Thanks soy your advice and comments have been a massive help to me and I really appreciate them thankyou pal.
Day 8
Saturday the first proper sat where all sports have been on and I've been off work I had some really bad urges this morning but got up and got busy decorated the back room been meaning to do it for months but necmver got round to it because of gambling got kids to muck in and made the Mrs very happy it's passed another day I'm just havi g tea with my family instead of bei g stuck upstairs watching football onto another good week of eating healthy and no gamblibg oh yes our first weigh in was today amd lost 8 pounds in first week really happy with that.
It's so hard but got to carry on one day at a time for now
Evening,
Tommy, have you purchase the Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters? If not, information below.
As he stated there are 3 versions of yourself; yourself, the chimp and the computer. The Chimp is roughly 3 or 4 times stronger than yourself. And the computer, just acts like a data base. Now, the chimp loves to take risk (the one who loves to gamble and is the risk taker), however, the attitude of the chimp is longer needed because the environment has changed dramatically. That's why you have strong feelings to gamble (this is the chimp) and take enormous risk. Youself and the computer can overcome the chimp through strategy; manipulate the environment where the chimp lives in. For example, put blocks in place, banks stopping gambling transactions, change the people who you hang around with etc.
It is nice that you're filling the time with small productive activities such as decorating etc. This is a small hit of personal satisfaction- this is a stable sense of happiness rather than riding on the roller-coaster such as gambling.
Keep up with the good work.
Xoi
Stay sane, safe, calm and take one day at a time
Day 9 had a rubbish today managed to finish the bedroom off got a lot to pay off this month and not enough coming in I suppose tomorrow is another day and going to be 10 days tomoz
Well done Tommy. Day 10 tomorrow and you are doing good.
You mentioned that you intend to self exclude from the betting shops. Don't know if you are aware but you can do that with as many bookies as you want through MOSES. Contact details can be found in the Forum Advice section.
Wishing you every success.
Aum
Thankyou for you reply aum I've signed up to the self exclusion scheme and done all the bookmakers I would go thankyou for your advice
Day 11 been a really tough day I owe more than I've got coming in this week a family to feed and a debt to pay to not such a nice person I'm just about getting by I've got full support of my Mrs and I'm working my b**t off to get us strait by the end of Feb should be back on our feet but until then it's going to be a struggle still a couple of positives are the diets going well since new year and I'm 11 days gamble free let's hope tomorrow's a better day
Hi Tommyt124,
Well done so far. Fill in the time as much as possible so that the thought and urge to gamble are never on your to do list.
By making a few changes of behaviour and mindset can go a long way in helping you to be gamble free.
Normal is usually boring and stable, this stability give you small does of pleasure such as taking a walk, making cups of coffee, sending the kids for football practice and so on.
Stay sane, safe, calm and take one day at a time
Xoi
Thanks soy you really have been great through my first few days and I'm taking all your advice on board
Day 12 much better day today work went well today and also had a little bit of positive news nits not always easy some days it will try to beat u but you can beat it with the right mind set I'm only early into recovery but already feeling better not having the stress of will they be over 2 goals will they be so many yellow cards and corners I've been learning a few things and I plan on keeping busy this weekend again doing some more decorating and jobs round the house nearly 2 week in come on I can do this this time is different
Hi Tommy 124,
Keep on going and you're doing good. Keep yourself busy and your life will soon be normalised again without the strong urges to gamble.
Stay sane, safe, calm and take one day at a time
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