MummaOfThreeChildren

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MessedUpMumma
(@messedupmumma)
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Hi, I’m 28years old and I have an gambling addiction. I’ve put blockers on today! So I guess it’s a step in the first direction. 

I hope this is alright to say, but what started my gambling was surviving a childhood trauma, DV(before I met my husband) , cancer, depression, anxiety, my eldest being diagnosed HF autism which wasn’t easy to deal with. My husband is an high functioning alcoholic but can’t see his problems just mine. So I decided today was the day I was going to start making an improvement on my life, I’m sick of gambling money, I need to decorate my house I’ve lived in for 2years and haven’t done it due to chasing the high! The chase- it’s terrible!! Not the way forward! I had to write my husband a letter today, it’s been left in the kitchen for him to read when he finishes work tonight, I gambled today! £200 ? I had a mini break down, to much time to think on the past, the kids was settled in bed asleep as my eldest is at school currently during the pandemic, I’ve put it all in there apologising. I find if I said it face to face I get tongue tide ??

 

I am really hoping I can find someone at least to relate to in this forum! It would be such a help if I found someone or a group of people I can come talk to when I’m feeling the urge. 

This topic was modified 3 years ago by MessedUpMumma
 
Posted : 2nd March 2021 9:36 pm
(@debsy371)
Posts: 236
 

Hello and well done on joining and also putting the blocks in place. I am a 39 year old mum of two and I’m also an addict. I’ve been gamble free for 23 days. I have a difficult history also with bad first marriage etc. If you would like to talk I’m here for you. You have done the hardest thing which is accepting you have a problem and that you need help xx

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 7:41 am
MessedUpMumma
(@messedupmumma)
Posts: 7
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Thankyou. It’s about to destroy my marriage so I had to do something. It’s going to be tough I know but it’s something I must do. Thankyou for replying to my post. It’s nice to know I have somewhere to come and talk xx 

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 8:06 am
c43h
 c43h
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Posted by: Debsy37

Hello and well done on joining and also putting the blocks in place. I am a 39 year old mum of two and I’m also an addict. I’ve been gamble free for 23 days. I have a difficult history also with bad first marriage etc. If you would like to talk I’m here for you. You have done the hardest thing which is accepting you have a problem and that you need help xx

Great words. The hardest thing is accepting you have a problem. Once that happens your life will start to change for the better. Welcome!

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 8:25 am
MessedUpMumma
(@messedupmumma)
Posts: 7
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To be fair, I thought I was a weirdo to be a woman and have these issues, but I’m glad I’ve found women and men who are dealing with the same problem. It helps to know I’m not alone. 

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 8:54 am
Unknownstarz
(@unknownstarz)
Posts: 12
 

Morning, 

It's actually a great step forward to ban yourself from these websites. I've been gambling for about 10 years and ruined relationships, my uni degree etc. 

Only during the 2nd lockdown I realised what am I doing with my life gambling away. Also did not speak to anyone about my problem apart from this year. Personally think speaking about your addiction to someone is a good recovery. 

It's great that your honest to your other half about it though.

Good luck on the recovery! 

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 9:36 am
(@dee99323)
Posts: 4
 

Hi, I think im in the same position as you - I too have a child with added needs, my husband too also has a drinking issue but he can't see that, but he's very good at criticism.

I downloaded gamban im on the 7day free trial n its great so far I've got emails from site clicked on not to gamble but to unsubscribe and it blocked me so would definitely recommend. 

Remember more than anything you are DOING an amazing job in running your household, taking care of your children and keeping your marriage. I c*t praise you enough there.

I think we can relate to each other so if u ever need to chat just send me a message im so far on day 2 of none gambling early days but we can do this together along with everyone else x

 
Posted : 3rd March 2021 1:42 pm
(@debsy371)
Posts: 236
 

Hi I just wanted to check

in and see how you are doing xx 

 
Posted : 4th March 2021 11:18 am
Poblwc
(@poblwc)
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Well done you on admitting your problem. I have been gambling for 14 years imagine that. No one knew except a friend i told a few years ago but I didn’t say how much. Its been such a burden. All this lying was no good for me. I have been gamble free 36 days now. I told my husband!! What a stressful day. Luckily he has been amazing. He has taken over the finances. We have a business account with a certain bank and I was the one checking the bank statements etc he wasn’t involved which was a big mistake. I got a call from my business manager two months ago as she saw transactions that were obviously not business related and warned me that she would close the account. I told her about my gambling and she was very sympathetic but I had to stop and that was what made me tell my husband. I’m so glad now . I am looking forward to the future now . My daughters will be graduating (when this pandemic is over hopefully!) and I cannot wait to spend money on a new outfit and a lovely meal and not feel guilty ? keep strong. As each day passes you will feel stronger and it WILL be worth it belief me x

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