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steve14
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3 weeks ago i finally admitted to the wife and kids (aged 9and13) that I had a problem .. 2 years ago I had pay day loans totally 4k .. wife found out as I never had any money .. She was upset but we worked together to pay the debts off .. once they were sorted I  started betting again ..  only small but then it soon become  that I was spending all my spare  cash on betting... then my wife found out 4 weeks ago that I had bet almost 1k in 3 weeks including some of our holiday savings ..... I was out the door... was going to sleep in my work van but she couldn't let me do that ... I was in the spare bedroom until I found some where to go.... I took the courage to phone a counselling site... half hour on the phone was like a whole weight lifted .. ive had a hard life which I didn't think would affect me know .. but at 49 years old believe me it does ... my wife has forgiven me .. I've had £150 in my pocket since 29th July  and I still have £140 today ... a month ago that would've been gone by the next day  ... .. 25 days without a bet now ... I have thought about doing a bet ... but as yet I haven't.. I'm just hoping I can continue without it .... 🤞🤞🤞

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Posted : 5th August 2020 7:41 pm
Charlieboy
(@charlieboy)

Hi Steve well done for coming on here telling your story takes guts. 25 days without gambling is brill but how long do you think you will last? How long before thinking will turn into doing? Urges to gamble are not nice but are much easier to deal with it you cant. Take the step of self excluding not a cure but a very good tool stop yourself gambling give your head and mind space to heal and to choose not to gamble . Online or bookies there are ways to exclude from both . I was an online gambler I use gamstop and it stops me accessing websites, if it's bookies Gamcare advisors can give you the advice you need.  Don't wreck an excellent start get help now as it sounds like you have a second chance with your wife she might not forgive you a next time. Hope you make the right choices I'm 63 days gamble free and I know I'll never be able to let my guard down but not gambling I'm happier, calmer, more stable. Best wishes in your continued recovery

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Posted : 5th August 2020 10:15 pm
steve14
(@steve14)

@charlieboy 

Thank you .. I was mostly online .. I've used gamstop to block myself .. so I've got to have the will power not to go into the bookies .. if I get an urge .. I think to myself .. if I do then my marriage is over for  sure and my kids will become weekend kids .... that stops me at the moment... I'm proud of 25 days but I want it be in the 100s ... I know I can do it and I want to do it.... good luck in your journey 

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Posted : 6th August 2020 6:41 am
Charlieboy
(@charlieboy)

Good keep going one day at a time ... Go to bed thankful that you didn't gamble..... Get up and think I'm not going to gamble today. There is a scheme for self exclusion from bookies called MOSES I think Gamcare support will tell you. May be worth doing that as well as gamstop in case you get that desperate need and go looking. Well done you've made a really good start now keep it going

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Posted : 6th August 2020 8:29 am
steve14
(@steve14)

Thank you .. you keep doing well too 

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Posted : 6th August 2020 6:49 pm
wandadoom
(@wandadoom)

Hi Steve, u can actually ban yourself from local bookies also.just incase you didn't realise with the multi operator self exclusion scheme.well done m8 just be carefull I self excluded online but that just made me go in-store.

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Posted : 7th August 2020 5:41 am
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