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X M
 X M
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It's my tenth day today of not gambling. I'm ok with it. It's everything else that's affecting me. 

I feel like it's almost pointless for me to be gamble free at the moment. I've lost my girlfriend and had to move out of her house and she doesn't love me anymore. She has the dog, I don't get to see her parents and I very reluctantly had to move back in with my mother who is very unsupportive, not to mention filthy. I spend a lot of the time in deep misery and regret. As I've said I've come to terms with losing money but I can't seem to come to terms with losing all the good things I had in life including a decent personality. I'm very bitter these days.

And it's all because of gambling. It feels like there is no point in me stopping now. I've lost everything that matters to me the most. And these are things I will never get back. 

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Posted : 16th January 2021 8:06 pm
Adam95
(@adam95-2)

Hi pal,
That really sucks what you're going through at the moment. You've got to know that nothing good will come out of gambling away your money, you will just end up in a worse place mentally and financially. Do not do it to yourself friend, you don't deserve it.
I say it's time to rebuild. Save your money and save yourself from even more stress. The money you save maybe could help you get away from your mother sooner. Get a place of your own. Forget about the past gambling, that's what I have done, just look forward and progress in life.
Look after yourself man, gambling ruins so many lives and puts many people in bad places. I'm telling you, it's all temporary.
Just stay strong man, you can do it:)

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Posted : 16th January 2021 8:25 pm
Magh
 Magh
(@magh)

Hi Please don’t give up there maybe dark clouds now but there is always blue skys above. 

if you start gambling again things will only get worse. If you stay gamble free they can only get better. You can always earn money and rebuild a life. You will be happy again it will just take time. 

im sorry you have lost the things that mean the most to you I’m sure your ex girlfriend will be hurting just as much as you. It affects the both of you. Please stay strong. 

im sorry I have no real words of advice, just wanted you to know there is always someone out there who will listen and u can always talk to someone 😊

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Posted : 16th January 2021 8:27 pm
Chris.UK
(@chris-uk)

@x-m that's why it's important to do it for yourself, not for anyone else.

If you went back gambling the real world would still be there waiting for you so push through this feeling and make life better for yourself. 

It won't always feel this bad and it could be worse. Get some sleep, start afresh tomorrow.

Chris.

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Posted : 16th January 2021 8:35 pm
Pablo87
(@pablo87)

Hi,

Ive felt that way too many times, like you’ve already lost everything that matters so what’s the point stopping gambling now.

it’s understandable that we would think that way, but what we need to remember is why we have lost everything and everyone we love most. Gambling is the root cause to all the misery in my life.

In my experience i have turned to gambling when I have felt I’d already ruined my relationship and had nothing else that matters to lose, truth is, I think I had used these reasons as an excuse and to justify to myself so I could continue to gamble.

Continuing to gamble has never ended well for me, if anything it has destroyed my mental health and made me wonder if My life was worth living and as close as I could imagine being to suicidal. Losing everything and everyone may seem to be all that matters but losing my mind and considering ending it all was what came next, luckily I have managed to pull myself together and I’m now gamble free for 1 month, but I know and accept I’ll be battling this addiction for the rest of my life.

 

please don’t make the mistakes I have, gamble free is the only way you will find happiness and that to me would be the biggest win of all.

 

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Posted : 16th January 2021 11:44 pm
Chris100
(@chris100)

Hi mate understand your really low At the miniute im only on day 13 I have urges but at the same time I’ve blocked everything so I can’t act on the argues do the same I tell myself I will have more money in the long time won’t be quick but worth it!! 

and also look at your situation now and think gambling caused this!! And the only way out is to stop!!! 

I will share with you over last 5 years I’ve lost £80,000 pounds through roulette yes I wana win it all back even if I win it all back I’ll probs over next years lose it and more that’s what addiction does but it’s still hard for us 

 

only way win is stop good luck 

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Posted : 17th January 2021 8:00 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

Hi. Thanks for your message. I believe what you are saying but I'm finding it really difficult to cope with it all right now. 

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:04 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

Hi. Thanks for your message. I'm just in a very bad place right now. The after effects are actually worse than losing at gambling in the moment. 

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:09 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

You are right about having to do it for myself. I can't seem to put myself in that frame of mind though.

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:12 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

Hi. Thanks for your message. I like the

"Gambling is the root cause to all the misery in my life." 

Can I ask what your situation is now and how you are coping?

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:16 am
X M
 X M
(@x-m)

I understand. Although I'm finding it difficult to cope with what I've done. As of writing this, I'm not strongly tempted to gamble. I'm more upset with what has happened.

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:18 am
Pablo87
(@pablo87)
Posted by: X M

Hi. Thanks for your message. I like the

"Gambling is the root cause to all the misery in my life." 

Can I ask what your situation is now and how you are coping?

Still struggling, mainly due to me thinking I could do it on my own and carrying on gambling.

 

for the past month I have been trying to rebuild my relationship with my wife and staying away from gambling.

 

my mental health has improved massively in the past month, I no longer see a worthless future and can look forward with my life.

 

it’s early days, I have tried and failed to stop gambling many times before, I will always have to accept that I have a gamblers mentality for the the rest of my life, using OST experience and other peoples experiences to help keep to the blocks I have built to stop me from failing again.

 

hope that makes sense 

 

 

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Posted : 17th January 2021 10:42 am
Adam95
(@adam95-2)

Gambling more is never the answer. Just look after yourself, you seriously are the only one who can. I feel like you can find (or already have found) some willpower to stop. You know the pain and damage that it causes, just for a temporary moment of joy. The only reason we looked for that joy is because we were addicted and we needed something to cheer us up from what we have done.
The only way is to stop. Youre already doing well, day 11 already. I registered to Gamstop which I feel has helped a lot as I now think about gambling less because I know that it's pretty much impossible. I feel more present in life if that makes sense, I have more focus and I'm way less stressed.
Be strong, accept the past and start your next chapter 🙂

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Posted : 17th January 2021 9:45 pm
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