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Cynical wife

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23.06.2015

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Long term married, family growing up, last summer (2015) found out the hard way that my husband has been gambling for many years.

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14-02-2019 There’s no magic formula for getting the strength but Twelve Step meetings are vital. Being with p…
14-02-2019 What someone else thinks of you isn’t your business. What you think of you does matter. KOKO. …
14-02-2019 Echo MGR that it takes two to tango in a dysfunctional relationship. The suggestion is that maybe yo…
14-02-2019 GamAnon meetings are for the gambler’s loved ones, best advice is to start going regularly. Also l…
13-02-2019 No judgment but actually you’re not tackling the gambling addiction at all.  Your call but there …
06-02-2019 He’s meant to be staying in my home so I can help him? Red flag. Why do you feel the need to help …
06-02-2019 Re joint responsibility, all I need to know is that the compulsion exists and is insidious, baffling…
06-02-2019 Nice to hear from you, Dan.  For me, I haven’t changed my view on this since I responded to the o…
06-02-2019 Your mother is encouraging you to return to abuse and what she is saying is nonsensical. However, yo…
05-02-2019 Thanks from me, too. It seems that eventually your mother did find GamAnon, having unloaded a non-ch…
02-02-2019 You’re using betting to self medicate, in the same way as any other compulsive gambler uses bettin…
30-01-2019 Morning, It sounds like you’re looking for “The Solution”, for what you can do to sort out his…
28-01-2019 I’m not insulting you but yes, staying through thick and thin sounds noble but actually it’s abo…
28-01-2019 Your responses throughout are as dysfunctional as his gambling. I would suggest that you are as sick…
28-01-2019 The industry has the moral low ground in the way that it actively tempts and draws in the vulnerable…
27-01-2019 Yes, well, I haven’t yet encountered anyone who didn’t feel foolish when the truth was revealed …
27-01-2019 One other comment: you are who you think you are. No lack of sympathy about your present nightmare b…
27-01-2019 By all means pay it off but it comes with a warning: what about next time? And the time after that? …
24-01-2019 If you read up on co-dependency, you’ll see that a general pattern is identified. Addicts do seek …
22-01-2019 The answer’s, “No.” And if you did get your money back, what then? CW …
20-01-2019 Hi, Cat, Sorry to see what’s happening. However, if you read round the forum, you’ll see that th…
18-01-2019 Russell Brand “Freedom from our Addictions”.  The Orange Book. The Big Book. And pretty much an…
16-01-2019 Be aware that you can’t stop him gambling if he so chooses. Blocks and barriers and limits to fina…
16-01-2019 One of the rules in GA and GamAnon is not to refer to specific sums of money because the effect of t…
16-01-2019 Don’t romanticise what your relationship was. Amid the crumbs of attention she gave you, she was e…
16-01-2019 Go to regular GamAnon and  CoDA meetings and also ask for the twelve counselling sessions available…
10-01-2019 The idea of rebuilding trust from those around you sounds encouraging but it’s a misleading romant…
04-01-2019 Your heart may indeed want to help him. I would suggest that is the nub of your problem (yours, not …
24-12-2018 Patty, get help for you - the helpline is open 8.00 to midnight. Escape via alcohol isn’t the answ…
23-12-2018 Tina, agree with MGR. You’re in long distance love with a fantasy and not a human being and I’d …
14-12-2018 Re loving him with all your heart: do you love him as he actually is, an active gambler with all the…
14-12-2018 Sorry to hear what’s happening but I would suggest that you’re operating from a few false premis…
12-12-2018 I think it’s interesting that your title refers to “our life” in the singular and not “our l…
09-12-2018 Yes, you need a new card. …
03-12-2018 Focusing on the money misses the point. The money problems are simply the financial consequences of …
02-12-2018 Ok, so after ten years of addiction and misery, AH received her money back (“winning” is a compl…
02-12-2018 FWIW, I think the way that this tread has been hijacked is disgraceful. The original poster demonstr…
21-11-2018 Morning, The answer to your question as how many times you “have to” go through this is once, an…
20-11-2018 In one sense you’re right, that effective blocking would stop you from being able to gamble but it…
15-11-2018 You’re stuck in your belief that he’s a good person who loves you really in his own way. He may …
14-11-2018 In one sense it’s irrelevant whether you stay or go. At the moment, would you know know how to rel…
11-11-2018 No snitching or telling teacher of you but it’s a glitch that yours is one of a few threads which …
11-11-2018 Managing the finances has a few purposes. It can give you peace of mind to have the family money req…
11-11-2018 Hi, Eva, It’s one of four in the F&F section, MGR has also posted about it in feedback?  CW …
11-11-2018 I go to two Twelve Step Fellowships and I have had counselling and I am in a better place. Not that …
11-11-2018 Hi, Admin, please can you move this thread out of Family and Friends? It’s one of four that are in…
07-11-2018 Wish you better soon. …
07-11-2018 Telling you what you want to hear isn’t support, it’s enabling. Killing with “kindness”.  T…
05-11-2018 Well, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get the same results that you’ve always had. …
05-11-2018 Interesting title because it’s another of those rhetorical statements that actually isn’t rhetor…

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