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Compulsive Gambler
(@compulsive-gambler)

fair play to you for doing so, cant of been easy. sorry to hear of the job challenges though, albeit hopefully you do find something on PAYE and the deductions are manageable though

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Posted : 20th June 2018 8:39 pm
geordie
(@geordie)

Cheers, fingers crossed 🙂

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Posted : 21st June 2018 11:20 am
gadaveuk
(@gadaveuk)

Hi

What is success?

It is by our own achievements by being healthy and productive in every avenue of our life.

It is also being self sufficient fulfilling our healthy needs, fulfilling our healthy wants , fulfilling our healthy goals and productive with healthy interactions with all people.

My day is broken in to thirds, need time, want and goal time, and rest time.

During my obsessive addictive times I was not very productive, I lacked clarity in my thinking, I lacked focus on one thing at a time.

Because of the high levels of fear in me I use to go in to panic mode very quickly.

As I face my fears head on my levels of fear in me reduce to very low levels and rarely do I panic these days.

Due to my fears it was very hard to in the moment.

Living in the past is not healthy, guilt, shame, remorse, regret, envy, blame, etc.

Living in fear of the future is also not healthy, so by staying in the moment I have so many skills and abilities that were untapped when I was being unhealthy.

Being healthy I do daily lists of my healthy needs of my healthy wants and of my healthy goals.

Before my recovery I wished my life away till next pay day, I did most things reluctantly and resentfully, conditionally, in time I would give of myself unconditionally expecting nothing in return, that is what love is.

When I use to say I love you it was conditional, I was expecting some thing in return, today when say that I love you it was unconditional.

Becoming more and more accountable to myself I am in effect maturing and growing up.

This was and is today part of the healing of my inner child.

By working the recovery program I am able to reach my full potential in every avenue of my life.

The reward for being successful in the recovery program is pride in our healthy actions pride in our healthy words towards other people.

The recovery program helped me help myself, the recovery program helped me understand how unhealthy I was.

The recovery program is a manual to helping a person help them self heal and become healthy and whole once more.

Understanding the serenity was important, that the only person I can change is myself.

Understanding the serenity that my unhealthy reactions towards people life and situations was both  unhealthy and my responsibility.

How much more can I achieve in my life today, who sets that limit, what excuse do I use today to not get my a*s in to gear, and more so become more healthy and more successful than I was yesterday.

The recovery program is all about progress not perfection.

Is it important to understand why I GAMBLED of course it is.

Is pride a healthy feeling today, of course it is.

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

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Posted : 8th May 2019 6:46 pm
gadaveuk
(@gadaveuk)

Hi

My addictions and obsessions were a form of escape from people life and situations I felt emotionally vulnerable about. 

My success today is based up on my healthy actions and my healthy words I use today.

Are my healthy actions and my healthy words nurturing towards myself and other people today.

Do I have written down my needs today. 

Do I have written down my wants today. 

Do I have written down my goals today. 

When I get things done do I cross them off the lists.

Why be reluctant and have unhealthy motives today.

Just for today I will not give in to unhealthy habits.

Once I took recovery seriously I would understand that success in the reward to our self for being healthy and productive.

During my addictions and obsessions times I never felt that I was healthy and productive.

During my addictions and obsessions times I felt that I was in decline in so many ways.

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

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Posted : 11th May 2019 1:41 pm
gadaveuk
(@gadaveuk)

Hi

Today success is about being healthy in so many ways.

Every action has consequences, every healthy action has healthy consequences, every unhealthy action has unhealthy consequences.

Today success is about not reacting in unhealthy ways to the pans of my past.

Today success is about not living in fear of emotional intimacy.

Today success is about not having to lie.

Today success is about not having to live in fear of being honest and being myself.

Today success is about not having to procrastinate any more.

Today success is about celebrating every day, not living in fear of each day.

Today success is not going against my own conscience and going against spiritual values, non religious.

Today success is about interacting in healthy ways to all people, to no longer react in unhealthy ways to all people.

Today success is about expressing my gratitude and appreciation towards all people.

Today success is about not living in fear, and people not not living in fear of me.

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

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Posted : 16th May 2019 7:50 am
gadaveuk
(@gadaveuk)

Hi

What is success, for me it is no longer being unhealthy.

My success is based up on working hard on my recovery and healing my pains.

To live my life today with out my fears holding me back.

To not live in the past.

Who I was on day one entering the recovery program is not who I am today.

I have more gratitude and appreciation today.

I do have to lie today.

I have exchanged unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.

I daily write down my needs my wants and my goals.

It all started with just for today I will not gamble.

In being more caring towards myself I am able to be more caring towards other people.

My conscience is spiritual based, and I am able to interact with people today in healthy ways rather than react in unhealthy ways today.

My unhealthy reactions in anger indicated to me that my hurt inner child was not healed.

The recovery program helped me heal in so many ways I did not think was possible.

Please keep going to meetings, you will benefit from it in so many ways.

My success is about me working with like minded people towards healthier living and being more productive today

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA

Dave of Beckenham

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Posted : 22nd May 2019 2:06 pm
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