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Bordercolliemum
(@bordercolliemum)

Hi all, I’m new to this. After chatting to an advisor online who introduced me to this, I wanted to speak to family and friends who are going through or had been through the same experience as me. 

 

My partner of seven years and I share a 11 month old baby. We have lots of ups and downs from the impact of his gambling addiction which I found out a few years into our relationship. I never forget that heart sinking feeling when I checked my bank account that £2k had gone to a gambling site by my partner. I thought things are all better now that we have a house a family. Fast forward a few years and a few payday loans, I thought we were in a better place. He had recently told me that had started seeing a counsellor about his addiction. He has been more open and honest about how he feels and is spending more quality time with our baby and I. Until last night he broke down with his head shaved and woke us up in the middle of the night and said he had a relapse. His drinks didn’t help him to think clearly and I understand that the fact that I don’t get on with his sibling might have been an issue too. 

 

He asks for help to find a rehab place. But I was wondering if you guys have any previous experience that you have found practical and useful? And if you don’t mind sharing please? 

Thank you. 

This topic was modified 1 week ago by Bordercolliemum
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Posted : 8th September 2019 11:57 am
Forum admin
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Dear @bordercolliemum ,

Welcome to the forum and congratulations on your first post. This forum can be a great source of help and support for people dealing with the impact of gambling addiction. 

It sounds as though you are dealing with a really difficult situation and   you are being very supportive towards your partner, but it is also really important that you are also supported through this, and this forum is a good place for that to happen. 

It is great to hear that your partner is already seeking help with his gambling addiction. He might find it useful to contact us through the National Gambling Helpline on 0808 8020 133, for additional advice and support.

 

 

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Posted : 8th September 2019 9:52 pm
Joe-90
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I would recommend you looking up your nearest GA meeting asap and getting him to attend. He will get lots of support there, you need to look up Gam Anon.

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Posted : 8th September 2019 11:08 pm
Bordercolliemum
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He is going to counselling every two weeks but told me today that he wants to cancel the next appointment. I feel so deflated. 

I have had a referral for myself to see a counsellor too. I really don’t want my partner to be sucked back into the hole again. I really don’t want to come to a point where I have to kick him out of mine and our child’s life. 

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Posted : 10th September 2019 5:39 pm
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