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Cynical wife

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23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

Date Post
18-09-2018 You’re quite right to be scared of your future together. It will involve ever increasing financial…
16-09-2018 Loud alarm bells here. He is a compulsive gambler, an addict and he bets because he’s a compulsive…
06-09-2018 Your recovery is about learning how to take care of yourself.  That means doing what it takes to ge…
02-09-2018 Sorry to hear what’s going on but time for a reality check: it isn’t that he “had” a “litt…
28-08-2018 There’s a saying about putting the same time and energy into giving up gambling as was put into ga…
15-08-2018 The wives and girlfriends at the meeting aren’t in a better position than you and they don’t lac…
10-08-2018 What exactly is it that stops you from leaving the WhatsApp groups and deleting the chats? CW …
06-08-2018 The thought process of addiction isn’t exactly normal or healthy, is it? If you take the word “d…
30-07-2018 Glad for you Kelly. Take care of yourself. CW …
29-07-2018 Morning, I’m sorry to hear what’s happening but I would regard it as a wake up call.  You’ve …
18-07-2018 Hi, Just saying that what you need to do doesn’t depend on what he does or doesn’t do, either po…
18-07-2018 Comment about spam now deleted. …
18-07-2018 Sorry to be harsh but how does him extressing an interest in GamCare change your project to work on …
17-07-2018 My heart always sinks at the idea of anybody making an active addict in denial sit down and talk/ope…
17-07-2018 It’s not about whether he or anyone else thinks that you’re worth it. Change will come when you …
17-07-2018 Morning, It’s interesting that you say how your whole life has been about other people. That’s a…
15-07-2018 At the moment, it seems that everything is about him or more precisely, about what you think he need…
09-07-2018 My husband had dreadful mood swings. They didn’t immediately stop when he stopped but over time it…
08-07-2018   Know that gambling is an emotional not a financial problem. Wanting to use is wanting to use, the…
04-07-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening, best advice is to start regular GamAnon meetings and also CoDA mee…
03-07-2018 Sorry to hear what’s going on but the only way that your life is going to change is if you start r…
30-06-2018 Sound like the issues go beyond gambling, here are two people in a relationship and both engaged in …
27-06-2018 Take ownership of what you’ve done and the extent of what you’ve done and the effect you’ve ha…
24-06-2018 Hi, Sorry to see what’s happening but the harsh reality is that you’re not the one placing the b…
21-06-2018 Morning, Re his threats, point him firmly in the direction of help but don’t take on any obligatio…
04-06-2018 Your mother needs help as much as you do if the dysfunction is ever to be addressed. As a compulsive…
04-06-2018 Hi, I’d urge GamAnon and/or CoDA. It’s also about changing your responses and learning how to pr…
28-05-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening. Re trust, the person who you should be trusting in the first insta…
28-05-2018 Chasing losses is universal amongst gamblers, it’s one of the signs that the compulsion is getting…
27-05-2018 Gambling is an emotional issue, the financial consequences occur because using - gambling - always r…
27-05-2018 She’s supposed to be an equal life partner, not your crutch, your mother or your enabler. Everythi…
27-05-2018 Hi, I’m married to a gambler who didn’t tell and the children and I eventually found out the har…
17-05-2018 Did you stay long term gamble free after one to one? …
13-05-2018 How come this thread has become about financial loss? Surely that misses the point.  Gambling does …
07-05-2018 I wish you well, Stephen but at the end of the day, it’s actions that speak louder than words, how…
02-05-2018 Part of the manipulation involves exaggerating what will happen if you don’t pay up. Remember that…
02-05-2018 If you can see for yourself that your financial “help” is simply paying for his gambling, then i…
30-04-2018 As a non gambler, I’m not convinced by or about stats...  Recovery isn’t for those who want it,…
27-04-2018 The Fellowships work for those who believe in God. They work equally well for those who don’t beli…
27-04-2018 Access to the bookies with Dad and the 2p arcade machines at the seaside etc started a lot of gambli…
26-04-2018 If you move the money in time, and say clearly that you are doing it because she is a compulsive gam…
26-04-2018 Gambling and addictions are emotional problems, not financial. With gambling, it’s money that gets…
25-04-2018 The only person who decides how you live your life is you. You choose what you’re going to do or p…
22-04-2018 You can’t overcome his addiction for him. You might ask yourself why you’re so determined to try…
22-04-2018 Hi, Sorry to hear what’s happening. A couple of thoughts? It sounds as if you need your decision a…
18-04-2018 There are two sides to him - him and the addiction. The addiction takes him over to different degree…
05-04-2018 GamAnon doesn’t cost and is available in London. …
02-04-2018 Somewhere along the line you’ve learned the wrong lessons, no criticism, join the club. Someone ha…
02-04-2018 HolHol, how can someone who’s busy gambling and who has lied to you really be such a fantastic lif…
02-04-2018 The problems of addiction and co-addiction run deep, they’re serious emotional issues that take a …

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