I have serious gambling problems which has put me in a very messed up situation. I have been gambling for the past 3-4 years and have lost so much money. The money which I borrowed from friends and family with the hope of making my losses back. Over this time, I had to tell my husband about what I’ve done twice as I had to pay my debts back and didn’t have any choices left. He obviously got very upset and angry but since he loves me so much, he helped me paying some of it back, but he told me if I do this ever again he’ll leave me. I started gambling again as I hadn’t told him the truth about the actual amount of my debts and I was hoping I could make some money to pay the rest of my debts and will be done with gambling forever. But as you probably know that almost never happens and instead I ended up with more debt.
now people I borrowed money from have asked for their money and all I can think about is ending my life as I’d rather die than seeing my husband suffer again.
please someone tell me what to do, I wouldn’t be here writing in this forum if I wasn’t desperate for help and advise.
Hello S4R4-82,
Please consider calling us on our freephone 0808 8020 133 or netline so you can have a confidential chat with an adviser for some immediate emotional support, we are available 24 hours a day.
It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed by the difficulties created by your gambling problem. You don't mention whether you have any professional support to help you with your recovery from your gambling problem; GamCare offers free 1-2-1 treatment sessions, if you like you could have telephone appointments or online sessions by live videolink. Please call us for more details.
It is concerning that you have thoughts about ending your life. You could talk with your GP about your suicidal thoughts, in case they can provide medical support to help you with your mood. You could also call the Samaritans on their short freephone 116 123, anytime you feel like talking about any suicidal feelings.
https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
Take care,
Adam.
Hi about 3 weeks ago, your story was mine! I’ve been gambling for about 3 years my husband found out a week before Xmas when we received court summons for council tax, he paid it in full out of money he’d saved up! I told him I’d stop and use gamstop but I wasn’t ready to give up & lasted 2 weeks or so and started gambling again! He then found out for a second time when our housing officer called him because our rent arrears were so bad we were being given a notice to quit & would lose our home! He went mad, told me to stop but still I never ? then 3 weeks ago he knew something was going on (because my mood was up and down) he went and checked our bank Acc and realised I had spent £700 (which I lost) long story short I thought he would leave me for good! He loves me and has forgiven me but that’s it now! He already has somewhere to go if I mess up again!
My advice to you is go on gamstop and register to block all gambling sites that are registered in the uk, give your husband control of money and bank and PayPal accounts and be honest with him! If he loves you as much as you’ve stated he will be angry but he will want to support you! You have to be completely honest and believe me I know it’s hard but it is the ONLY way!
good luck
P.s I’m gamble free over 3 weeks
Hello S4r4,
however it seems now it's only money. Do you think anyone you owe money to would rather hear the news that you've taken your own life? I suspect they would all say if only you had told them or talked to them rather than take your own life.
It's clear that you need help and need to talk to someone who understands. Give the Gamcare advisers a call or give gamblers anonymous a call, however at the moment I think Gamcare should be a better call to make at the moment because all GA will do is guide you to a meeting and they are currently closed, except online.
You need to talk to someone to know that you're not alone. As bad as it seems now, it can get better. My first suggestion is your husband. You need to tell him the truth at some time and better do it so you can move forward in honesty. Tell him everything. All the while you keep it a secret it keeps the chance of you gambling to fix your situation more likely.
I hope you find the strength.
Chris.
Please if you only listen to one thing I say don't take your life as about 4wks ago I felt the same after losing £7300 in the space off an hour on the roulette machine online. Didn't know what I was going to do as I didn't have this sort off money to lose, all I can say is I tried to kill myself. 12hrs later my daughter found me she's only 19 and I had put her through this. After spending 5 day's in hospital I had to come home to my partner and kids, My kids forgave me and told me no amount off money would make up for My life. I won't lie to you my partner and me are still strained but we're getting there as so much help has been giving to me and she knows I'm trying my best to get past all the hurt we feel as a family through my gambling. Reach out to your husband involve him in your recovery but please don't do what I did as money can be replaced, you never will be, your an addict there's loads of us about but now a days the help that is out there is so much more than before, please let me know your safe as you'll get by this I can promise you this and if I can stop one person from going down that dark road then I'll be a happy man. Be honest tell the true amount of money you owe and work with the help out there to stop gambling as we all know there only one winner and they don't care about us, stay safe and if you need to know who helped me and are still to this day just let me know things can only get better. .....
Panic is destructive. Turning the same thoughts, again and again, is also destructive. Ending oneself is a wasted opportunity. You may be the next answer to help stop gambling addiction for thousands. Your brain has potential beyond your wildest dreams. Right now you are just stuck in a loop but you will ev break lose from that and you will start to look at things in a much clearer way. If you look at this forum it is filled with people who are going through the same as you so you are definitely in the right place to get help. You may feel that you are in the eye of the storm right now but believe me every storm however bad passes and yours will pass to.
Stay strong and steer your ship. You need a plan and you will know where to go.
Regs
C
Life has a strange way off sorting it's self out we think the worst and it's usually not as bad, we have to own up to our choices and try to explain as best asvwe can some times we don't even know ourselves but the words will come out and all the lies we have told do nothing but play on our head and make us think in a distorted way, you Will get there asvwe all have to talk to each other and help each other through the messes we've got ourselves in for one thing we definitely have got into some messes and we're not the only ones so stay safe and next week Will be better than today I promise you this believe in yourself my friend
What a lovely set off words. Straight from the heart . You've got a way with words my friend I believe you will help a lot off people, stay safe keep commenting
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