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Hi Jono - I hope you can make this change you desperately want.  You seem to suggest your partner knows of the gambling, if not tell her as will be weight from shoulders and hand over financial control  Above all else be honest as its the secret life and deceit that causes the most damage.

This forum is great for support and seeing others in similar situations progress, so hope to chat more.

Good luck.

Hi Jono,

My advice to you is too remove every possible temptation. Give your partner full control of your finances, get any monies paid into her account and live of an allowance for necessities. You need to earn her trust back which will take time. Get Gamstop in place if need be, self exclude from bookies and casinos and then try tackle the financial damage. 

In terms of advice you'll find everything you could possibly need right here on this site. there's not a day goes by when I don't read someone's story and draw the lessons and positives from it. 

If you need anything and I can be of any help then please don't hesitate to get in touch. 

Good luck and god bless. 

Thanks for the replies, I’ve stopped before but let things get on top of me and gone back in and got myself back in a mess. I think I might have pushed her to far this time but wanna try and earn her trust back. I was meant to hand over my bank details and card this weekend and didn’t and she’s found out the mess I’m in off other people who have helped me. She knows the mess I’m on now but I should have told her, I was just embarrassed and ashamed and want to get my life on track. I’ve froze my bank account from gambling and self excluded from local bookies and all sites, also booked in to see councillor again so hopefully  I can start winning her back