I don’t think people judge anyone on here, it’s more of making people truly understand that they have a problem.
It all boils down to people with an addiction (like myself who has lost over 100k in 5 years) that YOU HAVE TO WANT TO QUIT.
Hundreds of times over the last 5 years I have had a relapse.....why? Because I didn’t want to quit enough!!
Today I am 40 days GF & feel fantastic, am I cured no? But is it different for me this time....YES, BECAUSE IT HAS TO BE!
You have to want to help yourself in this world, nobody can hold your hand, they can only help & advise. Everyone makes mistakes along the way, some good, some bad. I have made many mistakes in life & gambling has ruined the last 5 years of mine. But it’s not going to ruin any further part of it.
Us as compulsive gamblers are always making excuses as to why we relapse, oh I saw an offer so I had to take it, I walked past the bookies & it lured me in, I self excluded but it still let me bet, can I get my 10k back that I lost!! We all have that choice....beat it or be beaten. I have been beaten every single time apart from now.
I keep saying this but YOU HAVE TO WANT IT ENOUGH TO QUIT or we will relapse. We have to go through the sleepless nights, the cold sweats, the dreams of winning all our money back, the constant urges to gamble, to get through to the other side, & believe me after losing 100k in 5 years I have done that.
Stay disciplined, determined & dedicated.
C17ort what a great read and well done on your 40 days gf. Reading this was like looking in the mirror, I've relapsed before but this time it's all or nothing too!! I'm 22 days gf today and like yourself I have my life back.
I hope people read this and understand the sleepless nights and dreams are normal!! When I had my first dream I was ashamed, scared I was the only 1 but the group chat on gamcare sorted me right out. People are amazing on there including yourself.
The biggest thing I believe is you have to admit you're ill, 2nd is you want to stop.
Enjoy the new life we have.
Well done Deano, I remember chatting to you on your first day on here. Now think about how better you feel now 22 days on?!! We both love football & our clubs & we can enjoy watching that without it being associated with a bet.
Forget about the lost money, we can never get that back, look to the future & putting little bits of money a side. I have managed to save a couple of hundred pound, which I keep in my drawer upstairs. It’s not much but it’s mine & not the betting companies this time!!
You have to keep driving forward & before you know it, you will end up just where you want to be 🙌
But sometimes it comes across as others thinking they know better or that is so easy to quit !
Yes it's down to the individual but everyone has their own struggles own recovery path own timing
I'm 50 days gamble free it's not as easy as some make it sound
At the end of the day theres been a time we all couldn't stop otherwise we wouldn't be here
Yes my 1st day, what a memory that was, so scared, upset and empty inside but you all made me feel welcomed and supported.
Football o football!! I find myself more involved than ever as my mind isn't occupied on what I've placed!! Still have the odd thought etc I would've done that (yea course you would Dean) but apart from that I can sit analyse and enjoy the game!!
Lou I totally agree, it's not easy, and sorry if that's how I make it sound!! I find that talking and talking keeps me more focused, apologies if I come across different!! I like to think in the 22 days I've been on chat I've got to know a few people very well and understand some struggle more than others, some feel as if they need to escape from other issues. Once again sorry if offended, hope you've warmed up now from the cold as I know how much you hate the cold.
Once again thank you all
First of all, congratulations on you GF achievement. I think it differs for each and every one of us, my problem was with online gambling and it was only the stark realisation that I could not pay my tax bill that I decided enough was enough, as soon as I signed up with Gamstop it stopped me dead in my tracks and I've been following the road of financial recovery ever since and should be debt free in around 6 months time. I've always found people on here to be really helpful and supportive, sometimes it's tough love but that's what some folk need, I wish I'd posted on here sooner than I did and got someone to give me a reality check on my attitude to it all. Once again, well done and keep up the good work.