Time for a new beginning

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For the past 2 years my gambling has been getting out of control. It was steadily getting worse until it recently came to a head. I was playing slots every free minute I had every day.

I have spent every penny I have in my account and also borrowed a lot of money for gambling, I have never felt so low.

It all got too much for me at the end of last week and I broke down in front of my wife and came clean about everything. She went mad at first, we didn't talk for a couple of days. We are now back to normal, although I know I will need to build the trust back up after the years of lying to her.

The debts I'm not too worried about, I will be able to be debt free in about a year. It was my mental health that was making me feel ill. 

Tonight I have signed up to gamstop and have gave control of my finances over to my wife.

Time for a new beginning and my first gamble free day starts tomorrow. 

 
Posted : 10th July 2019 10:59 pm
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Day 1 nearly done.

Been at work today so my mind was taken off things. Knowing that I am blocked from all my betting accounts has really helped and took any temptations away.

Feeling proud that even though it's only a Day, it's the first day in as long as I can remember that I haven't had a bet. Here's hoping I can keep it up.

 
Posted : 11th July 2019 8:32 pm
TraceyJ
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Good luck Jimmy, it's hard but with good support you can do this

I felt a big difference in my health after just 2 weeks

There lots of support on here

Stay strong 

 
Posted : 12th July 2019 3:46 pm
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Posted by: TraceyJ

Good luck Jimmy, it's hard but with good support you can do this

I felt a big difference in my health after just 2 weeks

There lots of support on here

Stay strong 

Thanks for the support Tracey

 
Posted : 13th July 2019 6:47 pm
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Days 2 and 3 done and still gamble free. Was out at a family party yesterday so couldn't get posting.

Still feeling cravings to gamble, but I am determined to keep on this gamble free road. 

 
Posted : 13th July 2019 6:49 pm
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Welcome to the diaries Jimmy.

You have admitted to being a compulsive gambler, you have been honest and open with your wife and you are here. That is an excellent start to your recovery.

There are many here who have successfully stopped gambling for long periods of time. Sadly, there are also some, like me, who have relapsed on several occasions but all that does is prolong the misery.

Here, at the very least, you are amongst people who might have an understanding of what you have been through and can offer you support and encouragement.

For a compulsive gambler to stop gambling is not easy but it can be done.

I wish you every success.

 
Posted : 14th July 2019 11:25 pm
Lordlucan
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Hi jimmy 

its fantastic to see your posts   

you have taken excellent first steps at the start of  a long journey ahead.

i will keep a look out for your future posts to see you beat this awful addiction which is going to happen

keep the faith mate and fight the urges 

Lord Lucan  

 

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Posted : 16th July 2019 12:01 am
(@20jimmy08)
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Thanks everyone for the positive messages, means a lot talking with people that are going through the same problems.

Haven't been online the past few days so time for a wee update.

That's me onto day 6 and still gamble free.  I really can't believe that tomorrow will be a week without gambling. 

I really can't stress how good gamban has been and would recommend it to anyone going through gambling problems.

Worked out my finances and how much I need to pay per month to get myself debt free. Will take a while, but it's going in  the right direction. 

Here's to staying gamble free. 

 
Posted : 16th July 2019 2:37 pm
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@20jimmy08 ,

Keep up the good work and please keep sharing with us your success.

remember the netline and helpline are available for you from 8am - midnight.

All the best

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Posted : 16th July 2019 9:45 pm
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Well that's day 7 and a whole week without gambling. Feeling so proud of myself right now and more determined than ever to keep it going.

Taking the family out for a meal tonight to treat everyone using money that would usually be lost on the slots.

Good luck everyone in your battle.

 
Posted : 17th July 2019 7:03 pm
holycrosser
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You have everything in place to stop gambling well done.

telling your partner is something I regret not being able to do but we are all different, good for you though as it takes guts.

 

good luck, stick with it as she’s stood by you, you may only get one chance at this, take it.

 
Posted : 18th July 2019 11:14 am
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Posted by: holycrosser

You have everything in place to stop gambling well done.

telling your partner is something I regret not being able to do but we are all different, good for you though as it takes guts.

 

good luck, stick with it as she’s stood by you, you may only get one chance at this, take it.

Thanks for the post, I know this is my last chance to save my family so feel determined to keep it going.

To be honest it took years before I could tell my partner, and being truthful she only found out because I had got in so deep a hole that I couldn't hide it any more. 

Telling her was the hardest part, but I'm glad I did. Feels like years of lies and deceit about money have now got a line drawn under them. 

Good luck to you on your journey too.

 
Posted : 18th July 2019 11:45 am
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Time for an update as I haven't been on in a few days. Onto day 11 and still gamble free. 

Really struggling over the past couple of days and can't shake the feeling of wanting to gamble. Still determined to keep it going. 

 
Posted : 21st July 2019 7:02 am
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Hi,

You are doing so well! Keep going. Feel free to use all our support networks; helpline, netline and forum etc.  

Best wishes

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