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Lethe

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10.12.2016

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16-01-2019 You're not overthinking. There's no such thing as too much info when you're living with a gambler. H…
15-01-2019 Hi Sorry to see this. Quick answer is it can be done but the gambler has to want it and then keep on…
15-01-2019 I don't think everyone is programmed to become a gambler. I can't follow the patterns in slot games …
14-01-2019 Deflecting any part of the blame is manipulation and self-deceit. If your wife doesn't want to discu…
14-01-2019 Sorry to see this. It's rubbish when everything comes to light but even though you are reeling you a…
14-01-2019 The money has gone. It's not coming back. Brooding about what you could have done with it is pointle…
12-01-2019 I don't think Mr L has forgiven himself for what he did. He still felt immense guilt last time I ask…
12-01-2019 You say all your blocks are in place. Have you offered either your wife or your mother control of yo…
11-01-2019 He understands perfectly well that money earmarked for the household has to be replaced if he helps …
11-01-2019 The bald truth is you can't help him until he wants to be helped and that may be tomorrow, it may be…
10-01-2019 Hi SM Short answer to your question I believe is 'yes'. IME the most driven are those who have gambl…
06-01-2019 Matched betting is a gateway.It allows the industry to showcase their more lucrative (for them, not …
06-01-2019 Well done on being honest. So many can't even bring themselves to take that step. My advice now woul…
06-01-2019 I don't understand any of it. Never have but if Mr L should gamble again I'd rather know about it no…
06-01-2019 So you've identified why you wanted to numb things out for a while. Now, while this is fresh in your…
05-01-2019 Think about why you were looking. Alongside mechanical barriers you will also need to identify and a…
04-01-2019 FZ doesn't appear to have been gambling for an overly long time from his original post so I'm not su…
04-01-2019 It might be worth thinking about why you might have been even slightly bothered when anyone scored i…
04-01-2019 Given his history of lies and deceit it's highly unlikely it's the only time. He doesn't want to giv…
03-01-2019 Hi again There's always going to be an excuse not to do it. I can appreciate the anticipation of com…
03-01-2019 Having been on the receiving end of unending lies and manipulation I would say please don't add to i…
03-01-2019 If you've been browsing here a while you will have seen the standard advice on the best ways to bloc…
23-12-2018 Off the top of my head he can: Self exclude preferably permanently from every gambling account he ha…
22-12-2018 Hi again Promises aren't enough. He needs to show concrete action. There are things he can do which …
22-12-2018 Sorry to see this. It's a club no-one wants to join. First thing to say is you're not stupid. All yo…
21-12-2018 Sorry to see this. Echo the advice above. He has to want this for himself. He has to do this himself…
19-12-2018 Gambling isn't the way to fast cash. It's the way to lose cash fast. You've quickly recognised you h…
18-12-2018 What are you looking for on this forum? If you want to stop gambling there's plenty of advice here o…
14-12-2018 Sorry to see this. Unfortunately what you want (for him to stop) is out of your control. He is the o…
13-12-2018 Convincing yourself you're 'testing' your resolve boils down to keeping the door ajar. It might be w…
12-12-2018 Pressuring you into any kind of decision is manipulation and they are all experts at that. They very…
10-12-2018 Yes. Change the card. He will tell you what you want to hear and you will want to believe it but it …
09-12-2018 If he really wants to quite he can get the support he needs from GA. Being a single parent isn't a g…
07-12-2018 You can make the time to gamble but you can't make the time for GA or even to hand in a self exclusi…
05-12-2018 Hi Sorry to see this. Unfortunately a CG who isn't ready to give up will tell you anything to get yo…
30-11-2018 What changes have you made? It's possible to virtually eliminate your access to cash and gambling wi…
27-11-2018 Willpower alone isn't enough. If it was there wouldn't be a need for this site. What blocks are you …
27-11-2018 Going by your ticker you are some four months or so gf? In my own case the dust hadn't even started …
25-11-2018 Hi again CG's are very secretive about their habit. Very often we don't know how out of control thin…
24-11-2018 Hi Belford There are several red flags there. Stealing, borrowing, and emotional distance are all cl…
23-11-2018 It's only seen as entertainment because the industry have been selling it relentlessly as such for t…
20-11-2018 Sorry to see this. First thing to say is it is his debt and that's exactly how it should work. It's …
18-11-2018 What reaction are you looking for when you post yet another complaint that gambling isn't going your…
18-11-2018 Please don't agreee to selling your home. It's a bailout and bailouts don't help in the long term. T…
17-11-2018 Hi Sarah I saw positive change in Mr L amazingly quickly after he stopped. Glimpses at first then wi…
15-11-2018 See receipts for anything he says he's spent the cash on. Even small change can be enough fuel to ke…
15-11-2018 Get credit reports from all three agencies via Noddle (Callcredit), Clearscore (Equifax) and Experia…
14-11-2018 Firstly you're not complicit in what he's done. All you've done is trust someone who should have had…
14-11-2018 Having lived with the fallout of an addiction that wasn't mine for far too many long hard years and …
13-11-2018 Have you heard the saying 'I haven't done that...yet'? Don't underestimate where this leads if you d…

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