I was asked to start a diary so here goes..
I do not have a gambling addiction but my partner does.
He thinks he's being sneaky about it as its got worse but I'm so paranoid about it I've come to realise how bad its got.
2hours in the bath in silence.. When before yes he'd take a long bath but you could clearly here him watching videos removed link
Extremely long times in the toilet.
Waiting for me to fall asleep, ive actually pretend to fall asleep to see how long he'd wait.. 15minites and he was straight on there.
When I'm work.
Downloaded software to bypass all the Internet blocks.
Lying about frozen bank accounts being the reason he can't pay for something or saying he hadn't been paid yet.
The odd "popping to the shop".. Can take up to 3 hours.
We don't go out and do fun things anymore because there isn't the money to.
I'm constantly paranoid and angry because I didn't realise the severity of how bad it could get and allowed it to happen.
I'm currently trying to find ways to approach the subject but it gets met with instant anger and threats to leave.
He's on it so much the kids say "daddy's playing his games again".
I've noticed that he could get a big win and doesn't even bother to withdraw it anymore because he thinks he can always get more.. Even if that means no one gets Christmas presents from him.. Yep not even the kids.
When he doesn't have the option to play his moods are visibly different, he sleeps better and we go do stuff!
He uses the "I told you I have a problem" against me.
But it wasn't like this and I didn't know how bad it could be.
We are massively wrapped up in each others lives with family and kids that I can't simply not rey to fix this.
I love him but it's destroying me watching this happen.
Hi
, Hopefully Joydivider will turn up soon. Is he a miracle cure ? NO but just better than i'll ever be at explaining addiction & the effect it has on innocent victims. Hope you're not angry with me Joy but your guidance & understanding is just something that left a long lasting impression ( for the better ) on my recovery. Please help. I ain't wanting to put unwanted pressure on you Joydivider it's just your way of explaining addiction to not just CGs but their families is invaluable to those seeking peace & happiness.
Best Wishes
AL
So hes, played everyday since I started this...
He won & XX on Thursday night.
He put it in to withdraw, still was all there Friday at 6pm when I left to go on a night out.
Got him to invite his dad over as a distraction.
When I returned home "he'd been locked out his account".
I phoned his dad who said he spent all night on his phone.
Its all gone.
He's a cancelled work today (he claims they've cancelled on him). we were meant to go out this evening for dinner etc which isn't happening again.
My over the phone therapy starts on Monday but I just don't know what to do anymore.
Its the lies, it needs to stop.
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