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Posted on:
Thu, 29/11/2018 - 00:23

boxingdayfresh

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2014-12-28

Yay passed the 50 day mark, thanks for the weekly update. 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 29/11/2018 - 11:30

Forum admin

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2010-11-01

Well done Slotfool and Boxingdayfresh on passing those milestones! Well done and keep going to everyone on the challenge.

Deirdre
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Posted on:
Sat, 01/12/2018 - 12:17

Self Sufficient...

Joined:
2017-05-10

Happy December to Guru Challengers past and present.

I have decided to remain focussed on today and today only. 

If  I can wake up gamble free each morning than I will be satisfied with that. I will have peace of mind knowing that I am making good progress...stephen 

Posted on:
Sat, 01/12/2018 - 15:28

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

checking in on day 357 havent been on here for a while but pleased to be still gamble free

Posted on:
Wed, 05/12/2018 - 00:05

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Checking in on 57 days 

Posted on:
Wed, 05/12/2018 - 20:10

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Well day 200 for me ... I really can’t wait for Xmas this year.  It will be my first Xmas when I will not be trying to keep sloping off to gamble on my phone ! Xx

Posted on:
Thu, 06/12/2018 - 09:46

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 362, echo the above comments , looking forward to christmas for the first time in years alll due to remaining gamble free.

Posted on:
Thu, 06/12/2018 - 19:56

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Lets all celebrate on Sunday with chart on the year mark, horray uve done so well mixer would be proud of u as he would be of all of us. One day at a time.

Posted on:
Thu, 06/12/2018 - 20:34

Dl1991

Joined:
2018-12-06

Hi , I'm new here and was wondering if anyone has help tips or advice they can give me please

Posted on:
Thu, 06/12/2018 - 21:00

Bigmug

Joined:
2018-05-30

Checking in 190 days gf

Posted on:
Fri, 07/12/2018 - 11:12

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Hi DI1991, welcome to the start of crushing this horrid addiction which grasps is and doesn’t want to let us go.  It’s time to start to regain control again.  I personally put software called Gamban on my phone and laptop as these were the methods that I gambled via.  Also register with gamstop too.  I am at 202 days gamble free and would have not been able to do this without these blocks in place.  Good luck we are all here for you x

Posted on:
Sun, 09/12/2018 - 16:52

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Hi 

Well done Chartom on going a year gamble free that’s a freakin awesome achievement. I’m 2 week away myself and know from experience how hard you have to work every day to stay on top of this. 

It’s my second run at being gamble free and echo the positivity regarding looking forward to Christmas like Wardal said it will be amazing  it’s the time to focus on family that gambling robs us of that you realize is so important when you are not gambling.

The last time I gambled I was sat on the couch with a 18 day old baby on one arm and my mobile in the other hand spinning the roulette. Absolutely disgraceful whichever way you look at it. I then spent the next 6 week skint until next payday and absolutely miserable. I can’t think why I started gambling again after my 18 month stint gamble free last time but I know my one New Years resolution is to stay in the great place I’ve earned by working hard one day at a time to not gamble.

I’m going to enjoy my Sunday evening gamble free. Have a good un all chin up and be positive now and today.

You know it makes sense

Posted on:
Thu, 13/12/2018 - 15:56

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in for the week on day 369, still gamble free ...... Thanks for your kind words Godoicul,looking forward to seeing you smash past the year mark yourself and lets enjoy Christmas this year without  the stress,worry,pain etc of previous years. 

Posted on:
Thu, 13/12/2018 - 16:41

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Horray chart on uve done it a whole year. Ive contemplated relapsing this week, I thought I could turn forty pounds into something more and enjoy the buzz. What I was forgetting at that time was the after feeling of gambling and the misery it brought to my life. Theres a guy at the social club whk won on slot machine once so he comes in everyday a nd drinks alcohol and then puts in about sixty pounds each day then he sits s at the bar liking into the distance vauguely in a miserable place. Boy do I not want to gamble I thought. The outcome however long it takes is always the same, lets all aim to never feel that way again. Adam here just about managing to stay gamble free but managing al the same. Well done chart onm a year is a fantastic feet c if u can make it to 400 days.

Posted on:
Thu, 13/12/2018 - 17:11

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Well done Adam on refraining on betting with that 40 pounds as we all know how hard it can be when the urge to bet rises, as even at over 1 year gamble free i still find myself fighting it daily, just concentrate on getting through one day at a time and those gamble free days wont be long in adding up .... you are doing great keep up the good work.

Posted on:
Fri, 14/12/2018 - 20:35

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

back again, in this zone again.. yesterday went to a bookies that i am excluded from, only placed £2 in a machine and won £300 and it hurt more than ever that i just threw it all back in... so even losing £2 hurts just the same, dreadful and then today went to a bookies and placed £120 in and lost the lot and felt like smahing my car to pieces... supposed to be buying a house this is all going to end in tears... i know every litlle trick that bookies pull to take my money but yet i still fall for it... what a mug its like i need a concience next to me at all times.. how do i beat this devil inside me? 

Posted on:
Fri, 14/12/2018 - 21:06

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

hi jeff when i bought y flat in order to get a mortgage i made sure my bank statements for six months before it looked sensible so they wouldnt consider me a risk.

Posted on:
Fri, 14/12/2018 - 23:45

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

I have not posted in the guru challenge for a while.  Guess I'm less than one month?  I haven't checked. But I'm also reading codependency literature and doing some work. I am 3 months since my last casino disaster and then again 3 more months before that.  So I went to a casino one time in 6 months.  That's good.  Just went overboard with scratchers a couple times so I am counting that too.  So, whatever, I'm nearing one month.  How ever you want to count it. odaat and I'm doing some personal work.  tara2

Posted on:
Sat, 15/12/2018 - 06:32

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

67 days checking in . Haven’t been on here for a while as been busy preparing for Christmas but things are going well on not gambling. Pleased to be looking fwd to a gamble free Christmas and New Year. 

Posted on:
Sun, 16/12/2018 - 02:05

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

The only good thing on my side Adam is that I haven’t used anything online since April when I set up gamstop I think I have one instore transaction mainly use cash, but still need to knock that on head.. got other fish to fry now such as lose weight for a very important date in may so all concentration is channeled to this as from tomorrow... giving up all distractions for a while such as the booze and that which should keep me on track and channeled roll on the £2 limit on FOBTs I will feel much more safer when this kicks in!!

Posted on:
Sun, 16/12/2018 - 12:59

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi Jeff what's the important date? A wedding?, no alcohol or if u do drink drink vodka and sodas or gin and tonic's, theres apparently like 300 calories in a beer so if u knock that on the head no more dieting needed. I haven't drunk in a while and although its a very difficult time of year for this it works wonders on weight. Maybe just try and drink special occassionz at first like Christmas eve , day and new years then you'll break yourself in to the not drinking in the new year. No one drinks in Jan so that's a great time to start. Good luck Jeff mate

Posted on:
Tue, 18/12/2018 - 22:03

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

Hi Adam just a party for myself, got to one of those milestones and to honest bit nervy about it so need to keep headstrong, was back In the bookies again today starting to wonder if I have any control over myself, who am I? Why do I find myself walking into a shop knowing how wrong it is for me? 

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 18/12/2018 - 22:10

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi Jeff, I really think its the time of the year, everyone is struggling at mo. Will be easier in Jan when everyone stays in

Posted on:
Wed, 19/12/2018 - 00:59

Ineffable

Joined:
2015-02-21

 

Coming to the end of the year and it will mark a full year of not gambling. There were times when I thought this was a distant dream that could never become real, but here it is, just 11 days from a whole year!

How the tables can be turned if you can find a way to get out from under this wicked addiction.

Looking forward to a plentiful and peaceful Christmas. I wish everyone a safe a gamble free Christmas and 2019.

 

Posted on:
Wed, 19/12/2018 - 09:54

Egdam

Joined:
2018-06-01

Morning all - haven't checked in recently however still gamble free since 28 May 18.

Posted on:
Wed, 19/12/2018 - 10:38

Self Sufficient...

Joined:
2017-05-10

Good Morning to all Guru Challengers. Wherever you may wander, wherever you may roam, just don't go in the betting shop and leave your cash at home.

I don't count days anymore so strictly speaking I am not a Guru Challenger but my thoughts are still with you all.

Stay strong and keep going forward. Shoulder to shoulder we are more than a match for anything the gambling addiction can throw at us. With hope in our hearts and a smile on our face we are invincible....stephen 

Posted on:
Wed, 19/12/2018 - 21:18

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

I'm with you stephan.

Posted on:
Thu, 20/12/2018 - 20:44

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

With you all the way Stephen ...... checking in on day 376 glad to report still gamble free.

Posted on:
Thu, 20/12/2018 - 23:16

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

Everyday this week apart from today I have been and threw my life away, left my wallet at home and took minimum change for work this morning with best intentions and then found myself at dinner getting the urge, what a feeling that was beating that part of my brain for the day, got home and thought should I?? Couldn’t be arsed trying to find a bookie that I am excluded from. I won today and i didn’t involve money. I have to do same tomorrow and just take enough for beers.. works night out! One day at a time! Roll on the £2 limit!

 

 

Posted on:
Fri, 21/12/2018 - 01:11

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

This is the best I've felt around Christmas time in like 13 or more years.  I am not bragging or complacent.  I am merely stopping to feel into the time of year at hand and although I'm not in perfect life circumstances and I don't have a big ole year gamble free... I'm still feeling better than any other year in a long long time.  I'll take the imperfections and I'll take some depression and not having all my expectations met, I'll take alot of let downs and I'll take life as it is, "perfectly imperfect".  I'll take all this over the horrible dark night of the soul huge losses of money and my soul.  For now, today, just for today I'm seeing that things are better.,  tara2

Posted on:
Fri, 21/12/2018 - 10:22

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Checking in 216 days GF for me and for once I am looking forward to Xmas xxx

Posted on:
Fri, 21/12/2018 - 12:25

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Welldone peeps

Posted on:
Fri, 21/12/2018 - 16:18

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Day 73 checking in for the week 

Posted on:
Sun, 23/12/2018 - 09:46

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Day 366 gamble free. Feel absolutely ******* amazing. Merry Christmas 

Posted on:
Sun, 23/12/2018 - 12:42

Bigmug

Joined:
2018-05-30

Checking in 207 days gf

Posted on:
Thu, 27/12/2018 - 15:16

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Day 222 for me.  Had a little wobble earlier and found myself thinking about what sites are not listed with Gamstop !! Needless to say I managed to talk myself out of making a really stupid mistake.  Hope you are all Ok ? xx

Posted on:
Fri, 28/12/2018 - 12:02

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 384, last check in of 2018 and happy to say i have gone a full calender year without a bet.

Posted on:
Fri, 28/12/2018 - 12:16

Marcella

Joined:
2018-12-27

Good morning fellow travellers.
I am a new posting to the site but have followed it for months. Hoping to turn my life around. Want to say well done to everyone who is winning the battle. 2nd day gf for me.

Posted on:
Fri, 28/12/2018 - 20:56

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

yesterday i was thinking... dont let yourself fool yourself in to gambling ....  today he fooled me.... i can't even win at that such a shame.... feel sick and tired,  homeless here i come!!! can't believe i have the right frame of mind now and yet when i have spare time a an extra couple of quid i turn in to the devil... hate my self so much dont even know if talking on here is helping, i tend to come on to remind my self how well i was doing and to reset the clock.. 9GF days nope 0GF

Posted on:
Sat, 29/12/2018 - 21:15

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Well done charttom one full year is a hell of an achievement.jeff coming from someone who spend two years relapsing time and time again I can Sa that pursistence really helps, chin up dust yourself off and start again. See if you can do 2019 a lot better, this year I started on new years and made I to may so it definitely helps starting on a new year.

Posted on:
Sat, 29/12/2018 - 23:25

Jinjan

Joined:
2018-12-29

I’m new to this site 

Posted on:
Thu, 03/01/2019 - 23:28

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Day 377 gamble free. Happy new year

Posted on:
Sat, 05/01/2019 - 13:08

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Well done

Posted on:
Tue, 08/01/2019 - 20:45

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

All quiet on here to be honest it’s quiet everywhere on here.. well new year deffo not new me I have gambled everyday this year and I am losing the will... need to just put a lid on it!!

 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 10/01/2019 - 09:18

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking myself in on day 397 gamble free.

Posted on:
Fri, 11/01/2019 - 09:03

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hello everyone. It's been a long time!

It's been a while since I've been around and I'll explain why. I know I don't have to, but we all act in a spirit of honesty here and it's right I do so. I've had some serious health issues, but, for now, they're under control. I've had to make permanent life changes. I would rather not go into details, let's just say it's been a serious wake-up call. And I'm not out of the woods.

I left the forum for two reasons (a) to help me absorb the shock and (b) because I didn't want my thread and journey to start to focus on my health. I didn't want to go down that road.

Have I gambled? I did gamble, yes. I won't make excuses, although it would be easy for me to use my health issues as mitigation. However, I have not gambled, hand on heart, since the start of December and it's because my sole availability of funds is my wife. I have no cards, no other means. Gamstop is working and online gambling was never my thing anyway. Fortunately, over the last year my losses have been low but that's not the point. Once a compulsive gambler, always a compulsive gambler. It never goes away and I maintain, from my personal experiences, that practical measures are the only sure way of stopping, however realise we are all different.

I have followed the forum from time-to-time and have been touched with comments and support I've recieved ... thank you so much. You know who you are.

I relapsed once before and disappeared from the forums and vowed never to do so again, however, I did. What was different this time was my reaction to my health situation. Nothing focusses, and disturbs, the mind more when you find yourself in a very unpleasant situation. *BAM* . It's true what they say - you look at things from that very moment thereafter through a different prism. I swear that everything I look at is with a slightly different colour and contrast. (I won't talk about my health again.)

So, I return, slowly, gingerly, more respectful of life, and everything, but still determined not to gamble and to help and share, empathetically as we all do, with others. This isn't an ego trip, it's the serious business of getting our lives back.

I've been working on a book; there's a gap in the market for a "Stop Gambling" book in the age of the FOBT and online gambling. It will be non-profit. It might come off, we'll see. I'm adding bits to it as I go, maybe if anyone would like to contribute, there's a rich seam of experience and wisdom on here.

I'll only post from time-to-time and visit 'old friends'. I hope you understand.

Meantime, enjoy life, it's the only one we have, when it's gone and gone. We mustn't waste it, and its marvellous potential. We mustn't keep gambling resources (money) away, it just drains the quality of that life away; not just for us, but for others, too.

That's it really. Bye for now.

Mixer

Posted on:
Fri, 11/01/2019 - 09:36

Loxxie

Joined:
2016-01-15

Hey mixer. ..I'm sorry to hear of you're health problems....everything crossed for
A complete and full recovery. .look after yourself. ..
I don't think we've had much direct contact on here really....but I do often read you're posts. ..always direct and honest and full of great advice. ....I still worry about a relapse coming out of nowhere....an urge to hit the slots that possibly overcomes me before I realise what I've done...if that makes sense....
(Triangle still broke...parental blocks on internet)
But as you say....us addicts will find ways around most things..
So.....total respect for you in telling us about recent relapse...
It serves as a warning to us all...
One day at a time really is a favorite saying of mine. ...
Take care mixer....

Posted on:
Fri, 11/01/2019 - 19:26

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi mixer , firstly I must say it was great to see ur username come up again, its great to see you are alive and well because to bs honest we didn't know what had happened to u and its was to think the worst. Health things aside theres a spot for u I'm sure I heavon should th

should the worst happen, I'm sure it wont happen for a long time but you'd a great man and when ur times up on earth heavon will be there. Not sure of ur religion, I'm not that religous but I'm sure theres life after death. Well done on starting the book I'm sure it'll be a winnrer. We tried to keep ur thread alive , it wasn't the same without u but we have many including myself in on 152 days now who have been succeeding I this battle. Hope to see u in chat room somewhen I'm on most nights. Take care adam​

Posted on:
Fri, 11/01/2019 - 22:36

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Nice to hear from you Mixer I’m glad you are ok  I hope things continue to improve for you

Posted on:
Sat, 12/01/2019 - 11:42

Ineffable

Joined:
2015-02-21

Mixer, so lovely to hear from you.  You are one of the key reasons I am still gambling free so I must thank you for all of your kind words and support on this forum.

Sending all that’s good to you today - your health comes first so l am very glad you continue to focus on your recovery. Wishing you the very best for 2019.

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