Today is the first day I make some very big changes.
Sign over financial control.
Self exclude from online gambling.
Self exclude from the betting shops.
like a lot of people here this have been going on for a long time and I have lost a lot of money. I could talk about this for hours but laying in my bed thinking about did not help. I read a post saying what has happened has happened you can’t change it.
I broke down and told my wife she knew bits but not all. All she wants to do is help me to get help and support. I phoned GamCare yesterday and they gave me links for support that I did not know where out there. This made me feel that this can be stopped with a bit of hard work and support.
My and my Wife have a note book we have started and everyday we talk about the things I have done that day and what I need todo the next day. Sounds very weird but it gives me focus and allows my wife to help me and if I miss something she can help.
Here is for today Day 1 taking back control.
Moving Forward.
Good luck Alex, it's so good you have the support of your wife
It's a long road, just take each hour and each day
I'm nearly 2 months GF, I never thought I could dig myself out of the big hole I dug, but I'm getting there, my anxiety is next to none and I'm sleeping. I rang all of my creditors and arranged minimal payments, so no letters are coming through my door now....huge relief
All I can say is hang in there, I promise you will feel so much better a few weeks down the line
Good luck!
Well done Alex this is so reassuring reading this I am also taking my first steps on recent days I spoke to a therapist today and said in a couple of months financially you will already be better off so I'm holding onto that hope good luck i like the idea or a notebook diary I am going to do the same
bit of hard work and support....
My and my Wife have a note book we have started and everyday we talk about the things I have done that day and what I need to do the next day. Sounds very weird but it gives me focus and allows my wife to help me and if I miss something she can help.
Alex,
Doesn't sound weird at all.
Yes, you do have to work at your recovery every day, but what people can lack sometimes is a structure & feedback.
The diary sounds like great idea.
Just take it one day at a time, but being open with your partner, self excluding and handing over finances are massive first steps.
So now on day 3 and feel a lot happier today. Opened up to my parents this was very hard to do and did not know how it would go down. It had to be done and glad I did it. I feel to today I achieved something good and have something to say I did all on my own.
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