Hi everyone my name is Tony. I'm 54 years old never gambled in my life until computers came around needed one for the kids school work as they grew up. Anyway I can't remember exactly when I started gambling online probably 10years ago, only small like a ten or twenty a week but it just gradually grew bigger and bigger, sometimes I win big money but i never paid my credit card off now debts have grown to over 20,000 pounds. This is my first post and I feel relieved to have spoken about this so thankyou for reading this. If anyone has a good solution to my problem I am all ears many thanks for reading
Hello and welcome to the forum Tony1965 its good to hear you feel relieved to have spoken about your gambling. We also have a Freephone helpline on 0808 8020 133 and netline https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/ you are welcome to speak with an advisor who will offer you support and information and strategies to support you with your problem gambling.
There is further information here for debt management that I hope you will find helpful Tony https://www.gamcare.org.uk/self-help/finance-and-debt-management/
Please keep posting we are here to support you
Well done on acknowledging you have a problem. Try not to focus on the debt too much. It's taken 10 years to build up, it won't be solved overnight.
Just focus on not gambling.
Put as many physical blocks in place as possible. Register with Gamstop and do it for 5 years.
Consider attending GA or get some counselling.
Keep coming on here - its a great source of support and help.
I use to be completely consumed by my addictions and my obsessions.
In time I would identify that gambling was a way of me escaping how I felt people life and situtions.
By attending meets I would relate to other people experences both healthy and unhealthy.
I use to say that I wanted to be normal, yet over time I would understand that the refence normal is not very healthy.
I am often why I attend meetings if I have not gambled for some time.
My answer is that by attending meetings I become more and more healthy.
I am a non religious and understand that any one can heal if they put lots of time and effort in to their reecovery.
My addictions and my obsessions indicated that I was emotionally vulnerable.
Over time I would heal my hurt inner child.
Over time I would no longer want to escape my feeelings and my emotions people life and situations.
I am more stable than ever efore.
Who I am in the meetings today is the same peron who faces all situations in my life today.
I no longer want to go against my own conscience and against spirtual values.
I no longer want people to fear or mistrust me any more.
Love and peace to evey one.
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Well it's taken me 5 months since i joined gamcare to tell my family of my gambling problem and debt. At last something positive what a relief. As you expect there not happy but are happy to listen and help me. Should have told them months ago or even years ago. Will now move on soughing myself out. Hope this message might help others thanks Tony