trigger for gambling as it can often be used as a form of escapism.
On a more positive note, it was great to see you are taking steps to beat this with practical strategies like the blocking as well as emotional support with counselling and getting financial advice with the mortgage.
Relationships can often suffer with the stresses and strains of living with addiction. But please know that there is always an adviser on the end of the phone willing to listen to either of you, 24/7. Tel: 0808 802 0133. If you prefer not to talk, please feel free to chat live on the netline. We would be more than happy to signpost to some relationship support if you feel it would help.
Please continue to post on here. You're never alone.
All the very best.
Keely.
Forum Admin.
Thank you for taking the time. Lovely to be on her. Pleased to say Module 1 completed tonight. Long road but i will get through this for my family x
First gamblers anonymous tonight. proud of myself. Met 3 new guys in a small session and got so much out of it. sjall steps i know but I DID NOT GAMBLE TODAY x
I would say a big step going to GA admitting that you need help, now the baby steps day by day learning, sharing ,caring enough to help others. You will find one meeting you will say something that will resonate with someone and they will share experiences out of their recovery in turn helping you to challenge yourself. I have found myself crying,laughing, sharing a lot,sharing a little. Last week one of the guys said that I have more of a glow look happier.....and I am. Gambling is never the answer, I'm never going to gamble again because I'm keeping my guard up and if I have a thought or an urge I share in my next meeting these people are now friends that I'm on a very long journey with
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