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Lowsx100
(@lowsx100)

Hello all! I was wondering which one of you have handed over your finances? How are the urges now? How long/are your finances still being managed by someone else? How long are you planning to keep it this way? Is this working for you? Please tell us your story.

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Posted : 20th July 2020 5:18 pm
Bal
 Bal
(@bal)

There should be no time limit specified by the gambler. At the end of the day a compulsive gambler is reckless with funds.

I handed control of all finances to my wife for an unspecified time in the beginning. No cash. No cards. If i went out anywhere i was given the smallest amount of cash possible and i provided receipts to the penny. Nothing more. Nothing less. Even getting a receipt for when i attended GA meetings.

I gambled in the bookies and it is a simple philosophy. No funds = no gambling. No borrowing, begging or stealing in order to have a punt.

This allowed me to begin my recovery which now sits at over 5 years.

9 months i got my cards back. All receipts are kept and available. Sometimes left cards at home to prevent temptation.

For me it worked.

In the past i have discussed this on here with other gamblers. Some say but i needed to get fuel (partner can do that), some say but i need to buy lunch ( take a packed lunch), some say i work therefore i am entitled. Honestly some of these are excuses and you need a tough partner who is wiĺling to support but with tough love.

Best

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Posted : 20th July 2020 9:42 pm
Charlieboy
(@charlieboy)

Hi I'm with bal on this one . My husband has control over all finances I have no access to bank accounts passwords etc it has to be this way. I don't know if I ever want to have access again because I don't want to ever gamble again. Simple really I suppose.. No money... Can't gamble. Best wishes hope you work it all out

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Posted : 20th July 2020 10:02 pm
duncanmac
(@duncanmac)

Lows

for me the honourable balance is absolutely correct in what he wrote with regards to becoming accountable for the way you live your life.

 I have handed all financial control to my wife because it’s the right thing to do for everyone I hold dear, the outcome is profound in many more ways than that of just disabling the ability to gamble. I equally no longer spend money on things that I don’t have the want or need of.

 I have had a terrible relationship with money for the whole of my life, today as the outcome of making the educated choice to admit that my life had become unmanageable I am in a greater place and born from that I have created opportunity.

addiction has lost the opportunity of taking my hard earned as result 

as a compulsive gambler I will actually win through abstinence.

theres no one size fits all recipe for recovery, the outcome is the what matters, to live without the outcome of self destruction, do what works for you.

abstain and maintain 

just for today 

Duncs 

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Posted : 21st July 2020 9:24 am
Kevthekev40
(@kevthekev40)

Hiya L100

I've handed over all finances to my partner about 2 month ago as for how long I've not got a clue as too many times now I've said never again just to gamble an even bigger amount. I don't trust myself even although I've No urges whatsoever I wouldn't take the chance as I'm a problem gambler who isn't to be trusted and that's what I think of myself. You can also get bank cards now that don't allow you to gamble plus sign up to gamstop and gameban, there's a lot off help out there you've just got to want it 

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Posted : 21st July 2020 11:05 am
Lowsx100
(@lowsx100)

Ive tried gamban but in the end it didnt work for me. Now as soon as paycheck etc arrives I have someone who can immediately take this money on the spot and transfer it instantly to a bank account in my name in their bank so i cant touch it. I have huge belief that this will work for me.

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Posted : 22nd July 2020 1:36 pm
Lowsx100
(@lowsx100)

Tomorrow is payday. All the money is vanquishing to my trusted person. Happy for this. All that will be left is money worth for 1 week a time. To hell with gambling.

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Posted : 29th July 2020 6:02 pm
Bladesman
(@bladesman)

Hi, just seen that Gamban didn't work for you, it didn't work for me either but I now have Betblocker installed and 7 weeks in it is working fine and I have set it for 5 years.

Might be worth looking at.

Good luck

 

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Posted : 29th July 2020 8:39 pm
Lowsx100
(@lowsx100)

Thanks, I will certainly check it out. Does it work for Iphone?

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Posted : 30th July 2020 11:48 pm
Bladesman
(@bladesman)

Not sure as I have an android phone. There is a page about blocking software on the self help menu and it's on there👍

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Posted : 31st July 2020 12:25 am
Lowsx100
(@lowsx100)

Doesnt work on Iphone unfortunately. It creates a VPN and a profile, but this can be deleted with a single click

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Posted : 31st July 2020 3:53 pm
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