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SophieLB
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Cant believe I have gambled again! After getting hooked on slots last year and having to come clean to my partner I swore I would never do it again!! 🙁 I feel ashamed 

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Posted : 23rd April 2019 11:46 pm
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Hi Sophie,

Welcome to the Forum!

It can be difficult to relapse but if you have managed to stay away from gambling for a while, you will already know of some tools which can help you go forward. Maybe you would like to talk to us on the Helpline on 0808 80 20 133 or the Netline here https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/

Both services are open from 8 am to midnight every day!

There is a way forward.

Kind wishes

Gabriele

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Posted : 24th April 2019 11:32 am
Pedro61
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Hi Sophie

Know how you feel, thought I was strong enough to just stop but can’t do it. Also feel ashamed at not being strong enough, first time been on something like this.

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Posted : 24th April 2019 12:48 pm
DeterminedDan
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Hi Sophie, hope you’re doing ok. I don’t think you’ll find one person on this forum that hasn’t ever relapsed, so you’re in good company. The key is how you bounce back from it. What tools do you have in place to achieve that? 

May I suggest GamStop? It’s an absolute gamechanger if you want to get out of the habit of gambling online. It will c*t out all avenues for you to gamble online.

Wishing you the best of luck, Sophie. Let us know how you’re getting on. 

Dan

 

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Posted : 24th April 2019 1:03 pm
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Hi Sophie 😊 .                                    I agree with Dan it’s so easy to get sucked back in again .               Try not to beat yourself up too much and instead look on it as something that you'll learn and grow stronger from ?  Do you feel able to speak to your partner again and maybe ask for his help ? Maybe giving him financial control for a while or allowing him transparency regard to your accounts may help in showing him just how much you really do want to stop? .                                     All the best for now and we’ll talk soon I’m sure 😊.                             Alan 

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Posted : 24th April 2019 1:45 pm
sha123
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Hi, Sophie I know just how you feel, I hope your feeling better, those slots are just horrible I play the same stupid game over and over why? because it paid out twice yet I have lost a lot more then it has paid, and the constant gambling adverts don't help advertising that same slot I constantly lose on, I  promised my  partner as well I would stop but I haven't he just keeps saying what is wrong with you? why are you doing this? your never win etc I know all this but just can not stop. He was patient at first but now he is f*d up with it all.

Take care Sharon x 

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Posted : 25th April 2019 1:02 pm
gadaveuk
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Posted by: SophieLB

Cant believe I have gambled again! After getting hooked on slots last year and having to come clean to my partner I swore I would never do it again!! 🙁 I feel ashamed 

Hi Sophie

Thank you for opening up and letting people know that you have an addition.

That is a sign of strength admitting it to your self. Well done.

Guilt shame remorse indicates that we have a conscience which is based up on spiritual values which for me is non religious.

I tend to think that living in pain is not healthy.

Yet by being consumed by an addition or obsession is not healthy.

Because of panic I would say or do any thing even tell people what they wanted to hear to avoid facing myself.

Being in the recovery program I would exchange unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.

Because I went against my own conscience I was not hurting other people by betrayal but I was also hurting myself.

So by coming clean and being honest about our vulnerability  we are being honest with our self.

The addictions and obsessions were a form of escape for me.

I was escaping people life and situations I could not cope with.

The addictions and obsessions indicated that I had certain emotional triggers.

Often people will give up or abstain from one addiction and take up another addiction or obsession.

In the recovery program people will give therapies and talk about their experiences in their life.

I am anon religious person yet I do embrace spiritual value in my life today.

I do hope that you take the recovery program seriously it certainly saves people lives in many ways.

Love and peace to every one
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham

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Posted : 25th April 2019 4:10 pm
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