Boyfriend has gambling problem on fantasy sport sites

Hi everyone,

I recently found out my boyfriend of 5 years gambled away his entire savings in just 3 weeks. Now 3 weeks prior I knew he made two small bets and won but I told him this wouldn’t end well and he should stop. He reassured me he wouldn’t do it again. Then he came clean after losing all the money as he broke down crying admitting he felt like a loser and was now having suicidal thoughts. He works in the carpenters union but is currently unemployed. He receives unemployment for now but I encourage him to look for a job as that will run out. Although he says he doesn’t  want to apply to just any job because 1 he doesn’t know what he wants to do and 2 he doesn’t want to take lower pay. I think he needs to just get out there and start somewhere. He is taking his real estate exam June 25th but hasn’t applied to any real estate jobs either. I’m a realistic person and I know many people struggle to have their real estate career take off. We live together so ultimately I’m afraid he won’t make rent or is still gambling to put in his half. It breaks my heart obviously that he is going through such a depression and so much on his shoulders right now. He has told me to leave several times because he knows I deserve better but when I said “I see a future with you but the financial situation worries me” he got defensive, assumed I was breaking up with him, and walked out of the room for several hours. I can see him on ESPN often throughout the day and I have suggested in the nicest way possible that it could tempt him and maybe he should be careful with how much time he’s on there. He agreed…but still does it all the time. I also notice weird mood swings sometimes like the other night he randomly got out of bed and left the apartment to go to a lounge room in the building and didn’t go to bed til 2Am. I asked him why the next morning and he said it’s cooler in there and easier to sleep because he had so much on his mind he couldn’t sleep…but our room pumps AC. I don’t know if I am going crazy or if he is hiding it from me again. I am scared for our future and I just don’t know what to do. Especially since we have to notify our landlord by end of August and I am not so sure I feel comfortable continuing to live with him due to the finances. Does anyone have any insight? I would really appreciate it. Thank you!