It’s a funny thing not gambling. I am currently 26 days GF and the happiest I have ever been yet the saddest I have ever been, if that makes any sense at all?
I am happy because I feel I have finally gotten to grips with the demon that is gambling yet I’m sad because I think of the years i have wasted. All the money I owe, all the heartache I have caused yet I’m extremely proud of myself for stopping.
Its an emotional rollercoaster, but hopefully it’s all smiles from now on.
Have a good weekend.
Andy
Hi and Welcome.
Yes it makes perfect sense because you will be facing reality without the drug of escape that is a gambling addiction.
At this stage you will be coming to terms with the strange feelings that you are getting control back and trying to weigh up how something your mind liked doing was destroying you. Its a mixture of emotions which can be confusing at first. The strength of a born again moment and total honesty is what you need to fight any confusion
The sadness part is natural. I wasted countless years and a very large amount of money. I cant now believe that was me but it was...I eventually came to terms with that in a calm way. It took some time. It does take some work and family monitoring though. It really is not about willpower alone
We are not saying that being gamble free will whisk you off to the land of milk and honey. However with the right mindset it will bring a serenity to face life and see what you can do to get a worthwhile feeling out of it
Reality doesnt have to be that bad...infact with a resetting of the mind you can enjoy what you have. Its not really all about the stuff we are told to buy although we are so conditioned to show material success that it can make us miserable.
Please get some financial advice and use every thought process to put the losses behind you.
You should be very proud of yourself. Its the best thing you could have done because the gambling has to stop in order to move on.
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
Thanks for your kind words joydivider.
This forum has been the perfect escape for me. I know it sounds wrong but reading about other people’s misfortunes has helped me to realise how bad it could have gotten. Don’t get me wrong I’m in a hard situation, but it could have been so much worse.
The support for each other on here is unbelievable. Onwards and upwards!
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