Hi, I’ve been thinking about joining and posting for a while now.
I’ve always enjoyed gambling, never had a problem. I xxxx on a football bet in January.
Then I used the winnings to start betting on Roulette... you can guess the rest...
wow, this is brilliant. I am winning even more money... then oh s**t, I’ve lost some of my original big winnings, then I’m chasing and chasing and winning again but then losing and chasing and chasing again.
I have two children, everything else in my life is perfect. I thought I’d never let gambling affect me but now I realise days I don’t gamble, I’m sad, P****d off and even angry for no reason.
I even feel happier today gambling even though I have lost. I’ve lost £9k today.
luckily I am not in debt. I had £24k in the bank at the start of the year. I now have £3k so I’m hoping it’s not too late for me. I just hope I don’t start betting with my remaining balance. My job is in doubt with the way the world is so that is stressing me too and making me feel worse and guilty as well. Don’t know what to think anymore.
Any help or advice is much appreciated.
Welcome to the Forum where you will find support, inspiration and identification with others who are in Recovery from problem gambling. You have described in your post where you had a win, however, the winnings gradually went back and the chasing the losses started. Problem gambling is cunning, powerful and baffling and without help it is too much.
Many people find it very useful to get advice and support for how to deal with the detrimental impact of gambling harm - I do hope you can to. You state in your post all the negatives that come with gambling, however, you go on to say that "I even feel happier today gambling even though I have lost. I’ve lost £9k today" - perhaps you are unsure how you feel. I encourage you to call one of our Advisers, available 24/7 so you can discuss the best way to overcome the gambling issues you are currently facing. You can contact them by calling our Helpline on 0800 0820 133 or using our LiveChat option.
In the meantime, I wish you all the very best on your Recovery Journey - one day at a time. Please know that you are no longer alone.
The hardest thing to do is stop when the money is there. U think u’ll claw it back bit by bit. You won’t. You might win again initially but nope we are not wired to walk away when we win. Hopefully somebody else telling you to walk away gets through!!!
Cut your losses at €21k. The amount is only relevant to the individual and there own circumstances so I’m not gonna say it’s a big/small amount. It’s gone anyway.
My advice though is get out now. I know how the story goes if You don’t.
All the very best,
You can do this. My advice: put all the blocks you can in place. It’s essential. Come clean to someone if you can so you can be accountable to them (maybe they could spot check your account or help hold you accountable somehow?).
Think about how easy it was to lose those savings. The reality is that it could happen again. Then you’d be in serious debt with no savings. You won’t recoup that money, it is gone. But you could lose a LOT more very quickly.
if you can, go to counselling. It really helped me to talk one on one, out loud, about my problems. It made me realise that they were real. The gambling was real. The problem was real.
You can do this, you’ve got more in the bank than many would dream of. It’s a good starting place to build those savings up again in the only way you can- without gambling and through hard work.
good luck on your journey
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