Hi.First post.
I’ve just lost my life savings in three weeks.About £4500.I’m disabled and on benefits so I can’t see a way out.I’ve barred myself from sites n stopped but I don’t see a way out
Hi... sorry to hear what has happened.
I guess the bottom line is that you have to come to terms with the fact that your now living on your benefits alone. The money is gone and it ain't coming back.
You gotta re-frame things in your mind. Your could be £4500 in debt and from what you say your not. So at least your living on a level playing field.
All the best... your not alone.
Dear @jp10,
Sorry to read about your difficult situation at the moment. I am glad you have found us and it sounds like you've already taken first steps. I appreciate at the moment it is difficult to see how you will overcome this but with time and with the right support you can and you will.
Do you want to share a bit more about what support you have around you? Have you spoken to anyone about what has happened?
Please don't be alone with this and please know that there is support here for you. Both in form of the Forum and you are very welcome to call us to speak to an adviser 1-2-1 either over our Helpline or our live 1-2-1 Chat: https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/ both are available 24/7. We can discuss further practical strategies that can help you and also ongoing treatment support.
Please keep us updated on how you are doing.
Wishing you all the very best,
Eva
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Thank you for the replies.I have no family apart from my pre-teen daughter.I have physical and mental disabilities which mean I don’t get out even when it is blazing like it is today.The problem I see as being the worst is that I won’t work again,I’ve always paid my child support and I don’t know how I’ll be able to eat never mind anything else.
I realise there are people in worse positions.It just seems that knowing I will never work again means this is a hole I can’t get out of.
I realise suicide is very selfish but have been told it is part of my PTSD symptoms.Now I know what people who feel there is no way out.I haven’t had a break from these feelings for days now.
Dear @jp10,
Thank you for posting again .
Sorry to hear about this difficult situation that you are faced with and your physical and mental disabilities. Feeling isolated is really hard for people , especially in these times. We want to make sure that you and your daughter are safe.
It may be a good idea to speak with your local citizens advice as they could advise you about what benefits you are entitled to and look into local food banks for you . In regards to the money and debt side of things a good organisation to call would be Step change on 0800 138 1111 . They offer advice on debt and money issues and can help your son set up payment plans and budgets .
If you're feeling suicidal, I'll advise you to contact the Samaritans on: 116 123, contact 999 - ambulance or the Police, Papyrus on: 0800 068 4141, your local A &E, or your G.P.
It really is very brave of you to reach out and post this and you are never alone . There's a lot of support available to you and always hope.
Best wishes and take care
Kirk
Forum Admin
Dear @jp10,
Thank you for posting again .
Sorry to hear about this difficult situation that you are faced with and your physical and mental disabilities. Feeling isolated is really hard for people , especially in these times. We want to make sure that you and your daughter are safe.
It may be a good idea to speak with your local citizens advice as they could advise you about what benefits you are entitled to and look into local food banks for you . In regards to the money and debt side of things a good organisation to call would be Step change on 0800 138 1111 . They offer advice on debt and money issues and can help your son set up payment plans and budgets .
If you're feeling suicidal, I'll advise you to contact the Samaritans on: 116 123, contact 999 - ambulance or the Police, Papyrus on: 0800 068 4141, your local A &E, or your G.P.
It really is very brave of you to reach out and post this and you are never alone . There's a lot of support available to you and always hope.
Best wishes and take care
Kirk
Forum Admin
Thank you.It really is kind of people to reply to me.
Hi JP10, I am glad you have managed to find this site and help is always here. I am bipolar and of course have gone through the suicidal Thoughts as I have massive mood swings. I remember when I got myself into 24k worth of debt in the space of a week of gambling, and first having those thoughts and I knew then I would never action on those thoughts even tho they have come up a few times in my life. It took me a number of years to clear that debt and I was fortunate to be in the army at the time.
I hope you have managed to get some food from either friends or food banks until your next benefit. The addiction is hard to beat alone and I just want to say you are not alone!
take each day on your road to recovery one day at a time and look for supporting groups either physical or online, I know it probably still hurts a lot at this moment in time but many of us here have been where you are right now in regards to thoughts, feelings and financial difficulty.
Some times opening up are minds to other more productive thinking can have a longer lasting positive affect on are well being. If you feel limited in regards to your capabilities may be trying to push the educational side of your mind forward may distract you away from gambling but still being very much aware that you are a compulsive gambler that needs the support here or elsewhere.
I hope this is of some help.
dave101
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