I finally sucked up the courage today to self exclude! I’ve never been so serious about quitting....
I initially had a loss, won some of it back and then lost it all again and more. I’ve lost £3000 in 2 months chasing losses... lockdown got me signing up to online casinos and was only betting small... eventually the size of my bets. What on Earth possessed me? I don’t know. Luckily only my savings took a hit and no debts.
My savings before this all started was sitting at £7200, now I feel so bad I only have only £4000... I have finally self excluded and feel great but how do you stop thinking about the loss? It’s all I can think about... I really just want to forget it but struggling to cope.
Hi there Teresa. Great work on Excluding from the casinos. Have you just excluded at the sites or have you used any blocking software like gamstop?
if you haven’t I’d suggest that ASAP as trust me you will always find a new casino to join.
As much as you don’t think it your one of the lucky ones! You have no debts and still managed to get out with savings, so that s a great start.
To answer your question about the loses unfortunately they’re isn’t any quick fix or right answer I can tell you. The money is gone and it’s just a matter of excepting it. Sounds harsh but it’s true. Time for me was the healer So please hang strong and hopefully over the next days and weeks you will realise this and it will be better!
Hello again Theresa,
As Mikee says, signing up to Gamstop is a must, if you are serious about quitting gambling for good, as you say you are. It sounds as if you have only self excluded from the one site and as Mikee says, there will always be other casino sites to join.
As with the advice you’ve received from members of this forum before, you really just need to accept that you’ve lost the money. There’s no point obsessing over it, otherwise you’ll end up gambling again and losing more, which is what we warned you of previously.
No one wants you to come to this forum again in a few months time, telling us that you’ve lost all of your savings. So in your own interests, just forget the money you’ve spent. Good luck and for your own sake, put the blocks into place this time.
Hello I only play on the one site on this one stupid game... I don’t play or enjoy other slots. But to be safe, I will install Gamban today. I feel so good about doing this finally but also feel so hurt and cheated at the same time that the £3k was taken away from me...it’s coping everyday with the loss that really hurts. How does this feeling go away? I find myself talking to myself telling myself how stupid... I’ve been coming on here reading all the stories when I lost, but still I didn’t listen... I could have stopped but I didn’t... why didn’t I? Now I feel so hurt my hard earned cash is gone and my savings has took a hit... saving is also an obsession of mine that I live very minimally- yet I squandered £3k in 2 months... I have saved and lived frugally over the past few years, bought my house, and very happy. I managed to finally started saving again after buying my home and built up a nice £7200 over the past year.. but lost some of that in just barely 2 months...How I didn’t lose more is probably a miracle but the lockdown boredom was just too much to bare. I’m struggling to find ways in my head to cope with it
Hi I posted this elsewhere but thought it might help you here too. Chasing losses is what gets to us all in the end. You have to let it go as if you never had the cash in the first place and move on.
I would class that episode at the very least as gambling addiction. This type of addiction isn’t black and white and many people on here have had different experiences and different levels of addiction. However, for me, we have all done one thing which is the same and that is we chased losses and when you chase losses you are in a zone of addiction where nothing in the world matters other than getting the money you lost back. The real danger is that chasing losses sometimes works and that is dangerous because it gives you the impression you can always get yourself out of trouble which I guess we all know is not the case.
I am up to 26 days gambling free and still getting the odd twitch to have a bet but I now try to consider the consequences of losing much more money and how I would feel. For me, by doing this I am able to get to the end of the day without a bet and in my mind that means without giving any of my cash to a bookmaker that doesn’t even need it.
Hi Theresa although I got annoyed with you last time I am glad that you are going to try again. My concern though is your continued obsession with the loses , try and keep it in perspective you're not in debt and that for you is a good thing. If you stop gambling now it will not take you long to regain this money. I echo jez89 if you continue with obsessing about the loses you will gamble again and again and again. Get yourself some counselling that might help talk through your issues with money Gamcare can refer you on just call the number or use live chat. Best wishes
Thanks. Yes I have self excluded and put the blocks in place. Day 1 today gamble free! I feel sick of that stupid game I played already and I wish I had a time machine so I can go back in time and change everything. I’m really trying hard to not obsess about the loss... I’m really trying my best to forget it. But it’s all I think every single minute of the day. I don’t want to bet anymore- but I just wish I can just stop thinking about what I could have done with the money. Does it eventually go away in time? I never felt depressed before but now I think I am depressed over it and anxious about the whole thing. I have now self excluded and that’s a big step for me. I wish I have done it sooner. I’ve set myself a goal to make this money back to add to my savings £500 every month and by December I should be able to be where I was with my savings before I lost the money. Only then I think I would feel truly better
I'm afraid Theresa and I won't be popular with you for saying this . I don't think you actually want to give up gambling you want to stop losing . Had you not been self excluded today you would have gambled . As before when you were on here you have not come to terms with addiction, are you planning on drinking instead of gambling? You are not in debt this is nothing you can't get yourself out of if you turn things around now. Forget the loss and be serious about abstaining, there is no magic cure
I just want to make myself feel better and I’m typing this a little bit tipsy. The wine help me feel a little bit better but I still can’t stop thinking about the loss... I can’t go on and gamble I have self excluded and lucky for me I’m only addicted to this one game and will not have the urge to find any other casinos to play. I just feel it’s such a long time for me to work and make this money back and put it in my savings... unfortunately for me I have a very obsessive compulsive Disorder... obsessed with savings. I thought I could flip what I’ve got and turn it into more but I failed..... now I’m thinking to sell all my jewellery that I don’t wear, I could get £2000 for them at least no doubt so I can put it into my savings.... I like having savings and it hurts some of it it’s Gone. Am I mad or something. I was saving for a nice watch... something I always wanted and I had enough savings to buy it before I started gambling... that’s why I thought maybe I can flip it and buy the watch and still have some savings left... now I don’t have enough to buy it and feel so stupid
Theresa I've tried with you both this time and last time you were on. I get humbled on here every day by reading people's posts who are really struggling and baring their souls to find something that will make a difference to help themselves.
I am not. I just think you are too harsh on me. I’m here because I need help. And I thought that this is for everyone who is in despair. You have no idea of how bad I feel and how hurt I feel that’s why I came on here. If 3k is not a lot for you to loose, for me it is. And I am so hurt because of it. I’m here because I need help and someone to share my feelings with. But like last time you continue to make me feel bad - which drove me to come off this site last time. Like others who have gambled every last penny, I do also feel bad with the money I lost and I’m struggling to come to terms with it. That’s why I share my thoughts, I keep thinking about the loss and about the nice things I could have bought with the money but I’ve been so stupid and wasted it all. I’m serious about getting help.
Theresa 3k is a lot of money but what is upsetting not just me but other people who have given you similar advice is that you say that you want help but we are all telling you from experience and what we have learnt and you don't listen. I can think of at least 6 different people who have said roughly the same thing. The money is gone ,it's not coming back unless you stop gambling and save it back up out of your wages every month which you have said yourself you could do by december. Read a lot of the posts that people are saying it will take them years to pay back credit cards, bank loans, payday loans.etc. You are lucky you're not in debt you have money to pay bills buy food. I get that you are upset about losing the money but going over and over it like you are will keep you stuck in the PAST and ultimately lead you to gamble again. Put it behind you accept that it's gone move forward and people will start to help you including me
You've got to put it down to a loss that you won't get back and look to how much you will save if you don't gamble in the future as we can't change the past but we can make sure we don't lose no more in the future by putting all the blocks you can in place just in case you relapse it's damage limitations, now your gamble free try and get over the past as it's gone and you know what happens if you chase, just take it one day at a time