Help with communication with my gambler re child maintenance (preferably soft options)

Thanks for the reply, most of the joint friends we had are no more due to her behaviour prior to acknowledging her addiction. Parents are gone and the friends we have left are loyal/ bias to each of us as we’ve been friends prior to the relationship. She hasn’t told most people including her employer of her addiction and puts her leaving the family home down to being unhappy due me being controlling and manipulative...ironic

Hi Ben keeping secrets and skirting around the problem allows addiction to continue. Compulsive gambling is an emotional illness. She needs to choose herself whether she seeks help. 

You should do what's right for you and your child. Her employer should be sympathetic and help. There are official routes you can take which will deduct maintenance at source. It won't specify if she's a gambler. 

Keeping secrets keeps a gambler sick. Involving friends is nothing to do with them. The downward spiral will continue. If you act it might be the wake up call she needs.

find a gamanon meeting there maybe someone there who has personal experience of this issue. There is also online meeting Sunday night 8-9. Go to the website.

thanks for your words

Thanks, I’ll definitely consider this, I was hoping to avoid it but, I know deep down that a formal intervention is my only option.