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Boiboi172
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Im 20, currently waiting to go into university. I have recently in the past few months been addicted to gambling. It started off as small football bets of 5$ -50$ 

Then after spending quite abit, i decided to earn back through football betting. Thus my bets increased to 100 even reaching 500 at some point of time. Not long later after a few losses it became a thousand and i lost about 3k

When football betting wasnt working out, i turned to online gambling. Each hand was around 200 and i manage to earn back 1.5k. It felt great. But less than 24 hours i couldnt control myself and i lost 3k, inclusive of the 1.5k profit felt really depressed and was very angry at myself. After a few days of feeling like s**t, i decided to try again this time raising my bets to 500 each hand and i managed to win back 2k. It was one of my happier days in a while and i decided to quit for good.

This went on for a month and i was living life happily. Until i came across the online gambling. With each hand ranging from 200-500, i managed to win 3k in a few hrs. But less than an hr later i was down 2k. It was really one of the stupidest decisions i made as i couldnt control myself. 

My bank account used to be at 10k in july but aft 5 mths of a 850 pay, and after losing on gambling im now on 5k. I decided to quit for good after seeing all my hard earned earnings disappear and i feel really depressed. I dont even dare to tell my family about it, oni 2 close friends know about it as i needed someone to talk to. 

Talking to my family will be the best but i do not want them to find out and be disappointed in their child being a gambling addict. But also i really wan someone who is family to talk and advice me and help me get back to my senses. 

Am i at a very bad stage of life after losing 5k. Im feeling very angry about losing the 5k and i really want to earn it back, but i really dont want to lose anymore hard earned cash especially after losing so much already. But i also find it hard to take the 5k loss and deal with it. Argh, i have made very stupid and bad decisions and i regret them so much. Im going to go into university soon and im wondering whether 5k will be enough moving forward from here 

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Posted : 25th January 2021 4:23 pm
Forum admin
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Admin

Hi boiboi172, 

Sorry to hear you are struggling with your gambling and your concern for how it might impact your plans to go to university.  Many people find it hard to talk to their family about gambling but it is good that you are reaching out for support here.  If you would like information and support around your gambling you can contact the 24/7 free HelpLine on 0808 8020 133. 

Best Wishes

ClareH

Forum Admin

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Posted : 25th January 2021 9:24 pm
Winterishere
(@winterishere)

Mate you need to give your remaining 5k to a trusted person. Impulse control will catch you in a moment and before you know it you've deposited it with the hope of getting back up to 10k. A few hours later you'll having nothing left and potentially feeling hopeless and suicidal. I speak from experience. Please act now. You're in the midst of this and I know it's a horrific feeling losing a lot of money. You'll get some great advice on here. Hope your recovery goes well. Think about the gambling triangle. Time, Money and Opportunity. Remove one of these and you can't gamble. The 5k will come in handy during your financial recovery. All the best

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Posted : 25th January 2021 10:09 pm
Slo_steady_recovery
(@slo_steady_recovery)

You wont make the money back. Write it off and go to a GA meeting.  At this stage you could still be chasing this and the next and the next loss when you are 40. Compulsive gamblers will always be broke - either that or 6 feet under.  A lot take the final step. You need to take your life in your hands and get help now. 

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Posted : 26th January 2021 4:08 am
c43h
 c43h
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The surest bet you will ever get out of anyone is that if you chase that loss now. You will lose every penny. The reason for it is that you are not chasing losses you are chasing to gamble. It is like you are sitting in your car with one foot on the brake and one on the gas. You will just keep that going till the engine overheats again, and it will. That is what the addiction does to you. Like my other friends say. If you can entrust the cash to someone till you get a chance to calm down then do that. If not read the posts here every day. Even if you bored with it keep going because if you are mindful of what happens you may steer clear of more gambling.

Mindfulness is a great tool to stay aware of what's happening. 

Best

C

 

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Posted : 26th January 2021 9:29 am
Boiboi172
(@boiboi172)

Thank you so much everyone here for these supportive ideas and comments. Ill do my best to quit this bad addiction, currently have it under control as i have blocked every possible online methods. It was nice reading all the advices. Thank you so much and continue to provide these words of encouragement to others who need help too!!! Ill not let yall efforts go to waste and strive to live a gambling free life from this stage onwards

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Posted : 27th January 2021 3:07 pm
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