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 Tew
(@tew)
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Hi,

I am a gambling addict and have been for about 14 years. 

I have managed to get myself about £16k in debt and I want to make today the last day I gamble. 

Gambling is ruining my life. I’m not in a position where I can talk to my partner about this as she would 100% kick me out of the house so I thought I would try and talk and get some help here. 

In all honesty I really don’t know why I gamble, it’s not about the money, whatever I win just goes back in. I just want to stop now. I hate myself for relapsing again. This time really does feel like rock bottom.

i am fortunate that I have a fairly well paid job so I can afford the loan repayments etc although it’s going to hurt every month. To be honest it’s not all about the debt, it’s the guilt of letting my family down again and not knowing how to stop. 

I just need to talk and I need some advise. I can’t go to GA as there is not one local enough I could fit around work so I’m hoping I can get some support here. 

I don’t want anyone to bail me out with money, that’s my problem to deal with but I really don’t want to spend anymore. I just want to be happy and without this awful disease.

any help and advise would be amazing 

 

thanks

 
Posted : 7th September 2019 2:24 am
Forum admin
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Hi Tew,

Feel free to talk to us about treatment options on our helpline 0808 8020 133 or via our netline. Protecting your money is crucial we can also discuss that during a call. We are pleased that you are reaching out for support..

Best wishes, Forum Admin

 
Posted : 7th September 2019 9:52 am
needtostopnow
(@needtostopnow)
Posts: 33
 

Hi Tew  your story sounds just like mine I feel like I have nobody to talk to about it, they dont understand, I am day 1 today and I am determined to stop i have done all the self exclusions so I cant gamble now but more importantly I dont want to, I find its easier to take 1 day at a time and just pray that this time it works, I see my friends who earn a lot less than me booking holidays buying clothes and furniture and all I do is put it all in the slots or tables and its gonna take me at least 3 years to be debt free. Hopefully we all get the support we need on here from others who understand the gambling problem, I for one am all in and will take any advice I can to help me through this, I dont have advice for you as I am in the same position but excluding from all gambling places is a good start and staying away from friends and places that trigger the urge to gamble. Good luck with your journey through this I hope yu can beat it.

Chris

 
Posted : 7th September 2019 12:39 pm
(@matt692)
Posts: 243
 

Hi 

for me it was the barriers that gave me breathing space! Gamblock and self exclusion of bookies and casinos. This stops me gambling, allowed my head to clear.

reading Allen Carr “The easy way to stop gambling” has helped me understand the addiction and try to rewire my brain! And become a non gambler, rather than a gambler who is not in action.

i am not there as a non gambler, but my thinking is different.

heres to more gf days

matt692

 
Posted : 8th September 2019 7:14 am
TraceyJ
(@traceyj)
Posts: 55
 

Hi Tew

I agree with Matt 100%, get all blocks in place, for me gamban has been a life saver

I'm only early days myself, 21days GF, without the blocks I would of gone deeper into despair

I was so sure I could win back my losses, but each week spent my whole salary on online slots and each week lost

Good luck Tew and all fighting this addiction, I can't guarantee much but can guarantee each day gamble free is a happier, healthier day

x

 

 

 
Posted : 8th September 2019 7:25 am
 Tew
(@tew)
Posts: 2
Topic starter
 

Hey all, 

Thanks for your comments. On my 4th day now.

not going to lie it’s been s**t, and hard. I have wanted to gamble. Just now in fact however I thought I’d come on here.

i have got rid of my credit cards and my bank card. I can only use the joint account now and would never use that for gambling. 

I just don’t like the lies, that’s the worst thing. It drags you down. 

I have signed up to gamstop etc so hopefully that will help and I never use high street bookies so I’m not concerned about that. I just want to be able to refuse the temptation which is my biggest problem at the moment. 

Maybe I’ll start a diary or something. Definitely rock bottom this time. Going to take me a couple of years to clear this dept. 

Anyways thanks for the kind words, 4 days in and tomorrow will hopefully be the 5th.

cheers

 
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