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Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 09:03

JA72

Joined:
2018-05-08

Relative newbie here, but 16 days gamble free so far...

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 10:58

xangel11x

Joined:
2018-02-23

caughtup wrote:

Morning all, checking in at 30 DAYS GF. Can I hear a whooopp, whooopp 

:)                        

Whooop whoop! well done you :)

Checking in on day 30 too. Welcome aboard JA72, gl with your journey :)

Interesting reading your post Tara because I have had so many times recently where I have only just managed to dodge the temptation to gamble. I had 20 pound sitting in one of the last bingo sites I had left before I excluded myself from it, seeing the money there was really hard, like it was calling me to roulette it. The evil voice was saying 'It's not like you deposited or anything it's just been sitting there, go on have 20 spins at a pound a go on the roulette wheel, you know you want to, you will feel good and you might even win'  But then the nicer voice said 'You know you wont stop when that 20 is gone, you know you will probably deposit, or maybe win and win but then just keep going ending with losing and losing some more, you don't want to feel that feeling of loss again, the same feeling you had when you almost lost your family, home and dignity'

I dodged the temptation and withdrew the money, I used the money to buy Russell brands addiction book off the internet and a couple other bits. I was proud that I had used that money for something other than gambling, I thought I had done well and felt good about it. However, that is when I really understood that my husband as amazingly supportive as he has been, didn't understand how I felt proud of that, instead he decided to point out that I could of got the bits I bought cheaper elsewhere, I really see how he doesn't understand addiction at all, he has no addictive bone in his body and is very logical minded. He upset me because he couldn't understand how I felt happy it didn't go on gambling he still insisted to point out I was wasting money because I could of got them cheaper and didn't take the time to look around first bla bla... we fell out, I went upstairs to read my new book and we are still not talking at the moment. When we would fall out before after an argument the first thing I did was gamble, I felt the urge but I fought it off and chucked my head into my book instead, I so didn't want to back to day 1 after coming 29 days either! So I guess I'm proud of that.

Love to all, keep dodging and those urges will subside and we can be proud of ourselves every day x

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 17:30

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

I'm not a sports enthusiast yet I'm coming up with analogies that are sport themed.  Dodge the urges! Hit that ball of urges hard and send it over the fence; take your homerun like a breeze and chalk one up up for YOU.  If the urge ball comes at you are you going to catch it?  Then take a look at it and put it in your pocket; cash it in like a ticket to gamble or are you going to smack that thing out and over the fence.  Smack it. And as always, this message is something for myself that I am also sharing.

  lol tara2

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 18:10

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in on 195 days!!

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 19:10

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Checking in day 4 for me.  Tomorrow is payday, and for once I am looking forward to not seeing deposit deposit deposit on my bank statement.  All blocks are in place.  This forum is a great place to chat as it makes me realise I am not alone in this fight, I have you all behind me, together we are stronger xx 

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 20:43

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

MIDWEEK CATCH-UP - 23rd May 2018

Good evening everyone! How are we all doing? Let's have a catch up :)

Tara2 - Thank you for some fantastic posts, have read every one! You're right. We are creatures of habit and that doesn't help matters because we have to wean ourselves out of those habits that cause us harm. And I like your sports analogies, yep, if gambling is a demonic red ball then we have to shash it out of the ground every time. Somettimes, picturing gambling as a sneaky devil on our shoulder helps us deal ith it. Personally, I pick it up by the scruff of the neck and boot it into kingdom come!

Caughtup - Whoooopp Whooooopp! Passing the 30-day gambling-free milestone is always well worth a Whoooopp Whoooopp or ten!). It shows that a payday's come along, or other spendable income, and you've dealt with it. A big high-five to you Caughtup - we're all delighted here because it spurs us all on to better things!

Xangel - Thank you so much for your kind words and glad this thread is helping you as part of your gambling-free strategy. It's fantastic to see you embracing not only your personal journey but those of the rest of our Challenge peeps too. We most certainly can conquer this addiction. And we have, actually. All we need to do, every day, is remind ourselves of the one thing we mustn't do, because it will bring misery if we do (and who wants that). It's simply "not to gamble today!" :) On another point, it's very difficult sometimes getting a partner to understand our addiction. Sometimes, the support isn't there and occasional we're belittled. However, we have to 'choose our battles' and not be too dispirited. The good news is, xangel11, you didn't 'rise to the bait' and gamble, whcih might have been your reflex response. So all bully for you for not taking the wrong road. Keep at it; we're all with you here.

Wardal1979 - It's great that you've self-excluded from as many sites as possible but don't forget Gamstop. Whilst it only covers Uk-based gambling sites it's going to cover the rest of the world by the end of the year. That's the one to register with, for 5 years, Wardal. Whad-da-ya say? :)

Stephen - thank you for my thoughts pon only counting gambling days from 30 upwards. I think it makes the achievement - for that's what it is - all the sweeter. You music choice: "I get by with a little help form my friends" is a good one: I think it sums up the lovely spirit we have here on our thread.

Sars2 - And talking of spirit... it's Saaaaaaars! Thank you for checking in, my friend. 353 days! What can I say, keep it going and keep enjoying life, you and your lovely lovely family!

Pink2018 - thank you for checking in and with a week's gambling-free under your belt. That's great, and a pivotal foothold as you start to climb this mountain which gets less steep the more you climb it, surreally. Our minds can and WILL be weaned off this addiction, one tiny bit, one day at a time.

DeterminedDan - thank you for your thoughts. I agree with you - it's when we have money, and don't waste it, is the sign that we, as recovering problem gambliners, are getting somewhere. This isn't an easy journey - we all know this - but with good blockers in place and a good mindset, improving all the time, we give ourselves the best chance of long-term success.

JeffUtd - I agree, we don't want a gambling hangover! No thank you. An alcoholic hangover is bad enough :) Great to see you approaching 30 days gambling free which really means something.

Wardle1979 - in my eyes, gambling takes away three things. Money, time and our personailities. Gambling turns us into shells; that's not good for us, and especially not for our partners, loved ones, family and friends. They are all - I promise you - sick to the back teeth of it, and want to see us back to our vibrant selves. Which we can return to, and, one day at a time, make sure we do. Great to note you've put your blocks in place. Here's to a happy June.

Godoicul - I'm delighted to see, as we all are, to see you hit half a Guru. Just the other half to go! You are really sticking to this and that is to be admired. Your reward? A much better life - all round! Kudos, Godoicul.

Mitch91 - great to see you power through the 30-day gambling-free barrier. You've done it once, and you've done it again, this time with extra 'stickability'. Keep adding and reviewing your gambing-free strategy and there's no reason why you can't continue to rack the days up.

DmPowell - Yes!!! 30 days. It's great to see so many of us passing that crucial 30 day milestone that shows one thing and one thing only - you're serious about this. Serious about wanting a better life. Definitely something to get serious about ... and then have fun and enjoy!

JA72 - It's always great to welcome new members to our Challenge and thank you for checking in. 16 days in the gamblong-free banl and striving towards the target that really, really matters - 30 days. Let's see you hit that, one valuable, hard-earned day at a time.

Slotfool - Where does the time go, eh. Coming up to 200 days - a magnificant achievement, no question. Keep going, one day at a time. By going gambling free, we always guarantee oursleves a better life than the alternative. Gambling is always default misery because we never keep any winnings and lose more, every time. But we recognise that pattern and are always thinking - no more.

Ok, everything's steady, team, as we negotiate payday for those of us who are salaried. Are we going to waste our hard-earned money away this month...?

Good answer, everyone. No. Not this month. We're going to enjoy our money; put what we have spare to good use. Treat ourselves, treat our loved ones, clear debts, or pay for things that need doing. But not shove down the drain; because that's what gambling is to us.

Enjoy the sunny weather and the long weekend ahead everyone. I'll be back in few days :) :) :)

Love and peace everyone.

Mixer

 

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 21:02

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

hi peeps need some positive advice been invited to another bbq this Saturday by an old poker friend, same house as one where I gambled last time thirty odd days ago. Before that day I was 119 days gamble free. Tough call as I knowi want to go socially. Ive got five days off work for my birthday starting Saturday going to watch some films in cinema and watch champ league final. Hopefully I can stay strong and not go to bbq but its another tough decision where my mind is differing to the correct thing to do.​

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 21:21

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Hiya Mixer, I managed to register with GamStop the other day whoop whoop !! Took a few attempts, but all is done now x

Posted on:
Wed, 23/05/2018 - 21:29

xangel11x

Joined:
2018-02-23

Thank you Mixer, only thing I can do now is move forward not back, that's the only way I am going to move on and I intend to keep on trying to :)

Feeling like you are not alone in this fight was a massive comfort to me and I love this forum for being that comfort blanket and it still is while I fight on. Together we can do anthing :)

Hey warda1979, that was a good year to be born :) Embrace that feeling of not seeing deposit after deposit, it is a beautiful thing. Means you are seeing more each day how your life can be, hopefully will be for the rest of your life, make the most of every single day you are GF because it is so much more lovely than being in that horrible dark gambling cloud x

 

Posted on:
Thu, 24/05/2018 - 00:00

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thank you Mixer for all your help and encouragement. The work and effort you put into the forum is wonderful.

I am taking a break from the diaries to gather my thoughts, clear my head and sort out a few issues.

My friend is holding my card so I can't get money to gamble. Reading the diaries reminds me of what a fool I have been and I just feel like giving it a rest for a while.

Wishing yourself and all the Guru Challengers a successful and happy gamble free life ...stephen 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 24/05/2018 - 09:23

Markman

Joined:
2011-12-14

Mixer, you did such a great job with last year's challenge. On the back of last year's challenge I went 220 days plus gamble free before freaking out and falling off the wagon on my face and I owe you a debt of gratitute for I have the believe that I will do better this time around.

Best wishes,

Markman, checking in 2 days gamble free.

Posted on:
Thu, 24/05/2018 - 19:10

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Hi Mixer

Please can I re-join the challenge. I've had trouble lately going back and forth and staying off the gambling. I really want to do it and I've used up all my spare cash and know this time I have to quit as it's getting ridiculous. I know I can do it, this is my final FRESH START.

 

BDF

Posted on:
Fri, 25/05/2018 - 08:39

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 167 , glad to report still gamble free .....

Posted on:
Fri, 25/05/2018 - 12:15

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

Cheers mixer day 31 today pay day as well, no urges cracking on!! Got too many alcohol hangovers to deal with this weekend!!

Posted on:
Fri, 25/05/2018 - 12:58

JA72

Joined:
2018-05-08

Checking in for day 19..

One day at a time...

Posted on:
Fri, 25/05/2018 - 19:38

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Checking in day 6 for me xx

Posted on:
Sat, 26/05/2018 - 10:23

Serendipity77

Joined:
2018-03-29

Checking in day 20. Positive thoughts and happy vibes with minimal urges. Wishing everybody a wonderful and gf rest of the weekend!

Posted on:
Sat, 26/05/2018 - 16:24

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

Checking in instead of out.  :)

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 05:30

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Checking in for the new week on day five. Keeping busy and restricted finances are going to help me this week. Really not impressed with how I’ve handled my finances recently. It’s left me short for this month and no reserves to fall back on. Definitely no money to spare to gamble now. 

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 06:45

caughtup

Joined:
2018-03-01

Hiya all, checking in at 34 days. Loving my GF days x

 

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 17:30

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

 

 

Afternoon everyone. Am on holiday at the moment, in Butlins with my young son. Hope you’re all enjoying the sunny BH (rather than the miserable BS of gambling!)

I’ll have a mini-catchup tomorrow.

Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 19:00

xangel11x

Joined:
2018-02-23

Aw I remember those days at butlins when my boys were young, best ever. No idea where the time goes apart from, way too fast! Before you know it they are passing their driving test, got a girlfriend and threatening you with being a grand parent soon oh my goodness lol  Enjoy those precious moments :) x

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 19:48

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

really struggling, put 50p in fruit mchine today just a bit of change but it resets my counter and was completely pointless.  Even been thinking of trying to open a poker account up even tho i know i wont be able to.  Feel like i need to gamble, thought about going in a bookies im self excluded from thinking they probably wouldnt recognise me and i could go on slots.....Back to day one tomo don't know why the urges are soo high at the minute......ill write in my diary tonight adam

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 19:51

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

i can but learn

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 21:07

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Since ive been on this challenge there has been lots of people who signed up after me having relapse. However I do not recall anybody with more days than me relapsing.

Im not having a go at anyone hell I know how hard this is but please can we all do this together for ourselves and each other.

l

Posted on:
Sun, 27/05/2018 - 21:07

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Since ive been on this challenge there has been lots of people who signed up after me having relapse. However I do not recall anybody with more days than me relapsing.

Im not having a ho at anyone hell I know how hard this is but please can we all do this together for ourselves and each other.

l

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 01:26

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

Hi, I'm at day one again.  Just the way it is.  I self excluded at this last nearby casino and gambled before hand.  tara2

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 06:16

xangel11x

Joined:
2018-02-23

Hugs Tara, hopefully it will just make you a little bit stronger this time round by being honest and jumping back in the saddle has to be good solid foundations for kicking butt with this little monster, keep fighting and stay strong x

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 10:20

Ukds69

Joined:
2018-04-28

Hi all!

I’ve just joined up with the challenge as I figure I need all the help that is out there. 30 days+  gf and counting. Feeling super strong at the moment.

To those relapsing and ‘resetting’ back to day 0. I’ve been there dozens (and dozens and dozens) of times, just keep plugging away. Keep positive. Don’t be too disheartened that it’s happened, use it as another layer of determination to get this soul destroying addiction out of your life, once and for all!

For the first time in my life I feel like I might just have this thing beaten but... I also know full well what a devious cunning creature it is. So yes I am feeling strong but won’t let myself get complacent. Always on my guard. I guess this is how life is going to be from now on, but I’d rather that a thousand times over than how it was before, with gambling slowly but surely sucking all my money and life out of me.

 

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 17:42

xangel11x

Joined:
2018-02-23

Ukds69 wrote:

For the first time in my life I feel like I might just have this thing beaten but... I also know full well what a devious cunning creature it is. So yes I am feeling strong but won’t let myself get complacent. Always on my guard. I guess this is how life is going to be from now on, but I’d rather that a thousand times over than how it was before, with gambling slowly but surely sucking all my money and life out of me.

What an amazing way of putting things, this really helped me today I think especially the part where you say 'but I’d rather that a thousand times over than how it was before'  even though I am on day 34, every single flippin day is a battle, the temptation always lurking and ready to pounce. I love the way you put this down in words, wish I was clever enough to do that, sometimes I think of so many things but when I go to put them down in words they all come out so different to what was in my head lol.

 

What I am trying to say is thank you so much for sharing, you have helped me look at things in a bit more of a wonky way, coz the road to being gambling free is very wonky... if that even make sesne?  x

 

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 18:52

Forum admin

Joined:
2010-11-01

Hello Tara and Adam, sorry you've had lapses. Adam, it's good that it was only a small amount and hopefully you can learn from previous lapses and not let it turn into a major loss. Tara, hopefully you've closed the last door on your gambling. Keep going both of you and keep posting on your diaries.

Take care

Deirdre
Forum Admin

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 19:10

Ukds69

Joined:
2018-04-28

Hey Angel,

Thanks for your kind words x

I’ve been trying to beat this horrible thing for years but looking back I didn’t have a cat’s chance of succeeding. One reason...I was always leaving that door ajar. Thinking I could (somehow or another) give it up for, say, a month, 3 months, a year then ‘reward’ myself with a small gamble at the end. Ultimately, that mindset was always my undoing and it took until 5 weeks ago for the penny to finally drop. So I can’t be that clever! :-) 

That final piece of the jigsaw was the pure 100% total acceptance that my life will now no longer involve gambling. Ever never.  I’ll make no bones about it though, warped though it is on the face of it, I will miss it. It’s pretty sad to admit but it has been a friend. Always there when I’ve had a bad day, feeling stressed, feeling bored, feeling like I need some down time, feeling like I need life spicing up. A friend that could tend to my every whim and there 24/7. Of course, now, in the cold light of day, I can see this ‘friend’ for what they really are. Twisted, conniving and malevolent. Tuning into our vulnerabilities, they know us better we know ourselves. I lost count how many times I’d go on my iPad without a conscious thought of gambling and within seconds I’d somehow been steered towards a new gambling site and was fervently registering my details, ready to begin the cycle all over again. Some friend eh?

Me & you are just a couple of days apart in our GF quest Angel. Let’s both keep working hard to keep it like that! :-)

 

Posted on:
Mon, 28/05/2018 - 19:46

caughtup

Joined:
2018-03-01

Adam &Tara...don’t beat yourself up about relapses... at least you dust yourself off and start afresh ready to face this head on again! I love this site for all the lovely encouragement, support, understanding! Some of us are quite near on the same GF days but everyday away from gambling is a bonus, together we won’t be giving our money to those dirty rotten money makers! We can all beat them with the force of our little forum, stay strong everyone xx 

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 10:40

Jeffutd

Joined:
2015-04-04

Hey ukds and angel I am too on 35 days, sometimes I fly through the week then at some point I get some idea and have to battle with it, so I come here immediately and look at how many days I have stopped and think about the hangover if I do so.  

 

 

 

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 16:48

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Midweek Catchup! (Sorry I'm a day late)

It's really interesting reading how we're all getting on with our aim to continue a gamble-free life. I sometimes feel, and I honestly feel the same, that most days are on a knife-edge. I sometimes wonder if constantly thinking about gambling, as we do, is sometimes a bit of an obstacle to success, but I'd rather talk about it persoanlly than do it. Reading about relapses brings back the pain of what they've done to me and resolves me, actually. It's no consolation that those of us who have relapsed are going through pain, too. 

Ive written before that I empathise with anyone who relapses, but I don't do sympathy - the "there, there, never mind" response. I think that's the wrong approach. No-can-do. But empathy is different, more "I'm genuinely sorry to hear you've gambled. Now, what are you doing about it? What went wrong with your strategy? What was the moment of weakness? Let's sort out what happened - now."

I believe we have to take a business-like approach to this, because otherwise we could go 'bust'. And that's no good at all.

JeffUtd - Bang on. A gambling hangover is similar to a drinking one. Regret, pain, hurt and just not good. Btw; I had a really bad hangover on Friday; I've substituted gambling for drinking. Now I'm working on this problem. Been dry since Friday. I'm realising that it's not just being more flush ... it's about being healthy, too. Hell, I've got a young son. Cannot be selfish! Anyways, enough of me, back to you - doing great on 35 days gambling-free. You're proving a point. 

Caughtup - A good post, but I'll agree-to-disagree with one point: about "beating ourselves up". I think we should do a little actually. It shows we care. We have to feel the pain of it, because it will register the next time we're tempted. Doing great on 36 days, by the way - proving you can handle a payday!

Ukds69 - Welcome to the Challenge - great to have you on board! You've hit on a couple of very important realisations. One, leaving the door ajar is no good, and two - realising this has to be forever. This is a lifetime journey; we have to be gambling-free forever. But how satisfy to understand this. That you really don't have to put yourself through this misery ever again. This is a moment that can be very cathartic, actually.

Xangel11x - This is a real battle, Xangel11x, but together we can manage it, day by day. Being gambling free is very wonky indeed ... really know what you mean there! It's like wheeling a supermarkey trolley; it takes effort to keep it on track. But let's do just that and not knock down that stack of baked beans at the end of the aisle eh :) ! And thank you for your kind comments re, my break to Butlins. Had a great time!

Tara2 - I'm genuinely sorry to hear you had a relapse Tara ... perhaps going to the casino wasn't the best move ;) but no-ones judging here, we have all being there (I have, to my sadness, a few times). I suppose you're excluded from the place now. I would exclude from all others, really bolster your resolve. When we fall down, we get up stronger. Shoulders back and head head high ... right :) !

Godoicul - You are doing great, my friend, with 159 days GF if my calculations are correct. Keep those focussed eyes of yours on the road ahead... you're doing just fine.

Adam123 - Your last few posts have read like a 'cry for help' that ended in an almost inevitable relapse. From wrestling with going to a poker night... to the coin(s) put in the slot machine ... but you know you've got to keep adding to those blocks. It's tougher with pub slots - difficult to block from them, they are everywhere and, unfortunately, there's nothing more it but an extra ounce of determination to keep away. Just member, mug punters fill up slots of the experts - the experts who are missing the extra income you'll be giving them. Keep trying Adam - and, as always, I appreciate your honesty. But do talk to loved ones, trusted friends ... tell 'em how you're feeling. Sharing how you're feeling is the way to go.

Boxingdayfresh - Welcome back to the Challenge and I always like to think that returning members have that extra bit of resolve. A veteran's approach! Let's see what's "in your locker" this time around BDF!

Serendipity - thank you for your check in and glad that you're on an even keel. That's all we're after in life - balance, rather than the sickening jolts of gambling [losses.....]

Wardal1979 - Great to see you're "back in the saddle". We have to keep trying and get better at this. And we really can.

JA72 - One day at a time, that's all we have to do. Not gamble today, and repeat. We have the freedom of choice to carry out this simple request not to waste our money. Because we never win. If we do win, it's only temporary, ebcause we give it back, and more. Every time.

Charton3 - I'm delighted to read your progress. Genuinely so. You've come back - better, wiser and you really do know how much this matters. A better life matters. 

Markman - thank you for your kind comments. It was fun doing the old Challenge last year but I crumbled in the hard work it entailed and used that as an excuse to relapse and left the site for a while. Wow, how poor was that - but I won't do that again. Delighted to see you back and all resolved as we all, shoulder to shoulder, really go for this.

Stephen67 - I really understand how difficult this is and how, in the life you lead, how gambling has always been such a focus, but, also undertand you (painfully) realise you need to turn this around. My empathy overflows for you, Stephen. But never, ever be a stranger because we are all unconditonally here for you, as you have so often been for us. 

Need a bit of inspiration? Try these ..!

It’s okay to look at the past and the future. Just don’t stare.

If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a room with a mosquito.

When life puts you in a tough situation, don’t say 'Why me?', say 'Try me'.

The elevator to success is out of order. We have to use the stairs…one step at a time.

Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, ‘I’m not going to make it’, but you laugh inside remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.

When life brings big winds of change that almost blow you over, close your eyes, hang on tight, and believe.

We made mistakes because life doesn’t come with instructions.

Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.

 

Keep smiling everyone!

Mixer

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 16:56

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Well it was tough at times over this weekend, lots of urges brought on mainly by spare time and being on my own in and around pubs , note to self don't go in pubs on my own. Managed to not put any more than 50 p in machine gambling. Really wanted to chase and ruining my day count brought thoughts of other gambling avenues which are luckily blocked anyway. The only damage I can do is still In pub fruit machines and that was the first time I played one since 23rd December . Onwards I go day two today, and its muy birthday tomo

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 17:01

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hey, you are really going for this Adam and hope you don't me being on 'your shoulder' here. It's because you care about this, that I care about this, too. Half-measures don't count - this journey has to be as 'all or nothing' as we can make it. I do feel for you in respect of fruit machines - there's no easy exclusion for them, as they're in virtually every pub in the land. But good to know you're with people whilst in the pub - if you've primed 'em about your weakness then they'll do their best to stop you approaching the demon slots. You're doing great mate. P.S. Have a great birthday tomorrow :)

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 17:59

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

Yes, Mixer there are few other further away casinos that I should ban myself at, casinos that I had visited in the past.  Right not I have 6 self exclusions.  tara2

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 20:35

DeterminedDan

Joined:
2016-09-08

Hi Mixer, I would like to re-join this challenge if that’s ok....but I don’t expect a comment/mention etc until I reach 30+ days gamble free. 

I want to prove that I mean business by getting to that 30 day mark.

You put so much hard work into this thread and I feel like I have to earn my right to get back amongst the group again. 

I’m in a much happier mental frame of mind to tackle this now. I have more blocks in place than I’ve ever done. I’m ready to go!...

Dan

Posted on:
Tue, 29/05/2018 - 20:40

Ukds69

Joined:
2018-04-28

Hi Mixer. Yep, you are dead right. It is exactly those two realisations and the acceptance of that has elevated me to (without wishing to sound all ‘spiritually’) a greater level of awareness. A level that has tipped the seesaw, finally, in my favour. It was quite literally the tipping point for me.

Looking back in retrospect, I was so nearly there for the past few years but always ended up failing. Of course I now fully understand exactly why that was. Because I steadfastly refused to want to give it up for good. Simply because I continued the (highly flawed) notion that I could control it. 

It was like I was in my own slots bonus game of the mind. I (unknowingly at the time) had to pick up several different items (levels of awareness/understanding/desire/acceptance/acknowledgement/realisation). i.e. like one of the early ones, “accepting I have a problem”. Picking up duplicate items made no difference but until I had the ‘full set’ I was never going to get to enter the ultimate big bonus game with a guaranteed jackpot. That being of course... a gamble free life. Once I completed the full set with these two, it all seemed to fall into place. Weird though it may sound.

I’m not saying I know I have this beaten, far from it. I accept it will be with me every day for the rest of my life but I have never felt more determined or strong in wanting to rid myself of this for good.

Posted on:
Wed, 30/05/2018 - 01:01

tara2

Joined:
2013-01-27

i'm still here.  Taking my lesson and continuing.  Bring on the wisdom .  The journey continues.  amen.  Tara2

Posted on:
Wed, 30/05/2018 - 09:54

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Checking in day 11 GF xx

Posted on:
Wed, 30/05/2018 - 22:33

JA72

Joined:
2018-05-08

Checking in on day 23 gamble free.

Had some tough days the past week, but got through them.

Pay day is 2 days away, so must put my gloves on and keep my chin up and stay strong. This will be my biggest test yet, but one day at a time. I haven’t gambled today and that’s good enough for me at the moment.

 

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 08:46

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks Mixer for the mention. I’m on nine days now and I’ve got to keep it going now. Got a plan to be debt free in approx 2.5 years and once debts are paid I’ll be finally free from the daily reminder of my gambling problem. I can’t trust myself with savings so I’m using a regular saver account where it’s more difficult to access cash. I’m saving up a small amount each month for trips / hols etc. I’ve realised that a big trigger is having a bit of money in the bank when I’ve saved up a bit each month for a few months. However I also really need to try to save a pot of money that’s accessible too. 

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 10:12

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 173, gad to say that i remain gamble free ..... thanks for the mention Mixer and for your time and effort in running this challenge.

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 12:14

wardal1979

Joined:
2016-11-27

Thanks Mixer.  Just wanted to say you are doing a great job being here for us all.  I am on day 12 today and glad I have the stops in place on my phone and laptop.  I am going to do this.  I had started trying to learn to play the guitar a while back and recently picked it up again.  Take Care All xxx

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 18:29

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in on 203 days gamble free. 15 days till totally debt free :) woohoo

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 19:37

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Well done slot fool

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 21:23

Bigmug

Joined:
2018-05-30

Only 2 days gamble free but determined to succeed

Posted on:
Thu, 31/05/2018 - 23:07

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thank you for the kind words Mixer. I enjoyed reading your mid week catch-up with it's humour, interesting observations and excellent advice.

I believe keeping a day count can be a very useful strategy in our efforts to remain gamble free. However, I have relapsed on several occasions and feel the need to employ different tactics. With this in mind I have stopped my day count and intend to just concentrate on the here and now. I am using silent repetitions of the Green Tara mantra to focus my mind and ward off unwanted, intrusive thoughts.

Although I will not be taking part in the challenge, my thoughts and prayers will be with yourself and all the Guru Challengers. This is the mother of all battles and I wish everyone success in winning back their freedom....stephen 

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