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Posted on:
Wed, 30/01/2019 - 20:39

Marcella

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2018-12-27

Feel your pain mate. Keep your chin up!

Posted on:
Thu, 31/01/2019 - 23:25

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Boro wrote:

No gambling. Life just boring but I prefer a boring life to gambling out of control and the feeling after losing a lot of money. Worst feeling in the world when you have lost everything 

Try not to focus too much on what life is like in this present moment if it's getting you down. Tell yourself that it has to get worse before it gets better as your body and mind 'detune' from the thrill of gambling. Ride it out and life will be beautiful, not boring.

Posted on:
Sat, 02/02/2019 - 01:08

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Hey mate

How are you? Just wondered how you been filling your time since your last post? Keeping busy and away from those machines? I hope so.

Posted on:
Sat, 02/02/2019 - 13:00

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Can’t see I have done much apart from work. But not touched the fobt

Posted on:
Sat, 02/02/2019 - 21:57

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

I'm glad to hear it mate.

Posted on:
Sun, 03/02/2019 - 13:40

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

No bets today. No going into betting shops to play on the fobt. 

Posted on:
Sun, 03/02/2019 - 17:27

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Well the urge was to strong. Been in betting shop today on the fobt was winning £* then you know what happens. Lost the lot apart from a £*. Had to come away with bit of money I had. But didn’t lose any of my money. What can I say I could tell lies and say I have not been in. But I always try and tell the truth 

Posted on:
Sun, 03/02/2019 - 17:44

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Still have no excess to large quantities of money so no harm done. April can’t come quick enough £2 stake a god send don’t play slots so never play them again.

Posted on:
Mon, 04/02/2019 - 12:47

Boro

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2012-07-01

Posted on:
Mon, 04/02/2019 - 16:38

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Do you think it's going to be like this for you until April then?

What I don't get is your need to gamble now you don't have access to large amounts of money... If you've only got the money you have in your pocket then what's the point? You're never going to win anything significant (in comparison to the amount you've lost) with just the money you have on you are you? It will just be peanuts for peanuts won't it (unless you are in fact carrying around larger sums of money?)

Or is not about the money for you? Is it more about the 'thrill' associated with gambling?

And if this is the case... Surely then the £2 stake won't make any difference to you? It will just be 'death by a thousand cuts' for you won't it?

Speaking from experience - the FOBT was only alluring to me when I had a deep pot of money to throw at it. I would never hit them up knowing that I only have the money I have on me. Because if it takes that off me I have nothing. And if this happens then I'm completely out of control and I wouldn't want to admit that to myself.

How much money are you carrying around on you Graeme? And can you justify the amount you are carrying?

Are you well and truly ready to quit gambling for good or do you enjoy it too much and don't have anything else exciting going on in your world to do so? (If this is the case... Add some excitement to your life that isn't gambling!)

Now I haven't been gambling for a bit I get a massive buzz from buying my son one of those marvel action figures... I'm sure you know this feeling from that Lego you bought your daughter...

Posted on:
Mon, 04/02/2019 - 16:41

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Boro wrote:

My daughters Lego friends came today. I have been buying her quite a few things lately because I was winning gambling. She still can have whatever she wants because I’m still not short of money even with the gambling I have been doing lately. So that will put a smile on her face the next time I see her . No gambling today or yesterday 

Posted on:
Mon, 04/02/2019 - 17:52

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Ei

Posted on:
Mon, 04/02/2019 - 18:33

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

I don't know man... Maybe only carry around minimal money that you need until April? Just an idea

Posted on:
Tue, 05/02/2019 - 20:31

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

No gambling today been at work all day. Just chilling listening to Newport v Middlesbrough 

Posted on:
Wed, 06/02/2019 - 06:45

NT

Joined:
2017-12-16

You mentioned that you are looking forward to the £2 stakes in April. 

Please be warned. I truly believe that gambling companies will do everything that they can to get around this and the details in my latest post proves this. Also, I have lost thousands of pounds in a few hours just by playing slots on a £2 stake.

Yes, the ruling is a good one. But, to me, it's only the first tiny step in eradicating the huge gambling problems that we have in our proud country. There is still a very long way to go.

NT

Posted on:
Wed, 06/02/2019 - 10:16

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Never played slots on them machines nt so won’t effect me. No interest in playing slots it’s alway been roulette. Should be taken out completely but that’s never going to happen. As we know nt a lot of these shops were opened so they can have an extra 4 fobt. So it’s obvious that they going to shut shops so they are going to try and get round it. I’m banned on all mayor online account plus have gamblock on me phone. So I’m pretty save with online. I have woke up in a miserable mood, need to snap out of it.

Posted on:
Wed, 06/02/2019 - 14:08

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Sorry to hear this mate. I hope your day gets better.

Posted on:
Thu, 07/02/2019 - 18:12

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

No gambling today. Not much more to say

Posted on:
Fri, 08/02/2019 - 14:32

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

No gambling today. Got a message off my ex my daughter mam. She needs £100 to pay a bill we don’t speak anymore but she got a nerve sending me a message asking for money. I give her the £100 because I felt guilty but then she started talking about she feeling depressed about having no money and a work colleague has died. I always want to help her because I still love her. 

Posted on:
Fri, 08/02/2019 - 14:49

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Boro wrote:

I always want to help her because I still love her. 

There's nothing wrong with being a good man mate... Fair play to you ;o)

Posted on:
Mon, 11/02/2019 - 12:59

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Not a bad weekend went out Saturday. Went out at 5 didn’t get in till 2:30 at 38 years old I can’t take it anymore. Spent half the day in bed yesterday sleeping it off. But it was one of the best night in a while. At work today still feel a bit ruff 

Posted on:
Fri, 15/02/2019 - 18:42

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Well gambled again lost £500.i was talking to a bloke who was playing on the fobt next to me. He put a lot of money in got it back and lost it again. He walked out as sick as anything. I walked out 5 mins later just as sick as him. The thing is when I’m playing on these fobt nothing else matter I’m just in a world of me own thinking the next spins going to be a winner. I just thought I’d let people know I’m not going to comment on here for a while. Need to try and break away from everything to do with gambling even this site 

Posted on:
Fri, 15/02/2019 - 21:59

A 9

Joined:
2018-08-31

Nothing wrong with the site Boro it's just that you won't stop doing what youv'e alway's done for the last 7 yrs on here ?. 

If you were totally serious that you wanted to give up gambling then you'd do whatever it took to achieve it , if you can't give up going in the bookies then give up having money around to fund it , everything's possible if you want it enough .

I wish you well mate whatever you decide but you can't expect anything to change without you changing first and that ain't gonna happen all the time you keep doing the same thing  ? 

All the best . 

Posted on:
Fri, 15/02/2019 - 22:59

Tomso

Joined:
2012-02-26

Boro,

Just read your earlier post. As someone who gambled as recently as 12 days ago I can sympathise with you and know how badly you will be feeling.

As a long term member of the forum you know what happens next. You have the necessary experience and knowledge to know that for a week or so you are going to feel awful, angry, sad, disappointed etc. What you do during this period will be crucial for you. If you gamble and lose you will gamble and lose again and one problem grows and grows into something catastrophic. Today wasn’t catastrophic. It is a massive setback which you can recover from. You may think that you could gamble and win and all will be fine again. Again, experience and knowledge shows us that that would only mask this situation and eventually we lose and lose again making all things worse.

So, that only leaves one workable solution. Suffer for the next week or so. Don’t gamble during this time. Ride the emotional out, get on here everyday and post your true and honest feelings. Nobody said this journey would be easy. It’s not easy but if we can put days, months and years together there is a chance of a truly great life.

Tomso

Posted on:
Sun, 17/02/2019 - 12:17

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Thanks for your comments a9 and tomso you are both right in what you said

Posted on:
Sun, 17/02/2019 - 16:50

Boro

Joined:
2012-07-01

Another £200 down fobt are slowly killing me like.I just don’t seem to be able to stop playing them no matter what I do or lose on them. I just hope and pray that I get to April with the money I have and don’t play on them again. Totall madness today lost about £700 since Friday. I have used Apple Pay to gamble because I ain’t got a card and I begged me mam to lend me the other money I lost. Yep I put pressure on a 69 year old woman to lend me the money. 

Posted on:
Sun, 17/02/2019 - 19:55

NT

Joined:
2017-12-16

Oh mate, I feel for you.

Like I said before, please don't see April as the time when you will feel totally safe from this madness. Yes, the reduction in April is a good start but it's nowhere near to where we need the gambling industry to be with regards to controls. They are all businesses and they will be having lots of meetings and plans for their long-terms with not a single amount of empathy for people like you and me.

Time to remove Apple Pay, me thinks.

Stay strong.

NT

Posted on:
Sun, 17/02/2019 - 23:21

signalman

Joined:
2018-08-31

Hey Graeme

I guess when you come on here and post that you've gambled, it doesn't mean that the slate is now clean of that gambling escapade... It just means that you've come on here and posted and still have a gambling problem. Like us all on here. The problem isn't going away any time soon.

Your life doesn't have to be dictated by your gambling problem, if you want you can dictate your life in spite of your gambling problem.

Step 1: acceptance you have a gambling problem!

A problem of this nature (in its infancy) means you are lost and unable to see the wood from the trees, so from there go and invest in the wisdom and knowledge of those who see the trees clearly, you'll find them in GA rooms, therapy sessions, here on Gamcare, GP, church, mosque, synagogue wherever... But the point is there are people out there who can and will help you through this as they know and feel your pain.

It's mega tough trying to fight this alone. Your investing all your hopes in a month of a calendar year when really you need to invest all your hopes in you and your self-belief. And if you don't have any right now, try a different approach to recovery, one that nurtures this self-belief.

Stay strong friend and don't give up hope.

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