The future’s looking brighter

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J24
 J24
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It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything but here I am 269 days gamble free and happier than I’ve been in a long long time.

Really, I’ve just come back to say thank you to all the people who’ve helped me with their advice and support along the way. I may not have listened on many many occasions but I’ve never forgotten any of it or any of you.

I’ve finally confided in someone, my sister and, I’ve got to be honest, I was surprised at how good it felt to finally let it out. What was even better was that I could tell her that I was already genuinely on my way to recovery. There were no tears, no feeling sorry for myself, no excuses, just very matter of fact. This is what I’ve done, this is how it happened, this is what I’ve done about it and this is where I am now. She offered to try and help me financially but as far as I’m concerned I made my bed so I’m now fully prepared to lie in it.

I’m still in a lot of debt but I finally seem to have it under control. Instead of it increasing each month it’s now steadily coming down. It’ll still take a few years to clear but for the first time in a long time, I’m ok with it.  I’m no longer focussing on clearing it as quickly as I can. Instead of paying as much as I can each month and skinting myself, I’m making lower repayments and I’ve now got a little money each month to actually enjoy life.

One of the things that terrified me about the debt was (as morbid as it sounds) if I were to die tomorrow, it would be my family that would suddenly be faced with repaying it. One of the things I’ve done is to take out life insurance (it’s amazing what you can afford when you don’t gamble everything!). It’s a huge weight off my mind to know that, if something were to happen to me, my debt doesn’t become their problem. 

Anyway, today is a beautiful sunny day and I’ve missed far to many of them over the years to sit here on my computer.

I wish you all the very best

J xxx

 
Posted : 21st April 2019 7:54 am
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Well done j24 for being honest.i know what u mean about telling someone.it felt like a huge weight off my shoulders too.im 15 days gf after about 18 years losing thousands of pounds.there is only 1 winner and it aint us! I realise that now and im doing something about it.im in a mess financially too.all because of gambling.will take me a few years to clear it but after that im never taking any loans out again.the best thing i did was come on here.i couldnt of done it without gamcare and the support of kind people in the same or similar situation to me.well done on 269 days gf.thats amazing.keep it up and always remember theres people on here that understand and will listen whatever u need to say.its great that people on here dont judge u.they help u with their kind words and support.stay strong and remember that u aint alone

 
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