I've spent almost half of my life gambling. I am 32. In this time I think I must have thrown away more than 50k. Almost enough to buy a house. I haven't had a decent holliday in 5 or 6 years even though I work 50-60 hours a week. Feels like it's time to make a change for good.
I've always sayed, after losing a considerable amount of money, that I will quit but always found my way back to a casino or into a betting agency after a pint or two at the pub. Was lying to my girlfriend that I'm just out for a few drinks or pool with my mates when actually I was at it 'till 4 or 5 in the morning.
Last night, after coming back from the casino where I lost another 700£ in a couple of hours, I finally decided to tell her the truth. I need help and this cannot go on because it's ruining my life and I don't see anything good coming out of it in the future.
I could not remember the last time I cried but, last night, after telling her the truth, instead of walking away she sayed she is happy that I told her and she will help me get over it. Imagine that. Felt so good to finally find the strenght to share this with someone.
This Sunday I will attent an GA meeting. Hope this is the first day of a better life.
Hi Lorenzo,
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Lauren
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Well done I’ve done this myself today I’ve cried because I hate myself I’ve told my family blocked my cards gone on GamStop usually I wouldn’t admit it but now I’ve had enough good luck too you
Hi Loenzo,
It's all about choices, like you I hadn't had a decent holiday in years. Sharing, coming clean & breaking the hearts of those who care about us are part & parcel of gambling addiction. That's where choices come in, what are we going to do ?. Continue to break hearts of our loved ones, be a constant let down, continue on the same destructive path.
Every camel has a straw that finally breaks it's back. Every partner of a CG has a breaking point, so you have a choice. Push her to the limits, break her spirit or demonstrate by actions not words that you're determined to stop. Admitting that the addiction is more powerful than your self control isn't easy, yet brings so many rewards. I'd hate to be the spouse or partner of a CG constantly living on the edge, not knowing if my partner can be trusted to share the financial burdens of every day life.
If you look hard enough there are plenty blocks you can put in place. Self exclusion, getting excluded from casinos & shops & handing over your finances to someone else. You've started what can be the best journey you've ever been on by coming on here & admitting that you need help. Are you going to continue on the same path or genuinely change your life ?. CHOICES.
Sincere Best Wishes
AL
That is a wonderful woman. Don’t ever let her go. That is what true love looks and sounds like.
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