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Macca
(@macca)

yes, it’s amazing how many sneaky slots you can fit in during the day. Just nip for a brew and fire it up and double click on the spin button to speed things up (so you don’t even see them spin properly any more!). Just nip to the loo and sit there spinning - not even using the loo!)....... so many opportunities - so you may feel pathetic but it’s so common I reckon. You ever thought of speaking to your partner about it all and how you feel?

I’m speaking as if I’m all sorted. I’m not. I’ve done the Gamstop but the thoughts are still there (fantasising about the big slot wins I’ve had and maybe if I’d just carried on a bit more I would have got another and then stopped). Then there are the implications on those closest to me - their anxiety that I may do it again; which leads to more anxiety for me. But by speaking to those closest to me (and speaking to an expert - and putting the gambling stops in place - and using this site - and speaking about it some more!) I hope to get over this addiction (which is what it is). It’s not easy and very up and down emotionally.

cheers 

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Posted : 25th September 2019 7:08 am
1975er
(@1975er)

Yes Macca you are right. I'm also speaking as if it is all sorted, but the past shows that I've thought that before. Possibly easier to take things one day (or one hour!) at a time, as it is easy to lapse. 

I've spoken to my partner about practically all of it. She thinks there is an element of self-destruction which i agree with (probably easier to spot when you are watching someone slot for hours on end and they are getting more and more agitated).

all the best!

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Posted : 25th September 2019 10:30 am
Macca
(@macca)

Self destruction! Yes! My wife said the same! She said I’ve always had a streak like that..... this time Ive been doing it gambling......

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Posted : 25th September 2019 10:37 am
1975er
(@1975er)

another of many reasons for this addiction. i have health problems and often its a case of "well im feeling miserable anyway so i might as well have something else to be miserable about." How many reasons are there for doing this?

- self-destruction

- poor physical health

-anxiety

- depression

-boredom

- financial problems

- escapism 

 

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Posted : 25th September 2019 12:51 pm
Macca
(@macca)

I’m sorry to hear you have health problems and understand your compulsion to gamble because of this. But unfortunately it adds to the problem. What kicked it off for me again at the start of this year was a number of things I think - including a minor health issue that restricted me from doing my normal routine. Not using that as an excuse, but it was one of a few things that could have influenced me.

take care

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Posted : 25th September 2019 2:44 pm
1975er
(@1975er)

Cheers, Macca! It seems people have various different triggers and these are the moments when you can be dragged back in.

I had some CBT treatment a year ago and one useful task was to list the pros and cons of doing a particular thing. As mentioned earlier, there is a long list of cons and barely any pros of slotting, so when I do lapse it feels like a weakness or a weak moment or a loss of control. Sometimes the urge is so strong that logic goes out of the window. Could be an emotional reaction rather than thinking things through properly. 

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Posted : 25th September 2019 7:40 pm
Macca
(@macca)

How are you, 1975er?

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Posted : 8th October 2019 9:40 pm
1975er
(@1975er)

Hi Macca, not bad thanks! How are things with you?

I had a 'moment' a few weeks ago. It was a Friday evening, usually time to relax, but I started slotting just before we ate, then rushed through the meal and I was back slotting again. My partner was really P*ssed off (and she's put up with a lot), so that was a reality check and following that 'my' slot was surprisingly removed from the market thanks to the ukgc, so at the moment I'm staying away from them. I know if I played various games I would soon find another favourite, so I'm trying my best to keep away completely. 

 

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Posted : 13th October 2019 9:23 pm
The only way is up
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Hi i joined a couple of days ago after finally admitting i had a problem !!.

I mentioned in my original introduction , that i have never gambled online , but if i was in that situation . the first thing i would do if you want to stop all the contact and freebies , is change your mobile number , and also your email address . obviously send the new details out to people . i have done both within the last few years , and i do not get any hassle off anybody atm . give that a try . then the need for game banning sites becomes redundant . 

give it a try . ps its amazing to thing now i have wiped out my funds and i can't gamble how clear my thinking is .

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Posted : 15th October 2019 8:38 pm
Forum admin
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Admin

Hi the only way is up,

Thank you for sharing that on our forum. You sound very positive.  

Best Wishes

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Posted : 15th October 2019 9:23 pm
Macca
(@macca)

Hi, yer I’m ok thanks. Not gambled at all  for about a month. It’s a strange state of mind. The buzz of gambling seems so real but instead the act is just an elevated state of mind to get you to feel normal. Looking back; a big win (and I really did get the big ones I sought after, and you see in the flipping internet - but I’ve lost more!!) feels like a big buzz (but I think the big buzz is actually a feeling of massive relief that you have regained losses; I now know it was just relief)

id love to be able to enjoy gambling; because I think I enjoy it. But I can’t gamble. Because it’s awful and I don’t enjoy it, really. I just think I do. Nightmare! 😊.

sorry for rambling on. I’m still going too and forth with this in my own mind, let alone yours.

I hope things get better for you. I’m battling hard to change my frame of mind to someone who doesn’t feel the need to gamble and can see sense that there is nothing to be gained apart for the very, very few (Like a lottery winner - but even then I Think winning the lottery would probably ruin a life 😊.......why oh why do we bother!

there is so much to be lost by gambling as we all know. And even if we did win big, I’m not sure that would help either. Either we win big and then waste huge amounts of time spending it again; or we win stupid amounts and it would change everything and ruin things on a whole different level.

anyway,

take care. Cutting them off at the pass is definitely the best first step (for me) as I’ve mentioned before. Gamstop 👍

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Posted : 15th October 2019 10:46 pm
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