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Cynical wife

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23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

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14-12-2018 Re loving him with all your heart: do you love him as he actually is, an active gambler with all the…
14-12-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening but I would suggest that you’re operating from a few false premis…
12-12-2018 I think it’s interesting that your title refers to “our life” in the singular and not “our l…
09-12-2018 Yes, you need a new card. …
03-12-2018 Focusing on the money misses the point. The money problems are simply the financial consequences of …
02-12-2018 Ok, so after ten years of addiction and misery, AH received her money back (“winning” is a compl…
02-12-2018 FWIW, I think the way that this tread has been hijacked is disgraceful. The original poster demonstr…
21-11-2018 Morning, The answer to your question as how many times you “have to” go through this is once, an…
20-11-2018 In one sense you’re right, that effective blocking would stop you from being able to gamble but it…
15-11-2018 You’re stuck in your belief that he’s a good person who loves you really in his own way. He may …
14-11-2018 In one sense it’s irrelevant whether you stay or go. At the moment, would you know know how to rel…
11-11-2018 No snitching or telling teacher of you but it’s a glitch that yours is one of a few threads which …
11-11-2018 Managing the finances has a few purposes. It can give you peace of mind to have the family money req…
11-11-2018 Hi, Eva, It’s one of four in the F&F section, MGR has also posted about it in feedback?  CW …
11-11-2018 I go to two Twelve Step Fellowships and I have had counselling and I am in a better place. Not that …
11-11-2018 Hi, Admin, please can you move this thread out of Family and Friends? It’s one of four that are in…
07-11-2018 Wish you better soon. …
07-11-2018 Telling you what you want to hear isn’t support, it’s enabling. Killing with “kindness”.  T…
05-11-2018 Well, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get the same results that you’ve always had. …
05-11-2018 Interesting title because it’s another of those rhetorical statements that actually isn’t rhetor…
05-11-2018 There’s a difference between abstinence from gambling and recovery from gambling addiction. Gambli…
04-11-2018 You’re addicted to the process of placing a bet and you’re choosing to keep on doing it (ie usin…
04-11-2018 A few thoughts: Taking the phychic’s predictions about further and future problems with a grain of…
30-10-2018 At the end of the day, Jen, your recovery is about healing yourself. Something in you is attracted t…
16-10-2018 The three Cs of AlAnon: I didn’t Cause it, I can’t Control it, I can’t Cure it. He’s gamblin…
13-10-2018 Ok, you’ve supported him for years and it’s led you to where you are now. That’s where YOU  a…
10-10-2018 Morning, Best advice is to get a babysitter and start regular GamAnon and CoDA meetings. At the mome…
10-10-2018 Hello, Tiggy, You might like to create your own thread, if you click on Family & Friends and the…
08-10-2018 Sorry to see this. No evil on your part but you are so completely subsumed within your boyfriend and…
18-09-2018 You’re quite right to be scared of your future together. It will involve ever increasing financial…
16-09-2018 Loud alarm bells here. He is a compulsive gambler, an addict and he bets because he’s a compulsive…
06-09-2018 Your recovery is about learning how to take care of yourself.  That means doing what it takes to ge…
02-09-2018 Sorry to hear what’s going on but time for a reality check: it isn’t that he “had” a “litt…
28-08-2018 There’s a saying about putting the same time and energy into giving up gambling as was put into ga…
15-08-2018 The wives and girlfriends at the meeting aren’t in a better position than you and they don’t lac…
10-08-2018 What exactly is it that stops you from leaving the WhatsApp groups and deleting the chats? CW …
06-08-2018 The thought process of addiction isn’t exactly normal or healthy, is it? If you take the word “d…
30-07-2018 Glad for you Kelly. Take care of yourself. CW …
29-07-2018 Morning, I’m sorry to hear what’s happening but I would regard it as a wake up call.  You’ve …
18-07-2018 Hi, Just saying that what you need to do doesn’t depend on what he does or doesn’t do, either po…
18-07-2018 Comment about spam now deleted. …
18-07-2018 Sorry to be harsh but how does him extressing an interest in GamCare change your project to work on …
17-07-2018 My heart always sinks at the idea of anybody making an active addict in denial sit down and talk/ope…
17-07-2018 It’s not about whether he or anyone else thinks that you’re worth it. Change will come when you …
17-07-2018 Morning, It’s interesting that you say how your whole life has been about other people. That’s a…
15-07-2018 At the moment, it seems that everything is about him or more precisely, about what you think he need…
09-07-2018 My husband had dreadful mood swings. They didn’t immediately stop when he stopped but over time it…
08-07-2018   Know that gambling is an emotional not a financial problem. Wanting to use is wanting to use, the…
04-07-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening, best advice is to start regular GamAnon meetings and also CoDA mee…
03-07-2018 Sorry to hear what’s going on but the only way that your life is going to change is if you start r…

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