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Chx
 Chx
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Hi All,

i attended meetings back about 8 years ago I was gambling and in debt and needed to stop.. I was a single mum with a 1 year old and life was spieling of of control.

 

i setup a debt repayment and got control of my life and went to uni...

 

fast forward now I have my own business make really good money and have built up savings / Nice house / nice cars / a Fiance / good home life but gambling never really left me . I have been gambling for 11 years however I earn good money and stop before I get into debt. However during lockdown Iv gambled 5 figure sums and worried when does this ever stop ! I’ve removed myself from all betting sites however found trading and that is ten times worse ! 

Iv told my partner for the 3rd time and closed the trading sites down but I just want to stop for good now but I’m an accountant and feel I can’t attend meetings due to maybe a client seeing me or word getting out as I run a successful business.

to add fuel the fire my partner is a gambling g addict to however I’m in control of all finances so he has been great for years now just me secretly blowing the cash

 

im ready to stop and needed to come and get it off my chest 

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Posted : 22nd September 2020 8:54 am
Forum admin
(@forum-admin)
Admin

Dear @businesswoman1

Thank you for posting on the forum and for sharing your story.

Firstly, I would like to say what a achievement it was to become gamble free previously and I think that you should hold on to that. It shows the determination that you applied in turning your life around. It is great to hear that you were able to regain control of your gambling and go to university.

I do understand though that gambling has drawn you back at times and the difficulties that you describe around lockdown will be familiar to other problem gamblers. This has been a very difficult time.

If you haven’t already done so I would suggest that you get in touch with one of our Advisers and talk to them about the sort of support that is available to you, we are here to help 24/7. Please call 0808 8020 133 or come through to us using the netline.

Kind regards

Jo

Forum admin

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Posted : 22nd September 2020 11:20 am
sanpablo
(@sanpablo)

Good luck to you and well done on as admitting that your gambling has got out of control.You’ve has the strength to overcome it before and you will again.

Like you, I also got into share trading during lockdown and although at first I did quite well, I quickly realised the hold it was getting over me

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Posted : 22nd September 2020 7:00 pm
Gambling_toad
(@gambling_toad)

Hello businesswoman, 

Well done on having a successful business but above all accepting you have a problem with gambling.

I you can stop now life can be better. So hop as high as you can over this big hurdle that is gambling addiction. 

Don't give them your hard earned money.  I was also a gambler but toad croaked loudly and give gambling the hop.

Stay safe on your lily pad.

Best regards, 

TOAD

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Posted : 22nd September 2020 7:33 pm
Chris.UK
(@chris-uk)

@businesswoman1.  Firstly, could you not have a shorter name? Takes far too long typing!

Seriously though, I wouldn't worry about who you might see at a meeting, if that's what you're talking about. Anyone you see there is also there because they have a problem and are seeking help. Unless you've been, you don't know the camaraderie that the meetings produce. It's like a second family, and in my experience, of over 30 years, I've never had people gossip or spread stories about me because of GA. The saying "what is said in the room stay in the room" is very true. How anonymous is up to you. 

However successful you might be, if you continue with your gambling it will get progressively worse, as it has recently. I did write a comparison example of where you could end up but I don't think it's necessary. You're clearly intelligent, you know the paths people take, for the sake of your ego don't take the wrong one.

Chris.

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Posted : 22nd September 2020 8:53 pm
EmmaPoint
(@emmapoint)

Hello businesswoman, I was (am) similar, spreadbetting was and is my downfall.   I'm having to fight being enticed back.  Reached the bottom several times over the last few times, recovered and started again.  Hand on heart, i know that I have a gambling mentality that sets the mental odds against me, no matter how much I learn.  Its ridiculous, and so easy to get back into.    Hugs 

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Posted : 23rd September 2020 4:37 pm
Chx
 Chx
(@chx)

Hey all thanks for the reply ! 

I have also shortened my user name to make it easier lol

i have booked in to speak to a professional on Monday and GamCare sorted this for me ! 

im currently down at our caravan and for the first time in forever I have not played any puggies not even had the urge I just feel I am now ready to turn my life around for good this time ! I’m young and have a lot of things to look forward to in life and having gambling ruining my life is defo no more ! 

wish everyone all the best xx

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Posted : 27th September 2020 12:13 pm
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