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Hi all, I haven't been here for 4 years. I accepted I had a problem with my gambling in 2016, at the time I was seeing someone who was involved in the betting industry which made it hard to have a life without a bet. It was always there. I got my life sorted a while ago, cleared my debts and started a new relationship. 2020 came along and my relationship broke down, now I live on my own and the gambling has just gone up and up. Yesterday I burnt a load of money I don't have. I have a loan and a big credit card bill. I have to stop. When I was in the thick of it last night I googled ending my life. How has this happened to me? I know nobody can sort this out but me. I just hope everyone else is doing ok. 

Posted : 19th October 2020 11:39 am
Forum admin

Hi ,  sweeper

Thanks for reaching out , well done for making this post this morning. 

I am sorry you are going through a really tough time at the moment, you are not alone . There is plenty of support available to you and there's always hope.

Please feel free to contact the GamCare Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or Netline to explore the additional support available to you. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week if you would like to talk to one of the GamCare HelpLine advisers.

I would encourage you to make an appointment with your GP surrounding your anxiety and any other feelings you may be experiencing due to gambling.

If you're feeling suicidal, I'll advise you to contact the Samaritans on: 116 123, contact 999 - ambulance or the Police, Papyrus on: 0800 068 4141, your local A &E, or your G.P.

All the best and take care 


Forum Admin 

Posted : 19th October 2020 11:42 am

Hi Mate......glad you posted and said everything. Most of us have been deeply desperate like you at times but you know what, doing something drastic isn't the answer mate.  Look at the positives - you can't be a complete minger as you've had at least two birds in the last 4 years and I know plenty who have had none!

Gambling addiction never ends and you know that. One small mistake and boom back to your worst. Follow the advice and ban yourself all over again.  I live by myself too and have lost thousands and could cry at the waste. But you cant ever get it back and must put it behind you and concentrate on small goals; in a month you will have a bit more cash. In 3 months you will not have as much debt. In 12 months, trust me on this, you will think you are loaded - but thats only because you are so skint now but its better all the time.

Its easy to say this but the only way to stop is to stop.  The debt will go. Things do get better so keep on in there.

If you feel tempted to chase what you have lost you will lose more - I know. I'm one of the mugs who have done it.

Get help and follow the advice above. It does get better trust me.



This post was modified 1 month ago by M&P
Posted : 19th October 2020 12:31 pm

Hi Mickpa, thanks for taking the time to write that, means a lot, especially today. I'm so disappointed and angry with myself. I've been so irresponsible and stupid. I know this time I have to be different because its taking over my life. It literally consumes me. How long have you been sober? Thank you again.

Posted : 19th October 2020 12:42 pm

Hi Sweeper 

We all know those feelings well but please speak to some body to talk through how you are feeling . 
You have done it before and I’m sure you can do this again . 
It’s so easy to get drawn back in but all It does is make us feel unhappy  and go through all those emotions as you have said 

I wish you well 


Posted : 19th October 2020 10:04 pm

I am running up a slippery slope and know that I am going to slid back down again.  That's how I honestly feel about it.......I have no confidence that I won't do it again. Its hope not expectation.

I read all these posts and they are all me. Every single post is me............I know more about gambling and particularly horses than anyone I've ever known. I tell bookies what their rules are when there are disputes.

Good look.....keep fighting.

Posted : 20th October 2020 10:47 am
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