Hi Jumble, I have just sat here on my lunch break and read the whole thread. I have had similar issues and my ec wife helped me and even gave me the number for GA when she found out. Yes I didnt get the chance to tell her. She read the bank and credit card statements. Now I see you have had great support on here. Can I respectively say you must stop putting it off. If you are going to do it get on and do. The waiting only delays the truth which will come out. So please for yourself and your wife you owe it to get this done.
Hi Jumble
Nice to speak to you last night and thanks for the post on my diary. If you feel joining chat helps you then great, all are welcome. However I have to say I dont think you are at the stage where you would take any advice on board. You are focused on continuing to gamble in the hope that you win enough to dig you out of trouble and avoid having to 'come clean'. You may be lucky but also you could create an even deeper hole.
Many years ago I was £5k in debt which seemed a huge amount at the time. I managed to win it back. I swore I wouldn't get into debt again. I didnt have any intention to stop gambling though. I thought I'd just had a 'bad patch', didnt think I had a problem at that point. Fast forward and I've now been in continuous debt for over 3o years and for much larger amounts.
Say you land lucky and win back money. Would you stop gambling? No you wouldn't. Your gambling head would tell you all will be fine again and you will never get into debt again. But if you are a CG it's a false thought, it all works in cycles unless you take action. So you have to break the cycle. I hope you can in whichever way you choose, as much for your wife's sake as yours. You didnt ask to be a CG, but you can try to arrest it. She hasn't done anything to deserve to be hit with a huge shock re your finances, whether now or at some point later. Give your marriage and your life some happiness and a foundation to build on which isnt ruled by highs and lows and worry and uncertainty.
Happy to keep supporting you and there is no 'one rule for all' in my opinion - if you can listen to all the advice available then choose what is right for you and do it.
Captain
@Jumble, hope you are ok.
Just wanted to check in to see if you are coping alright/managed to sort everything out with the Mrs yet?
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