Day 1... Came clean

Thank you Allainepo for you supportive comments. Yes next year with small steps I will address my anxiety issues. I can def feel it churning away in the background. I am like a cat on hot bricks at the moment

It will gnaw away at you, I'm having it right now as I type this message, mixer probably is feeling the same aswell.

But that's all it is, a feeling. An urge. A nasty one at that.

Don't give in to it because you know exactly what the end result will be, Tears, self loathing and further debt.

We are not doing that to ourselves anymore.

Just remember.....
we CAN and we WILL

KP you are right and know exactly what our weak spots are. Katiecoo, we are both with you.

We are a team who all want the happier future we deserve. We are good people so why the heck not!

Keep going!!!

You're doing great Katiecoo, Mixer & KP82. It's wonderful to see the mutual integrated support between you, each facing your own struggles and challanges, but keeping strong with words of encouragement and real-life workable solutions.

I am 40 days GF and feel that I need to re-assess and reflect on a daily basis in order to keep on track. It will be a slow but definate progression to recovery. The route to financial stability may seem to be out of reach, but it really is one step at a time. Life is tough, but let's fight. We must prove to ourselves and our families that we can turn our lives around.

Hi katiecoo,

It's a week - keep it going!!!

And great comments changmylife and you're welcome to join our group.

In fact, I'm thinking of creating a thread exclusively for our new group. Founder members, KP, katiecoo and me.

Called 'KP Nuts', after one of our founder member if he and katiecoo agree. I'm thinking of the following constitution.

1. This is an invite only club. A member can invite another member. The requirement is that the potential member being invited seriously wants to stop, from the day, or days before, they joined the club.

2. If you relapse, you leave the club.

3. You are welcome to make representations to a current member if, as an ex-member, you wish to rejoin. If you seriously want to rejoin, then you may be re-admitted to the club.

4. We meet exclusively on an open diary thread with a name to be agreed.

What does everyone think?

All I care about is more of us collectively not gambling, and another support network to help us on our journey,

Nothing more, nothing less!

I have been rendered speechless for possibly the first time in my life

This is a great idea, we can and will support each other every day.

The rules are simple yet effective and KP isn't doing his nuts anymore!

We have a winning team here guys.

Great idea having a forum thread called KPs Nuts lol , def not my nuts as I wasn't born with any lol.Unsure if it should be invite only though, not sure that that would be allowed, however new members who join should declare who they are and that they want to give and receive daily support.They should also commit to reading the diary posts of group members to help form a personal bond.

I like the name...Strength in numbers

Guy's I think your enthusiasm is fantastic.

But I think your rules need a rethink. Actually scrapping the rules altogether. You can't kick someone out because they have relapsed? What happens if you all relapse?
People who relapse need the most support a guiding hand to get them back on the train. Not throwing on a rubbish pile and kicked out the kingdom.

I think the 3 of you have been great on the forum especially giving each other comfort in the early days because they are the pits. Just don't run before you can walk

Yes I don't feel comfortable with rules of exclusion , not because I intend to break them but because the most vulnerable get excluded. I do think that to form a bond with others that you are supporting that time should be taken to read others diaries.

Hi Guy's , Deano's certainly right with the enthusiasm commen't and I commend you all for the support your all showing to one another but I do feel your club rules mean it's going to be a bit of a floored plan if I'm honest .

An invite only club on an open forum where anyone can choose to post to another user or thread ?

The requirement that somebody " Seriously want's to stop " ? , How do you know they seriously want to stop and have you put a vetting policy in place ? or do you just ask " Do you seriously want to stop " ? and if the reply's " Yes " you say " Ok your in then " ?.

And if you " Relapse " your out ? , if Gamcare kicked out every member that relapsed on here you'd need a " Ouija board " to have a conversation with anyone ! .

This is the whole point of the Forum to offer mutual support for all that come here , so maybe no need for " Splinter groups " really ? .

Keep supporting each other and I wish you all well :))

I do honestly think mixer meant well with his comments.

Maybe even should adjust a few of the 'rules'

How about myself, mixer, Katie and change keep doing what we are doing and also reach out to others like us and maybe not so much as form a splinter group but try to build a closer community between us where we as fellow sufferers can offer the best advice and guidance we can.

I'm just trying here guys don't shoot me down!

Day 6 and will of kevlar.

We CAN and we WILL

Hi KP82 , I know mixer meant well and I'm not going to shoot anyone down for trying anything but the whole point of the Gamcare forum is to be a close supportive community , were all Compulsive gamblers and we all arrived here because our live's had become unmanageable and we couldn't stop being on a destructive path . This place works because we all know how each other feels and can offer support and advice where we feel appropriate , Gamcare already have a set of rules which work pretty well In my humble opinion and maybe it's sometimes a question of "United we stand " ? .

As alway's it's your call and I wish you all well in whatever you decide to do " If it works ,it works but sometimes safety in numbers is whats needed especially in the early stages :)).

Stay well my friend :))

Hi Everyone,

Having read the numerous comments about my proposed setting up of a club, I can see that it isn't the best way forward. I can see how it could start a clique, ill feeling and could turn out to be immensely unhelpful to some. Anything that goes against the aims of Gamgare = no dice.

I can see that we have a club already; it's called Gamcare and the wealth of resources and help it offers!

I can see this now; all I can say in mitigation is that sometimes I can get blinded by my enthusiasm and determination and desperation perhaps to stop.

Thank you for all your comments - straight talking is always best - and the idea of a club is permanently parked. Worth putting out there for discussion though. If you don't ask you don't get!

Still going to stop gambling though. And bonds will still develop within the spirit and goodwill that we all share here. Ain't that right KP, Katie, Change, EVERYONE...? 🙂

Keep positive all! And great to hear you're not doing your nuts, KP!