Feel totally numb

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uk126
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Hi everyone 

 

Been gambling since I was 18. I’m now 26 and have easily blew 20k plus in that time. I’m not in any debt and have savings but that doesn’t make it any easier. I have recently had a really bad relapse and feel absolutely numb. Why do I feel like I’m the only one that can’t win in this game? Literally I’m the worst gambler either that or just have the worst luck.  

I can’t mentally get over my gambling losses. It sits in the back of my head and nags away at me all day. 20k is more than double what I currently have saved and to think I’ve blown that, I may as well threw it down the drain it’s sickening. 

 
Posted : 30th August 2020 9:30 pm
(@peter86)
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if you are in no debt and have savings you have plenty of hope mate. My position is a million times worse. good luck

 
Posted : 30th August 2020 10:00 pm
(@andy3568)
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Trust me mate you ain’t got it as bad as you’d think get help you’ll be good 

 
Posted : 30th August 2020 11:15 pm
(@bladesman)
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Stop now before you get into debt. Register with Gamstop and put betblocker on your devices, this is the only way. Like most of us you are chasing losses you know you will never win back so, even though it's hard, draw a line in the sand and accept that money is gone for good but stop before it gets any worse.

If it will help speak to a gamcare advisor for advice on the way forward.

Good luck

 

 
Posted : 31st August 2020 12:02 am
Joydivider
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Hi cd1994 and welcome

You need a full recovery to heal your mind.

Its not an income scheme and the odds are set against you. Someone has to lose and that's usually you on those odds. It could be you every time losing and that's why its called gambling.

Even on the flip of a coin with a 50% chance somebody has to lose and you are ignoring the risk with your mind showing all the signs of addiction.

You have to get over those losses...thats what you did with the money and you now have to start learning about this addiction as a drug addiction.

A gambling addict is addicted to the act of playing. In the heat of the moment you ate getting a fix your body craves and its all going to go your way with a head full of lady luck or lucky clover. It all makes perfect sense to an addicted mind that you are not in control of

Your money goes on crazy odds like 36-1 or thousands to 1. The gambling dens will fleece you all day on even lower odds.  NOBODY is offering you life changing odds on a no brainer decision. You have seen the results of gambling.  If it really paid off nobody would get up for work in the morning

The money will never be enough for you...yes something comes your way every once in a while but you will give it all back anyway until all your savings vanish and you start borrowing heavily.

Gambling is not for you. Its a mugs game and you must stop now. There is no shame in reaching out for help.

You are not alone in what you have done. There are thousands even millions who became hooked because it is highly addictive.

You can build your life again if you stop now and tell people close. If you chase those losses they will take everything else you have. You are gambling with your self respect and freedom...realise now whats really been on the line here!

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

 
Posted : 31st August 2020 12:09 am
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Dear ccd199,

Thank you for posting and sharing your experience. It sounds like you struggling to make sense of your gambling and what you have lost. Please give us a call on 0808 8020 133 or come through on live chat https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/ and we can discuss what is going on for you and ways in which we can help.

We look forward to hearing from you,

take care

John

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Posted : 31st August 2020 5:31 am
(@charlieboy)
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Hi cd1994, no-one wins with compulsive gambling because as is the nature of the beast winning leads to bigger binges/ loses. People who win big are few and far between you will struggle to find a compulsive gambler whos won big withdrawn the money and stopped gambling. For me winning was worse than losing led to more destruction. The only way forward is to abstain now before you have lost everything and more and there are more serious things to lose than just money. Best wishes

 
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