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Sam301
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So first off, trust me, I know how you feel. 

In my gambling "career" I've done it all. Blown all my wages, done the same the next month and so on. I've actually blown my wages when I worked, to a point that I would carry on depositing into unauthorised overdraft territory, lose it all and end up having to pay all my wages into bank fee's the following month. This repeated time and time again.

I've lied to family to borrow money which I gambled and lost and they never saw again. I've tried to end my life, drunk myself stupid after gambling losses and I know all too well next day waking up after a massive gambling loss and at first I'm waking up as usual....then... "Oh ****" as I remember the damage I've done to my bank balance.

I gambled away 95% of my inheritance and oh there was the "tip of the iceberg" classic where I went into a bookies with my last tenner.... lost.... That flipped me and I just went into some mad frenzy, walking through town kicking shop windows and doors. The police were called who moved me on.

Yep it's been one extreme rollercoaster. Im 35 now and, well... From the age of 19 I can barely remember a time where I was even a few months gamble free.... Until now.....

Amazingly its been....... 289 DAYS GAMBLE FREE!!!!! Yes I haven't touched gambling since the end of last year.

I've never known my bank balance to be so healthy. This year I've bought £1000 of new clothes, I've always got extra money for the pub, I've earned interest on savings and I'm starting up my own business.

Really, if I can do it then it's certainly possible. 

The big turning point is with a lot of resources....GamStop....Get a bank account like Monzo and have debit card and cash withdrawal limits set low. 

As time goes on things become even more manageable.

Would I like a gamble now on the slots? Well....Yes!!... That's not the gambling addict in me talking, it's because slots are a lot of fun....BUT.... I don't want to. What's the point after all? All that will ever happen is I lose or I win but then I lose it all and it's back to day 1.

What also doesn't make me interested anymore is the whole chasing losses thing. When you are over your losses and you EVENTUALLY will be (100% without a doubt) there is no need to play to "win" it back. That was always a problem for me. I'd lose if I lose and lose if I won so then I'd be in a pattern of needing to win it back...Losing more...Then needing to win that back with the next money I come into...Then needing to win all of that back....and so on.

With all this time that's passed its less of "I can't gamble because of blocks and restrictions on my money" and more of "I don't want to gamble full stop".

You can do it!!!!  

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Posted : 11th October 2020 7:45 pm
Don1993
(@don1993)

@sam301. Waow, could of wrote that post myself, so so relatable, and part of me feels better knowing I am not the only person this has happened to. Genuinely shocked at how many people have been affected in the same way.

Great Post and hopefully other young men/women will see they aren't alone by reading this post and like you will see light at the end of the dark dark lonely tunnel gambling puts you in.

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Posted : 11th October 2020 7:59 pm
maxmaher
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great achievement i would just be very cautious of complacency 

a 16 year gambling addiction wont be cured in 9 months you must always be on your guard 

the fact you answer your own question about wanting to gamble on slots is an early warning sign gamblers are easily lulled into a false sense of security in abstinence and then all of a sudden bang 

a car breaks down , the house needs a repair , someone loses their job 

all of a sudden that little voice re appears "try your luck" and make no mistake 9 months work can vanish as quickly as the money

ive heard stories of gamblers with 2,5 even 10 years under their belt and they have been blind sided 

stay sharp stay alert

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Posted : 12th October 2020 8:50 am
Sam301
(@sam301)
Posted by: maxmaher

great achievement i would just be very cautious of complacency 

a 16 year gambling addiction wont be cured in 9 months you must always be on your guard 

the fact you answer your own question about wanting to gamble on slots is an early warning sign gamblers are easily lulled into a false sense of security in abstinence and then all of a sudden bang 

a car breaks down , the house needs a repair , someone loses their job 

all of a sudden that little voice re appears "try your luck" and make no mistake 9 months work can vanish as quickly as the money

ive heard stories of gamblers with 2,5 even 10 years under their belt and they have been blind sided 

stay sharp stay alert

The thing with me is I've never had an addiction per se, it's always been a problem. Especially when it came to mental health and the lack of support. Well... I think the addiction part was addicted to chasing loses. Like once lost, needing it back.

Typically it would be a low or something happened.... then I'd gamble... Then I'd be back in chasing my losses my and so on. Indeed though with this time, I've gone through complete hell in my life with certain things like having neighbours from hell move in to a point I've had to forfeit my home and move (cat's mess dumped outside my house, parking in my driveway, verbal abuse, etc). Yet... I didn't gamble. 

The thing I meant with would I like a gamble on the slots now was more about it being fun. Slots are designed to be fun because...well... nobody would play them otherwise. Yet this "fun" comes with huge consequences and to me it just has no appeal or thought about doing it.

Certainly for anyone who has experienced the "fun" of gambling knows it's "fun" and will always know that, but it's about improving your life and being firmly at peace accepting and not actually wanting to do it.

Of course guards can never be fully let down, but corners can be turned and barriers can be kept up (even now I still have a max £40 cash withdrawal and £40 debit card transaction limit per day)

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Posted : 12th October 2020 12:47 pm
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