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Nufc123
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Hi, I'm new here but I want to write down my situation, I'm not quite sure why and. I'm not even sure it's going to make sense lol but here goes...

I like to bet on any sport (football, horses, even volleyball!) and blackjack. I have done for nearly 8 years now, I went cold turkey and stopped gambling after attempting suicide over the addiction back in 2015, but for the past 3 years, it has come back with a vengeance. 

My grandparent gave me their card to help do their shopping during lockdown, and said if I needed anything then to put it on the card, I'm sure you know what's coming next..

I've somehow managed in the space of 6 days to have spent nearly £1,000 and I don't know how to stop.

I've tried deleting the app or removing the card but I always seem to go back, and I'm scared of what it's going to do to me again.

I can't sleep at night, I don't sleep before 7am and I'm up at 10am. I feel irritable constantly and my head bangs.

I'm sorry if that doesn't make sense or it's too long. 

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Posted : 29th May 2020 5:25 am
Pep1952
(@pep1952)

Hi

First thing I'd do is return the card and register on gamstop.  Confess to your grandparents and work out a plan on how you can return them the money you stole (every single penny) from them. This is going to be very difficult but you need to insist to return ALL of the money, over the next months or years. They need to know you have a gambling problem and tell them to never ever lend you their card again.  If they need help with shopping, you can still do that.  Supermarkets have gift cards that you can use instead. Sainsburys has an e-gift card, i'm sure the others have it too. Highly suggest you join GA. I'm not a gambler but my partner is. 

Really hope it goes well from here on for you.

 

 

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Posted : 29th May 2020 3:34 pm
Walker031
(@walker031)

Hi, somehow I ended up in here, read your post and wanted to reply so I have just signed up, I'm no expert and can only say what works for me. Its 2 month since I last gambled, also 2 month since I had any C*****e,(there's a link with the two!) I lost over 6 grand in one night but since them in had a change of mindset and hopefully I can keep it that way, I used to like a bet on the footie as well but since then I've lost interest. Sorry for rambling on! Firstly try not to worry, everyone can get themselves in a hole, you have to understand why you gamble, it's took me years to work that out but in the last few week something has clicked! Try and get into something, do exercise, go a walk, read a book, I find listening to podcasts can be motivational and keep my mind occupied and off gambling! I play football manager quite a lot just something that keeps the mind occupied, listening to music or watching box sets, I have also started trying to eat healthier(not always easy!) Healthy body healthy mind! Remember your  not alone there's always someone in a worse situation! Hope something out of all this is of a help! If you ever need to chat in here 

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Posted : 29th May 2020 6:06 pm
Chris.UK
(@chris-uk)

Hello,

There is an acronym in GA as well as recovery, f.E.A.R. This can either mean face everything and recover or forget(Fxxk) everything and run.

You just need to decide what you want to do. Face it now, deal with it and the fallout but cause no more trouble or make it worse? 

You will have to deal with it at some time. My experience was to always to run away, never facing up to it and I only ever made it worse and only facing up to my gambling when it was too late. If I could have dealt with my mistakes before I made them worse it would have been so much better. 

I also understand that it's scary but consider yourself at a junction. Left or right?  What will you do when all the money has gone? Just do it now before you make it worse because you will never make it better all the while that you gamble. 

I hope you choose the right path.

Chris.

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Posted : 29th May 2020 6:33 pm
Kevthekev40
(@kevthekev40)

I can see how you got into this position and I know exactly that dread you feel in the pit off your stomach,  can I win it back well what's the chance off you draining all the money out of the account as you know the bets only get bigger and bigger plus your at an amount now that you can pay back over time and I know they may feel mad but at there age they will know we all make mistake and it takes a bigger man too admit to what they've done and it gives you someone to help you through this as it's a s**t life that will only get shutter you've got the power in you to admit to you're mistake and I wish you all the best in you gambling free life as nothing but harm and shame comes from stealing from the ones you love 

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Posted : 29th May 2020 9:25 pm
Nufc123
(@nufc123)
Posted by: Pep1952

Hi

First thing I'd do is return the card and register on gamstop.  Confess to your grandparents and work out a plan on how you can return them the money you stole (every single penny) from them. This is going to be very difficult but you need to insist to return ALL of the money, over the next months or years. They need to know you have a gambling problem and tell them to never ever lend you their card again.  If they need help with shopping, you can still do that.  Supermarkets have gift cards that you can use instead. Sainsburys has an e-gift card, i'm sure the others have it too. Highly suggest you join GA. I'm not a gambler but my partner is. 

Really hope it goes well from here on for you.

 

 

Thank you so much! I have finally come clean and I am taking steps to get help 🙏

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Posted : 4th June 2020 12:57 pm
Nufc123
(@nufc123)
Posted by: Chris.UK

Hello,

There is an acronym in GA as well as recovery, f.E.A.R. This can either mean face everything and recover or forget(Fxxk) everything and run.

You just need to decide what you want to do. Face it now, deal with it and the fallout but cause no more trouble or make it worse? 

You will have to deal with it at some time. My experience was to always to run away, never facing up to it and I only ever made it worse and only facing up to my gambling when it was too late. If I could have dealt with my mistakes before I made them worse it would have been so much better. 

I also understand that it's scary but consider yourself at a junction. Left or right?  What will you do when all the money has gone? Just do it now before you make it worse because you will never make it better all the while that you gamble. 

I hope you choose the right path.

Chris.

I faced everything and I'm going to recover eventually. Thank you so much for your reply it really helped ☺️ 

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Posted : 4th June 2020 12:59 pm
Nufc123
(@nufc123)
Posted by: Walker031

Hi, somehow I ended up in here, read your post and wanted to reply so I have just signed up, I'm no expert and can only say what works for me. Its 2 month since I last gambled, also 2 month since I had any C*****e,(there's a link with the two!) I lost over 6 grand in one night but since them in had a change of mindset and hopefully I can keep it that way, I used to like a bet on the footie as well but since then I've lost interest. Sorry for rambling on! Firstly try not to worry, everyone can get themselves in a hole, you have to understand why you gamble, it's took me years to work that out but in the last few week something has clicked! Try and get into something, do exercise, go a walk, read a book, I find listening to podcasts can be motivational and keep my mind occupied and off gambling! I play football manager quite a lot just something that keeps the mind occupied, listening to music or watching box sets, I have also started trying to eat healthier(not always easy!) Healthy body healthy mind! Remember your  not alone there's always someone in a worse situation! Hope something out of all this is of a help! If you ever need to chat in here 

That's exactly what I've been trying to do to take my mind off it is Football Manager lol, it's so easy to just get caught up in it all especially when teams score/win etc

But thank you so much 🙏 

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Posted : 4th June 2020 1:01 pm
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