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Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Congrats Zoe on your 100 day milestone!

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Posted : 10th April 2020 10:15 pm
Vinnie
(@vinnie)
Posted by: Ineffable

Congrats Zoe on your 100 day milestone!

Thankyou 😘

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Posted : 11th April 2020 3:29 am
Boo radley
(@boo-radley)

Well another milestone reached today for me.. 

Please set my next to 1st May. A new month to look forward to 😁😘😘 Boo 

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Posted : 12th April 2020 1:53 pm
adam123
(@adam123)

Well done boo xx

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Posted : 12th April 2020 2:44 pm
Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Hi all,  many congratulations to both Boo and LewisMG for reaching their respective milestones today.  Fantastic achievements!!

Here are the weekend updates:

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Stephen - resting 🙂

Spendspendspend - Hon. member! 🙂

Spendlikewater84 - Hon. Member! 🙂 

Determined to Stop - Hon Member! 🙂

Fighter1 - Hon. Member! 🙂 

HertsC - Hon. Member! 🙂 

EsoxLucius - Hon Member! 🙂

Danpo - Hon Member! 🙂

Bertieboo - Hon Member! 🙂

Mixer -  Hon Member! 🙂

Franco1875 - Hon. Member! 🙂

Fir tree - Hon Member! 🙂

Russ (Mark) - Hon Member & Year milestone! 🙂 

DramaLlama - Hon Member! 🙂

Zoe – Hon Member! 🙂👍

LewisMG - Hon Member! 🙂👍

MikeD – 19th Apr 2020

Debbie4 – 28th April 2020

Bigmug - 29th Apr 2020

Boo - Hon. Member! 🙂 - further extension to 1st May 👍

Adam123 - Hon Member! 🙂  new Milestone - 2nd May 2020

Murlo - Hon. Member! 🙂 - new Milestone - 4th May 2020

Ineffable - Hon. Member! 🙂 - new Milestone 27th May 2020

Emily82 - 1st June 2020

Jody101080 - 18 June 2020

Changing habit - Hon Member 🙂 - new Milestone 26th Jan 2021

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Until next weekend 👋

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Posted : 12th April 2020 5:39 pm
LewisMG
(@lewismg)

Hi everyone, sorry I haven’t been chatting lately, things have been going very well (despite the current world problems), and although this is my day 100, my problem was popping in the bookies, and with them being shut at the moment, I kinda feel like the last few weeks have been a let off as if I wanted to, I couldn’t gamble because of the circumstances!!!

So I am grateful to become an honorary member, but really feel that my real 100 day will come 21 days after the bookies open again and I choose not to gamble!!!

I hope this makes sense and am grateful for your ongoing support! Thanks for being there my GF family. 

LMG

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Posted : 12th April 2020 9:42 pm
Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Lewis, perfectly understand your sentiments. However, it doesn’t take away from you current achievements, so take pride and confidence in that for now.  

We will all have to be extra vigilant when things return to whatever the new normal will be.

Stay safe 🙂

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Posted : 13th April 2020 8:47 am
Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Hi all,  big shout out to MikeD for reaching the big 100 day milestone. Love to see so many achieving their respective goals.  keep it up!

Since the next milestone isn’t until 28 April, I am going to take a little break so I’ll post on here again early May.

Stay safe & gamble free 👍

Here are the weekend updates:

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Stephen - resting 🙂

Spendspendspend - Hon. member! 🙂

Spendlikewater84 - Hon. Member! 🙂 

Determined to Stop - Hon Member! 🙂

Fighter1 - Hon. Member! 🙂 

HertsC - Hon. Member! 🙂 

EsoxLucius - Hon Member! 🙂

Danpo - Hon Member! 🙂

Bertieboo - Hon Member! 🙂

Mixer -  Hon Member! 🙂

Franco1875 - Hon. Member! 🙂

Fir tree - Hon Member! 🙂

Russ (Mark) - Hon Member & Year milestone! 🙂 

DramaLlama - Hon Member! 🙂

Zoe – Hon Member! 🙂

LewisMG - Hon Member! 🙂

MikeD – Hon Member! 🙂👍

Debbie4 – 28th April 2020

Bigmug - 29th Apr 2020

Boo - Hon. Member! 🙂 - further extension to 1st May 👍

Adam123 - Hon Member! 🙂  new Milestone - 2nd May 2020

Murlo - Hon. Member! 🙂 - new Milestone - 4th May 2020

Ineffable - Hon. Member! 🙂 - new Milestone 27th May 2020

Emily82 - 1st June 2020

Jody101080 - 18 June 2020

Changing habit - Hon Member 🙂 - new Milestone 26th Jan 2021

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Until next weekend 👋

 
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Posted : 19th April 2020 8:19 am
Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Hi all, this is my second last post on here before I sign off for what I hope will be an extended period.

I know someone else can pick up the remaking updates -  there are only four left after this weekend batch.

I want to thank everyone for their support on this tread and especially to Mixer for setting it up. I wish everyone well for the future. 

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Posted : 29th April 2020 10:33 pm
Boo radley
(@boo-radley)

Thank you and take care

Boo

😘

 

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Posted : 30th April 2020 6:52 am
adam123
(@adam123)

Hi inneffible, ive hit my target today and feel pretty good.  On day 152 today so think I miscounted when setting a target lol.  I wont set another target and will hopefully remain an honourable member.  many thanks

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Posted : 2nd May 2020 7:00 pm
SillyBoy1981
(@sillyboy1981)

Day-153

Today is 153 days great in my sobriety & being gambling free!

Thats means that for 5 months or 21.6 weeks or 153 days I’ve been able to tackle something that has hindered & held me down! 

These are still early days in my sobriety but ones I’m glad that I’m making. There has been a lot of testing times & moments in these first 5 months but for someone that gambled for over 20yrs I think I’ve done pretty well with what I have put in place for myself, so yeah I’m going to tell myself today that i deserve a pat on my back & not feel embarrassed or ashamed about it!

The road ahead is long & will 100% put in front of me more testing times, I hope that the network of family I have around me & the network of guides & aids I use will keep my life choice of sobriety strong & intact..

Gambling is seen by some to be black & white that it’s a choice to do it & to stop it...  I don’t personally agree that it’s this way but everyone has the right to what they believe is their view or opinion on something.  For me Gambling is a dark demon that consumes your emotions & your thoughts.. It removes you from reality & gives you a false sense of invincibility & then pulls the curtains back of reality once it’s taken you... It then owns you as it’s slave even if you do or you don’t want to be part of the ride you’re in that seat & there isn’t an exit...

Just writing this i hear all of those voices & demons & thoughts of gambling... It fills me full of anxiety & panic!

The only way I’ve found to get off the ride or to remove myself from the fairground of gambling is to be open & honest... First & foremost with myself, then with those closest to me in my girlfriend.  This was so daunting as a thought 153 days ago BUT when I opened up & spoke about it all I can honestly say that it was like an awakening & a baptism of something safe.  I’d put trust in myself to want to beat this addiction, I’d put trust in myself to wanting to be honest about this addiction & id put trust in that i was going to tell my partner about everything & I mean everything... The money I’d used & where I’d got it from, the debt I had racked up, the financial & emotion position I was in... I unloaded everything I had in me & I was drained... On that day then I rang the gambling line & I broke down again in tears but I opened up about everything, I had my girlfriend with me & we both spoke to the other person on the end of the line & they advised & listened to both sides of what was happening... I signed up to all of the stoppers you can to the electronics of blockers... I have all my banking details over to my partner & went through my incoming & outgoings, the available balance left now gets transferred into a savings account that I don’t have access to (obviously unless it’s properly required for things that are 100% not gambling related)... I spoke to councillors, about gambling & my mental health... 

Because I was not in control & I was not balanced needed to relinquish control... This was by no means easy & I challenged it as it was tough & unsettling... But i knew that if I truly wanted to beat this I had to be honest & I had to ask & I had to use the help that was in front of me.

I know I couldn’t put a blocker as such on the high street shops for gambling but i found that because I relinquished control & of my bank account & went through my availability of money I looked at the high street shops in a completely different light... They’re not a coffee shop where you’re meeting up with friends for a chat... They’re not a comfort to me, they’re a leech on you... 

You need to make a new normal & a new pattern for yourself as the ones that you were using before didn’t help or work... Look at everything on the small side & not at the larger view... Like focus on not going to the gambling shop for 1 day & tucking that off on a diary & be openly happy that you’ve achieved that goal & realise that it is a big first step that you’ve achieved it... Try not to focus on the never ever going in there again... It’s the constant small gains of bearing this addiction that drive me forward in my sobriety... Keeping this online diary, talking openly about it to my girlfriend, keeping a written journal about to highs & lows of what I’m feeling, tallying the days of my sobriety & giving myself milestones & goals in year 1 to achieve... Then moving that onto year 2 & so on... That will be a never ending goal but I have found that simply counting days wasn’t enough to focus me... 

I have by no means beaten gambling or do I believe that I am completely exempt from its draw... But I know I have the ability in me now to say no... I have the strength to look at gambling for what it is & not want to do it.

Something that sticks with me that my councillor said to me a long time ago was “It’s ok to not be ok”...

Talking & honesty are key for what I’m going through. I am a happy 153 days in my sobriety & I live in Hope & happiness that this continues!

Speak again soon!

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Posted : 27th May 2020 6:37 am
Ineffable
(@ineffable)

Hello all,  I just wanted to check in after watching the clip from Peter Shilton and his wife Stephanie on the BBC One Show (6 July) about breaking his 45 year gambling habit.  It moved me.

I am coming up to my 250 day gambling free milestone and wanted to acknowledge that here. Gambling urges are far from my mind but I still get the odd thought about it.  Looking back over recent years I have been gambling free for the majority of that time but have had to reset the clock to zero a few times over that period.  Thankfully my gambling fails have been more one offs than a return to the systemic problem gambling of the past. I feel fortunate to have turned a corner on that score.  I’m never complacent as I know a habit is easily picked up; and so remain ever vigilant.  

But I am proud of getting this far and am much happier deep within my core, and that radiates from me to my family and friends.  I know it is awful to say but if I didn’t get into so much debt back in 2014/15 I would never have realise how much gambling had a hold on me.  I am so so thankful to be solvent and free from this awful addiction.  

Remember we can never win because we can never stop.  So stop loosing; stopping gambling. 
Take care all.

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Posted : 8th July 2020 8:43 pm
SillyBoy1981
(@sillyboy1981)

Day -200

Its been a couple of weeks since my last post on my sobriety BUT what a day to come back & hola at myself!!! 200 days clean & free of gambling!!! I mean not to be too excited but f***g check me out right!!! Whoop whoop...

Changing my life for a gambling free life is one of the best decisions I’ve ever had the privilege to have made in my life...

My mind space feels so much clearer... I feel focused on where I am & on so many possibilities of where I can move forward..!

These again are still early days but I love my life choice & how good I feel...

200 days clean on my sobriety!! 

We can all do this! 

Speak again soon! X

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Posted : 13th July 2020 10:26 pm
Bigmug
(@bigmug)

Back again after relapsing,did pretty well about 4 months gf then relapsed, anyway last bet was 10th July,so 3 days gf,hoping to beat this terrible addiction this time 

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Posted : 13th July 2020 11:36 pm
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