I am CJ. This is my story

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I’m doing okay thanks CJ... I’m having a bit of an off day to be honest. I feel very used today and just wonder how my ex boyfriend did what he did... I suppose I’m thinking about that from my perspective and mindset... God only knows what is going on in his mind.... I do feel though that he must have major character flaws. From what I see on here, I don’t think a lot of people would have done what he did. I know it’s an addiction but there’s a big difference too between doing the right thing and doing the wrong thing.. it’s just a bad day. I’ll get back on track again.

Have a good afternoon

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 4:15 pm
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@Maria

I think the big issue you are having here today is trying to think to hard about it all. Keep it simple. Guy lost you due to gambling. You got debt from it. You won't do it again. 🙂

Maybe flip it slightly and think, what pain did this guy put you through, what can i do now without him and look to the future. If you had of stayed with the guy what would have been the outcome. You lose your money, become depressed, and maybe something more serious. So think about the worst possible scenario, then smile, because you have escaped. 🙂

Not all people who gamble are like your ex partner and not all people have the intentiosn to start off bad. The addiction takes over and people become ashamed of their addiction so try to mask it with smoke and mirros. I have always taken the approach in life that if someone asks me a question about something i will answer it honestly.

You have said before you are better off not being involved in that situation.
As you have read many of the forum posts on here you can see we have have many different extremes on here, where people have lost their families, jobs and become destitute beucase of their addiction and then you have people who are 19 and just entered the world of gambling with this sad addiction. People who are fighting the battle daily and fail then start again because they feel that they can sustain.

Even though I am addicted to Gambling, it doesn't make me a bad person. I am trying to be the best person I can be and move forward through this challenge in my life. I class all of these as chapters like i have mentioned before. I have rough days just like everyone else.

You are on holiday soon in Lanzarote, so that should be a time that is exciting. You get to do whatever you want to do and can go and do whatever you want. If you were with Mr Man, i guess you wouldnt be in Lanzarote and wouldnt be exploring our wonderful world.

Keep your chin up and try to keep having more brighter days than overcast days.

CJ.

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 5:37 pm
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Thank you so much CJ, that’s such good advice. I am a bit of an over thinker... I left the situation because it was damaging me and if I had stayed, I reckon my situation would have gotten even worse. It’s so true what you say... I couldn’t trust him at all. I had resorted to sleeping with my handbag! And there was no remorse or action on his part to improve his situation. Very wise words CJ and so much appreciated. I will concentrate on me now. Tomorrow is another day... thanks for your support and sending you my very best.

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 5:59 pm
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Keep going CJ! Legend!

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 6:27 pm
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@Maria
Keep on swimming and you will get there. Think about your future and that you are feeling much better without him. Today is just a day where you thought and that is ok 🙂

@Change
We are indeed. Day 20 to day and feeling pretty good. Have to rebuild my server as a hard drive failed, so debating whether to put two SSD drives in for the OS as a RAID 0 instead of just replacing the 2TB drive. 🙂

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 6:48 pm
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You’re the best CJ. You’ve given me so much to think about... in a great sense!

Delighted for you and congrats on day 20. You’re doing amazing. You deserve the best life.

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 7:49 pm
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@Maria
I wouldnt say that. I have my moments like everyone. I am trying my best though and that is all we can ask of ourselves.
Thanks very much. 🙂

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 8:40 pm
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Day 20

Wow another day completed. Finding helping others is helping me through the battle. It’s nice to see others moving forward day by day.

Today at work it was mentally draining and tomorrow is another day. Luckily only a half day.

Keep on going everyone. We can beat this.

CJ.

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 9:57 pm
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Wow the forum seems slow tonight.

I think I will call it a night for Day 20 before I turn into a pumpkin.

Keep going everyone, we can make it through another day, week, month and year.

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 11:00 pm
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Hey CJ, had guests tonight so first time to log in :)) happy 20 days!!! All good my end, I tried to see if Gamstop was in place today and I’m glad to say it is! Working well and doing the job... time will tell after the 20th ... have a good sleep and roll on day 21 and day 6! Kaz xx

 
Posted : 28th February 2019 11:07 pm
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Happy 3 weeks C.J.
Keep smiling.
Bella xx

 
Posted : 1st March 2019 12:04 am
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@Kaz

Glad it’s in place for you. Now it’s time to sit back and enjoy life. 😉 Remember all the hard work requires a little treat every now and again.

@Bella

Time has flown and I’m at 3 weeks. I remember the night of signing up like it was only yesterday. Read a couple of people’s journeys which inspired and some that saddened me. Brought home the reality of this illness.

Today will be a good day. 🙂

CJ.

 
Posted : 1st March 2019 7:17 am
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Hi CJ, how are you doing today? Happy Friday to you. Hope you’re looking forward to the weekend and have something nice planned. I’m in much better form today and not overthinking!! 21 days today... that’s a great achievement. Have a great day

 
Posted : 1st March 2019 9:42 am
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Strive for day 28..it got easier for me on day 28. Have fun packing.
Keep smiling.
Bella xx

 
Posted : 1st March 2019 3:41 pm
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@Maria I’m pretty good thanks. My day ran away with itself yesterday which is great. Means you don’t get time to stop and think about stuff in too much depth. Glad you are doing less overthinking. Remember it’s about Maria time not your ex and his addiction. Ex’s are ex’s for a reason.

@Bella yeah I’m doing ok I feel.adapting your money thing is helping. The sun is shining so all is good here. Hope you are ok. 🙂

 
Posted : 2nd March 2019 11:18 am
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