that is a really good realisation to make delorean.
I know for me, it was the time that i spent was my worst nightmare
that being said, i found that finding something else to replace the time spent gambling was very difficult to do. I know in the early stages, i found it difficult to find things that i was content to do.
you talk about the occasional high moment, and to a greater or lesser extent that was true, but i found that doing things out with gambling, didnt even begin to nearly give me anything that approximated to the thrill that gambling gave me - win or loose!
but yes, i think that when it hits you that gambling is a serious waste of time, then that is when u can begin to look around you and see what it is that you want to do - with your life, and in your life.
One day at a time my friend will get u there
i hear you and so understand.
what helped me to understand how i was feeling was to think about what it was like to be driving at 50 miles and hour, and then come into a 30 miles per hour zone. It kind of feels like you could walk faster!
but those feelings do pass - they really do.
Again think about it, your brain is so so wired up, and your body is objecting big time to the buzz chemicals not being there.
There are sound physiological reasons for how you are feeling now, and i think if you can understand that, it kind of helps to ground you a little bit.
writing down how you are feeling also helps to bring you on to a more even keel. U might want to think about a diary?
sure its important to find things to do to fill the time, but i think that it is equally important to understand why you are feeling the way that you do
I'm hoping that tonight is the night I stop gambling for a long time. This weekend my bank account was refreshed with enough money to replace the wage id lost last month (i had to cash in other cash i was lucky to have elsewhere). I was convinced that by being cautious and and doing little by little, that i would win. I had some returns, but I end the weekend 400 down. Its proved to me that this pattern thats got me into my £1000s debt isnt going to change--I was deluded into thinking it would.
I realise that I was gambling out of greed...and chasing my losses because most gamblers have a determination to win. I enjoyed making money in the early days whenI won a little. But after the hell of the last month, I am really hoping I have realised that actually, I could save myself a lot of hassle and actually make rarherthan lose money if I actually keep my wage and save it up.
Ive lost a lot of money that I had, but thankfully I arent in debt as such. Im just gonna cut my losses I hope...as i know that if i carry on i will be in debt this time next year.
hope that reinforces your realisation...and we can both be happier, richer and wiser!
Hi DeLorean, just wanted to thank you for your post a few weeks ago ... early days but still gambling free.
Well done, glad to read you are going well. To be honest this thread should be a motivation. When I posted this in 2008 I could have stopped then and not wasted more time and money. Unfortunately I kept stopping and starting again. I just couldn't stop 100%. I found it very hard not leaving a way back every time. My advice for anyone is to stop now and be able to look back with fewer regrets.
Hi DeLorean, I see you are sneaking up on 100 days v soon so just popping over to say many congrats.
I remember you were one of the first posters when I first came on this site 🙂 hope things are going well for you and you will end the year on a high. That is what I intend to do - I was going great guns for nearly 160 days last year but then had a relapse. I learned from it an am now nearing 170 days and in a much better place than before so things looking up - still lots of debts to repay but have halved my debts and in another 20 months and I will be debt free .... it's not easy and a difficult life lesson to learn but I am much wiser now - I think 😉
Take care and stay strong.