Once again I find myself online gambling then after the guilt kicks in about what I could of done with the money.....
Really need to sort my S##t out..
Feeling the same thing here Ash.
I need blocks in place to protect myself. Gamstop is a must.
all the best
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Hey Ash, Ive just signed upto this site. I cant count the amount of times I've been in that position, walking away from a bookies saying thats it ill never go back in. I always have. I've managed somehow to ban myself from all bookmakers in my area, I found this was a good first step. I then signed up to Gamstop to ban my online betting, I found not only that I had opened multiple accounts in family members names to get sign up offers but I was just gambling for the sake of gambling. I'd often just deposit a tenner on xxx 1 minute before a horse race and stick it on anything this happened 10 times or more a day until I had lost everything, so Gamstop has helped this for me. I am currently at the stage of excluding myself from the arcades in my town, which I think I can do all of them through Bacta (but dont quote me on this I have only just emailed them) I think the thing that has helped me more than anything though is the help and support I have received from a brilliant partner. I wanted to change for both of us which made things slightly easier but still didnt stop me from getting into around £xxx worth of debt. I now have a debt relief order in place which helps with some debts but not ones I have in other peoples names. It's going to be a while before I can pay these off but I hope the restrictions I have managed to put in place will be enough to help me stop for good. Ill be more than happy to help should you need anything.
Hi Ash,
No blocks, no recovery, it's that simple. There's a fire burning inside you & until you starve it of oxygen there's little chance of getting better. Accept we can't stop off our own steam. Accepting we are powerless over this wretched addiction is a must. If that's not bad enough we have to accept we can't be trusted with handling money, getting over that shame is hard. But believe me refusing to accept what's staring you in your face is ten times harder. Time to hand the finances over to someone who isn't addicted. My wife is the paymaster now. Do i get everything i want ? NO. However she makes sure i have everything i need, it ain't nearly as bad as i imagined.
Stay Strong
AL
Hi
It was my choice to set boundaries so that I would not escape to gambling addictions or obsessions.
By me set boundaries was an indication that I no longer wanted to hurt myself or other people.
The money was just the fuel for my addiction.
I did not respect myself and I did not respect money.
By investing my time and my effort in to the recovery program indicated that I wanted to value myself.
By me not taking large amounts of money on my person indicated that I was willing to change and remove temptations from myself.
The addictions and obsessions were a form of escaping in my fears, the addictions and obsessions were a symptom that I was emotionally vulnerable.
Until I admitted to myself I was unhealthy I was not willing or able to change towards healthy living.
I am in deed a non religious person yet I do embrace spiritual values in to my life.
My unhealthy reaction in my anger was due to my pains not healed, my fears not faced, my frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, I use to think that being angry was healthy, not today being angry is not healthy in any way for me today.
My unhealthy reaction in my anger caused further aggression and confrontation, my anger caused people to fear me.
My default reaction is guilt and shame and feeling unworthy of good things.
When do I want to stop self abusing myself and my family.
When do I want to become emotionally detached from all feelings and emotions towards gambling addictions and obsessions.
In my recovery I moved from self destruction towards healthy living.
Not wasting time, not wasting relationships, not wasting money, not wasting relationships, not wasting the love of people towards me.
The addictions and obsessions were a form of escaping in my fears, the addictions and obsessions were a symptom that I was emotionally vulnerable.
All the time I was focused on money lost being in action and the gambling establishments I was not looking at myself as being unhealthy and my emotional triggers.
Please keep going to meetings, you will benefit from it in so many ways.
Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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