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Posted on:
Fri, 26/01/2018 - 21:17

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

Hi Guys..checking in still all clean and free from Gambling..Saturday going to be a hard day as my friends want to go to the Casino..they don’t know about my losses..hopefully I will be all clean 

Posted on:
Sat, 27/01/2018 - 08:29

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

118 days checking in and I’m still gambling free. Had some weak moments recently. Feeling like I’m missing out and that I could afford to spend a little. It’s difficult as you think it’s all under control. Then you have moments of madness where you really want to believe you can just be a social gambler ( by this I mean to gamble in moderation within our limits) . 

But, I’ve been in the quitting game long enough now. I know this is me having a wobble and I just need to make sure I don’t wobble and fall.

Talking to my best friend later today is part of my plan and remembering my plan for debt free by Dec 2020. Imagining the liberation of being free from paying hundreds back to debts each month that are largely gambling debts. I know that I must stay strong and ride it out. The thoughts will pass. I even dreamt last night that I was playing a slot machine and of course winning big. 

Interesting stuff Mixer about your gambling research and I’d like to read about it too. But, for me, I wouldn’t want to be thinking too much about the slots and their possible cheats as i think I’d be tempted to try them out!

I believe this tactic is best for me; using avoidance and distraction to never think about them and remove them from my thoughts. This way I can keep them from my dreams too ?! 

Posted on:
Sat, 27/01/2018 - 20:20

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Very interesting post regards the slot fiddles Mixer will have a think about that. Read your diary from start this week and see you posted almost every day for first 100 days but less so recently. Great advice throughout Cheers. 36 gamble free days for me. Simply lovleh

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 05:34

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Apologies to Mixer and my friends on the Guru Challenge. I gambled yesterday and today is my 1st day gamble free. 

I know I will be ok if I focus on one day at a time but yesterday I just lost my resolve...stephen 

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 07:17

Raj

Joined:
2017-07-05

Hi Guys..managed to stay GF last night after visiting the Casino. It was hard but I let my friends bet only. It was a very busy place more like a bar then a casino! Conclusion..Roulette is fixed on both forms..I saw one number come up 3 times! Stay gamble frrr guys..

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 10:41

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

116 days GF

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 11:14

Ineffable

Joined:
2015-02-21

Hi, I wonder if I could join this challenge again? 

I joined this challenge in early Nov last year, after a disastrous year of serial relapses - it was painful and I wasted the whole year on gambling - the whole effing year- effectively became a recluse, except for work.  I am so determined to make 2018 my GF full year but have struggled to remain GF; this time more than ever. I have been so close to gambling many times and each time is a painful struggle/fight in my head ..... but I remain GF - day 29.  It is a bit cheeky to start on day 29 but I so need to have these challenges to help keep me honest and on track. Thanks.

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 14:37

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Checking in with 44 days gambling free.

I am sorry to hear about your relapse, Stephen, don’t beat yourself down beat the addiction! It takes courage to admit you slipped and even more to come back and admitted it. Take care!

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 16:22

amt722

Joined:
2013-11-10

Hi, I regret to say that I have relapsed back to day 2 after 159 days GF.

Financial pressure of not having any funds and not knowing if a customer was paying the business which would of ruined us was the trigger. Would of been ok if I cashed out but no couldn’t stop so kept depositing to chase the losses and then had enough. Why o why did I do it. Idiot!! 

So im not shying away from the fact that I’ve failed, very disappointed but it’s a harsh lesson to learn, was going fine being GF and got complacent. 

It’s not easy and maybe more blocks for the future are required. It’s increased my debt which I didn’t need but I have no interest or urges to chase the loss. So back to day 2 and lets go again.

Apologies to Mixer and the rest of you all. Keep focused and don’t be complacent like I have been. I know now it’s a constant failing I have and that I mustn’t ever gamble again 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 16:57

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Hi all once again some interesting reads on here and good research mixer. I'm on day 12 gf

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 17:21

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 28th January 2018

Good morning/afternoon/evening!

I hope life’s treating you all well. It’s that time of the month – the first payday after Christmas, or, if you’re paid weekly, the first infusions of disposable cash injected into your bank account. Even if you’re paying off debts at the moment, you know and I know there’s always a bit of free cash. Don’t gamble it.

Now, last week I commented that I was researching something that I would let you know about this week. But I’m going to put this on hold this week, because something else has come up!

What’s that, you’re asking. Well, as you know, like many of us, I read the Gamcare forums frequently and especially comments on this thread. I noticed that my good friend, and fellow Guru Challenger, Abstainer (Stephen) had relapsed a few days ago. My reaction was the same as it always is: saddened at first, but then thinking: what is the missing link, what’s the underlying reason for this; you’ve relapsed a few times lately, how can we help you. So, Stephen, this post is dedicated to you and what we can do to help you. I’ve got a few ideas; let’s see if they help you, my friend. (UPDATE: And Amt722- just noticed you’ve had a blip too – so this is for you, too!)

I’m a bit of a vociferous reader. I read anything and everything, and currently reading a great book called “12 Rules for Life” by Jordan B Peterson (if you recognize the name, it was him who crossed swords with Cathy Newman on Channel 4 news a couple of weeks back - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMcjxSThD54)

Now, I’m not into ‘self help’ books as a rule; but this author struck a cord with me, because he cuts through the bull like a knife through butter and is not afraid to say it as it is. I like the cut of his jib.

He has come up with 12 rules of life, and, for you, Stephen, and fellow Guru challengers and visitors, here they are. I’m wondering if any of them strike a cord with you, as they have me, and whilst not directly gambling recovery related, they’re all about getting us all back on the track in a gambling-free world. I look forward to any comments you may have!

Rule 1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back.

Rule 2. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Rule 3. Make friends with people who want the best for you.

Rule 4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

Rule 5. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.

Rule 6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

Rule 7. Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)

Rule 8. Tell the truth – or, at least, don’t lie.

Rule 9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.

Rule 10. Be precise in your speech.

Rule 11. Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.

Rule 12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.

Food for thought, eh?

We’re not just trying to be gambling free; we’re trying to be better people. That’s not to say we’re not good people; we are, we’ve just got caught up with a horrible addiction and, in our efforts to break free, one day at a time, we need help and guidance to help us. I hope this helps you Stephen, Amt722 and everyone – because we care!

So - let's sit or stand up straight, shoulders back. Let's show some pride as we all find out ... how we're all doing this week.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 
  • Did you relapse but are RE-RESOLVED? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

Degenerate – YES - our third ever GURU steps up the plate! Congratulations, Degen on a fantastic 300 days gambling free. None of this has been easy, I know you’re paying off debts and aware of other travails but all done with the knowledge that gambling simply makes things worse. Sometimes, reaching a milestone can be anti-climatic but we both know the journey continues and onward we march towards the next goal. How about GURU with a STRIVER ‘bar’ – 330 days. Our very best wishes to you, Degen as you continue this journey.

Godoicul – You’re a STRIVER; over 30 days in the bank. It shows you mean business, and can handle a pay day and associated temptation. Great stuff.

Adam123 -  I know you struggle with the demon slots, Adam, and I hope my articles are helping you understand how rotten they are in every way. I hope you’re still gambling-free, do let us know. Meantime, congratulations on becoming our latest STRIVER!

WE WELCOME BACK

Raj162ROCKING! - Welcome back Raj, and thank you confirming you’re still gambling free! I was very concerned to read, though, you went to the casino the other night, but didn’t gamble. Please, be careful: you’re playing with fire. Don’t get burnt. How can I put this - keep out of the casino!

Ineffable 29ROCKING! Welcome back, it’s great to have you back and great to hear you’ve accumulated 29 days GF! I know what it’s like first-hand when you dive off the forums when you’re struggling – I did exactly that last year. But you’re back again – that’s the spirit!

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 719 days – ROCKING! Almost at the 2 year mark but with no complacency, still treating this on a day-to-day basis. I know you’re planning for the month ahead when your dear wife is away and help you’re feeling Ok.

Changemylife – 457 days – ROCKING! – You have really given me food for thought with your recent posts, especially when you’ve looked at whether continuous references to gambling on the threads, especially when we’re well into a gambling-free journey, could be counterproductive (after all, we’re trying to get away from gambling). I think you have a point J I also liked your list of '50 Reasons why people should take part on sports’ – perhaps I can copy the list onto this thread if that’s Ok with you?

Degenerate – 306ROCKING! - Great to see you in the GURU part of the ‘ledger’! Does it matter? (Yes.)

Our ELDERs

Sars27 – 240 days – ROCKING! –Keepin’ it movin’ and, yes, like you, missing the Chat room. Hopefully it’ll be back soon. Gamcare are currently testing the new Chatroom; late at night they’ve been working at it!

Rubybaby184 days - ROCKING! – Hi Ruby and hope you’re still positive and focused!

Mixer170ROCKING! Keeping going. Because there’s no choice – it’s misery for me and my family otherwise. I can’t put them through it (again). Trying to cut down the booze – 3 pints in the last 7 days! But a few ‘leaving do’s’ at work coming up – but feel I’ve earned them.

4D – 144 – ROCKING! I hope all’s well with you, 4D; I appreciate you only post periodically. Do keep in touch though :)

Boxingdayfresh119 days – ROCKING! Thank you for checking in, and your post. The gambling devil is hovering around you at the moment and we need to flick him off your shoulder. You know social gambling is incompatible with being a problem gambler. You were right to talk to your best friend. Keep going!

Mitch91116 days - ROCKING! – I haven’t heard from you for a while Mitch and am a bit concerned. I know you’re counselling has finished. Keep strong and do get in touch!

Paulll116 days - ROCKING!  Thanks for the check in, Paul; as always you have a disciplined approach – a good routine – to this. Doing great.

Our STRIVERS

Marson123 91 - ROCKING! – You’ve gone a little quiet Marson and hope you’re Ok. Please let us know!

Slotfool - 80ROCKING! – Good to hear you’re busy – the (gambling) devil makes (bad) work for idle hands. Keep it going!

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 50 – ROCKING! Congratulations on 50 days GF! The urges will come to us when we least expect it – so, as you say, we must always be on guard. Taking the dog for a walk is ‘manna from heaven’ for your dog too – everyones a winner!

NiceNormalFamily  - 44ROCKING! – I’m really enjoying your posts liberally sprinkled on the forums NNF – your advice is pragmatic, practical and from the heart.

Godoicul37ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in and also for reading my diary. I’ve left it for a while because I tend to tend to concentrate on this thread but revisit from time to time. I really appreciate your kind comments and great to see you 44 days GF.

Adam123 -  36  – ROCKING! – Haven’t heard from you for a week but I’m crossing my fingers Adam.

NEW & RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Leeders100 - 19ROCKING – Thank you for checking and may I say – watch out! You’ve popped into the bookies and although you didn’t bet – why tempt, why tease, why torture yourself? Self-exclude is my advice. You’ve got to, mate.

Christer1 12 RE-RESOLVED – You’ve mentioned why there isn’t much mentioned of the bookies taking a hit with the imminent change in the law as it appertains to FOBTs. Probably because as problem gamblers, it’s of cursory interest – we’re not gambling anymore. Still, it’s nice to hear they’re getting a kick in the ankles. Remember, though – they are crafty and greedy and will think of other ways to grab back the cash. We must always be on guard.

Clarence1238 ROCKING - I haven’t heard from you since you joined the other week – do let us know how you’re getting on!

Amt722 – 3(*ELDER status achieved*) - RE-RESOLVED  – I know you’ve not had it easy and can empathise with the stresses that caused this trigger to happen. As you know, relapsing just makes things worse, but we all have our ‘breaking point’; but you’ve come clean straight away and all credit to you for that. That’s what underpins us all – integrity. Back on the good path, my friend.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*)2 RE-RESOLVED – Let’s help you ‘back on the hoss’ Stephen!

RESTING - No one rested this week.

STATS FOR NERDS: We’ve welcomed back two GURU challengers, no newbies this week. We have 3 GURUs, 8 ELDERs, 7 STRIVERs and 5 NEW/RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 23.

Let’s keep 2018 going as we mean to go on!

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

A woman accompanied her husband to the doctor's office.

After his checkup, the doctor called the wife into his office alone. He said, "Your husband is suffering from a very severe stress disorder. If you don't do the following, your husband will surely die."

"Each morning, fix him a healthy breakfast. Be pleasant at all times. For lunch make him a nutritious meal. For dinner prepare an especially nice meal for him. Don't burden him with chores. Don't discuss your problems with him, it will only make his stress worse. No nagging. And most importantly, make love with your husband several times a week. If you can do this for the next 6 months, I think your husband will regain his health completely."

On the way home, the husband asked his wife. "What did the doctor say?"

She replied:    (wait for it .... :) )

 

 

"You're going to die!".

:)

Let’s keep strong and keep smiling!

Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 17:44

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

THANKS mixer  ! Props to you my man! 240 GF DAYS ! I’m in ecstasy :) 

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 17:56

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Thanks, Mixer. Not really a good day for me I am afraid. Feelinig quite depressed just want for Monday to come. I always liked Mondays. Rule number one reminds me of someone I knew many, many years ago. He would often say I walk around like I own the world and have millions in the bank, yet not a single penny in the pocket. Today I feel lower than the grass. I am tired of being the strong one.

​Take care everyone, really sorry to read about few relapses over the past 2 days. 

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 18:16

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi mixer, yep still gamble free, ive let everyone at poker know I'm not playing anymore, ive been off work sick since start of the year due to stress at work, my medication means I can no longer drink alcohol. I have stopped taking my nicotine gum as it was making me throw up with coughs. Been going to gym everyday or twice a day. Hoping to go back to work on the sixth but not sure yet. Work is stressing me out. New tee total Adam is here and here to stay so with pride I say I'm still gamble free. Thanks again mixer for all the support over a long period of time.

Posted on:
Sun, 28/01/2018 - 18:49

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

NiceNormalFamily - I'm sorry to hear you're in the wars. As for the 'advice' whoever it was gave you years ago, I'd kick that and him into the long grass. It was negative 'advice' and I'd cast it from my mind. I refer, opaquely, to Rule Number 3. Try not to feel too down; enjoy tonight, close the curtains, watch the telly, spend time with your loved ones if you can. If not, remember: keep alone is fine, lonely isn't. So call on family and friends as necessary! Keep strong - you can be the strong one for as long as you want to be. Dig into that inner strength and resolve that is in there :)

Adam123 - delighted to hear you're gamble free. Great you've let your friends know you're off the demon slots - they're on your side; they want you to stop. They like the 'old' Adam, the Adam that doesn't gamble! Keep well, keep into the gym and keep off the ****/booze, it's clear it's not helping you at the moment. Chat to HR about your work if you can, or someone higher than your line manager if he/she is the problem. With you all the way, Adam; keep posting, keep chatting.

Sars - EXCELLENT my man !!!!

Posted on:
Mon, 29/01/2018 - 12:21

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Congrats Mixer on with your personal quest and resolve. 170 days GF is no mean feat. And no doubt using every positive bit of info or feedback to drive onwards.

Yes of course you may copy and use the '50 reasons to take part in sport' list. It's stuff like this that can help and make a difference for us all. Especially when we're feeling down or at a loose end. Instead of wanting to punch a wall or going down a pathway of distruction, we can choose an alternative. Slam a squash ball at the wall, try out a game of 'Footie Golf' or just pound the streets with an exhaustive, but exhilarating jog.

Posted on:
Mon, 29/01/2018 - 21:41

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Hi Mixer and fellow challengers. I apologise for not checking in and going quiet for a while. Im on day 92 and absolutely 100 percent in a good place with not gambling. The rest of my life however is quite a big challenge and mess right now im not one to air my laundry in public however i am at ease with people here. Im going strong and living day to day the breakdown of my marriage has now turned into what feels like a war. I actually dont even know the person who i called wife with how everything has transpired. I wont go into detail however i have opened my eyes that my gambling was my outlet for the life i quite frankly just didnt enjoy. I know how bad that made things but i know where i am now and i am enjoying finding this person in me thats been lockdd away for so long. So day 92 almost at an end. Im looking forward to hitting the 100 day marker hoeever i take every day as a reward for commitment and hard work.

Posted on:
Thu, 01/02/2018 - 05:03

Leeders100

Joined:
2016-02-09

Hi mixer

Yes probably not my best idea going into the bookies. I do miss having a bet on the horses though and never really spent a lot on them but any losses from that I would try to chase back in the FOBT’s which 99% if the time meant heavy losses.

I’ve put together a spreadsheet showing all my debt and monthly payments I will be making against them and my target date for debt free (excluding mortgage) so really feel I’ve got something to strive for. Seeing it in front of me every day really helps.

Posted on:
Thu, 01/02/2018 - 10:10

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 54 gamble free, just taking it one day at a time .....

Posted on:
Thu, 01/02/2018 - 19:25

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Done it again relapse. I'm not going to go on I expect people already think I'm a attention seeker on here sorry everyone

Posted on:
Thu, 01/02/2018 - 21:17

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Just a quick check in on 123 days ! Thanks for the weekly update and best wishes to everyone, regardless of your gamble free total - ensure that today you do not gamble. 

Posted on:
Fri, 02/02/2018 - 07:19

Ineffable

Joined:
2015-02-21

Rule 2. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

​Day 34 gambling free .... has been an easier week for strong urges but still think about gambling. Reading Allen Carr’s book is helping.

Posted on:
Fri, 02/02/2018 - 20:48

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Evening, everyone. I'm in a 'one liner' frame of mind, let's see how I do...!

changeyourlife - thank you; your 50 reasons will take pride of place on my Sunday rollcall!

marson_123 - getting close to the ton-up; don't let yourself down. I sense your genuine determination.

Leeders100 - keep out of tempation's way, that's your No.1 target, my friend

chartom1 - excellent progress; I'm delighted, and you know I mean that.

boxingdayfresh - really pleased you've hit the 1-2-3!

Ineffable - you get this; Rule No.2 is spot on; keep it going.

Posted on:
Fri, 02/02/2018 - 20:53

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in at 85 days.
Been feeling regretful

Posted on:
Sat, 03/02/2018 - 15:20

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Checking in with 50 days gambling free. Finances look tidy and I am mostly sticking to my pre-set budgets. Plane tickets for October holiday bought, so something good to look forward to.

Mood this week had been up and down, but I am not going back to day one!

Posted on:
Sat, 03/02/2018 - 19:31

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Put in an 8 hour 40 OT shift today going to reward myself with a night out watching the main man Kell Brook next month for my hard work and dodging gambling for another week. Feels good 

Posted on:
Sat, 03/02/2018 - 23:21

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Day gf free

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 06:16

Addictlondon

Joined:
2017-11-12

Hey I want to start today.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 08:16

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Checking in on day 98. Very close to the 100 never thought id get any where near this milestone. With all that has happened in the last few months i take no day for granted everyday is a struggle but i am determined and committed to living my life my way and gamble free.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 08:43

Leeders100

Joined:
2016-02-09

Checking in thanks for your support Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 10:35

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Congratulations Mixer on your continued good progress and thank you for the Guru Challenge. Fot me it's a place of sanctuary where I can gather my strength and prepare for the battles ahead. My goal is Guru status which I will achieve by not gambling one day at a time.

Best wishes to all my friends and fellow travellers....Abstainer ~ 8 days gamble free.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 14:10

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

247 Gambling free days ! Checking in mixer my man . Life is beautiful without gambling ! Keep up the good work everyone :) 

Sars 

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 15:51

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 4th February 2018

Hello everyone and I sincerely hope you’re keeping well.

Carrying on from last week’s ’12 rules of life’, here’s another 50, this time focused on keeping fit and well. And if we look after ourselves, we’ll be in a better place to look out for and after those of us we care about too. Truly, everyone’s a winner, in the right, non-gambling, way.          

Here’s the list (and a ‘hat tip’ to changemylife for it – thank you :) )

50 Reasons why it’s worth keeping fit (and, if you’re able and up for it, team sports!)

1. Increases confidence
2. Builds friendships
3. Builds character
4. Improves self esteem
5. Improves memory
6. Reduces obesity
7. Develops resilience
8. Teaches respect
9. Improves mood
10. Develops creativity
11. Reduces anxiety
12. Reduces stress
13. Reduces depression
14. Teaches life lessons
15. Promotes fair play
16. Improves body image
17. Boosts brain power
18. Develops focus
19. Improves academic performance
20. Promotes social interaction
21. Improves brain functioning
22. Improves sleep
23. Improves decision making
24. Develops autonomy
25. Develops stronger bones
26. Develops stronger joints
27. Helps to control weight
28. Increases energy levels
29. Increases attention span
30. Improves quality of life
31. Teaches about value and respect
32. Improves cognitive functioning
33. Improves posture
34. Builds strength
35. Improves blood flow
36. Improves fitness
37. Teaches team work
38. Improves learning
39. Reduces fatigue
40. Improves breathing
41. Helps to learn from failure
42. Improves reflexes
43. Helps to achieve goals
44. Helps to develop coping skills
45. Improves immune system
46. Teaches about winning
47. Teaches about losing
48. A way to experience success
49. A way to have fun
50. To feel good and content

So, how are we doing this week…

  • ROCKING? Another week gambling-free; excellent! 
  • RELAPSED (but RE-RESOLVED)? You’ve been honest with us; it shows respect for us and respect for yourself. What went wrong and can you do something about it to minimize a chance of a repeat … that’s the attitude that will help you back in the driving seat.

 

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

We have a new Striver. Step forward – Ineffable! Great stuff mate, and a great foundation and start to 2018!

4D – you are half-way to GURU (150 days GF), a magnific-“o” achievement. And NiceNormalFamily hitting the ‘nifty’ fifty days GF. Does it matter? I should coco! Our congratulations to you both.

 

WE WELCOME

Addictlondon – you’ve asked to join, consider it done. Looking forward to getting to know you. All you need to do drop us an update post every couple of weeks or so. Welcome aboard!

 

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 726 days – ROCKING! Homing in on 2 years gambling free Phil and as pragmatic and realistic as ever. A few more debt payments to pay – including, as you say, one for 29p! – and you’ll be clear. The rewards of being gambling free are plentiful and – in time - financial peace of mind is one of them.

Changemylife – 464 days – ROCKING! – Your last sentence of your latest post sums this gambling-free life journey, because this is what we aspire and give our all to; ‘Life is tough. But we don’t need to make it unbearable’. Exactly the point.

Degenerate – 313 – ROCKING! – Hope you’re keeping Ok Degen and, like you, am missing the Gamcare Chatrooms (a lot). At least Gamcare have listened, after a little ‘nudging’, and we can expect regular updates.   

 

Our ELDERs

Sars27 – 247 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for your update Sars and noting that to keep gambling free requires 24/7 attention and your ‘247’ days GF seems apt somehow!

Rubybaby – 191 days - ROCKING! – Hi Ruby, haven’t heard from you for a few weeks … hope all’s well with you … do let us know.

Mixer – 177 – ROCKING! I’m glad I have highly restricted access to cash because this is a very tough addiction to fight … but I know I have to stick with it. And I am, but the financial restraints are making all of the difference. Recovering from this addiction demands you know yourself and know your weaknesses and dispassionately dealing with these in practice – for me, there’s no other way.

Raj – 169 – ROCKING! – Delighted you’re on a substantial gambling free path but watch out for temptations that can easily be our undoing – like visiting a casino. You know this…!

4D – 151 – ROCKING! I hope you’re OK 4D – half way to Guru! Do let us know how you’re getting on.

Boxingdayfresh – 126 days – ROCKING! Thank you for checking in and your kind words. I appreciate you’ve had some weak moments; but keeping strong. That’s testament to your underlying character. Great stuff BDF.

Paulll – 123 days - ROCKING!  Thank you for the checking in. Keeping in touch like this is good for you, keeps that connection, and helps the rest of us too – to see others of our number wanting to live a better life, too!

 

Our STRIVERS

Marson123 – 98 ROCKING! – You have written what I consider to be the post of the week. “Very close to the 100 never thought I’d get anywhere near this milestone.” That’s real sincerity right there, Marson, and you really deserve this 100-up that I know you’ll pass in the next couple of days. Keep it going, my friend.

Slotfool - 80 – ROCKING! – Regrets can knock us for six, as we know, but it’s how we learn from our experiences that will make us who we are going to be. The flip-side to regret is the joy of doing the right thing – and that’s exactly what you’re doing there. Your husband can see your determination, showing you care – 80 days and counting!

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 57 – ROCKING! Ruts can manifest when we least expect them, especially at this time of the year, in deep mid-winter. But it will soon get lighter and brighter and those non-gambling vibes start to kick-in. You’re at the ‘dig in’ point and that’s what you’re doing – full respect to you.

NiceNormalFamily  - 51 – ROCKING! – Being gambling-free really does start to yield cash almost from the off, even if you’re settling debts there’s a ‘bit’ there. So investing that cash, for example, paying for a holiday, is a good thing. We’re entitled to good days, bad days, strong days, weak days – so long as we don’t gamble today, we’re doing great!

Godoicul – 44 – ROCKING! – You’re keeping busy with a hard-earned overtime shift under your belt. Are you going to give the proceeds to a gambling operator – are you **** (as they say). This can be a struggle at times – not gambling today is all we have to do.

Adam123 -  43  – ROCKING! – Fantastic not only to see you hit 43 hard-fought gambling-free days but the support you’re offering around the forums, like so many of us too. As I’ve written before – it’s good karma!

Ineffable – 36 – ROCKING! – Thank you for your kind words; you’ve got a very pleasant disposition and your ‘sunny side up’ outlook will put you in great stead for the multitudinous advantages of being gambling free!

 

NEW & RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Leeders100 - 25 – ROCKING – You’re right; putting a bet on the footy leads to the FOBTs in your gambling mind’s journey so you’ve got to nip it all in the bud and don’t bother to place any bet. So simple, but it’s true isn’t it. Remember, if you’d’ve won, you’d’ve given it back, and then some more. That’s what makes us problem gamblers and we can never go back to being ‘casual gamblers’ – we’re ‘hard-wired’.

Clarence123 – 15  ROCKING – I hope you’re Ok Clarence; we are with you all the way, here, you know that.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) – -  RE-RESOLVED – Thank you for your kind comments, Stephen. This thread is a sanctuary, a place where you can visit with unconditional support with people who share your journey. Plus you’re a ‘good egg’ and you’ve got a lively diary that’s always an uplifting place to be.

Amt722 – 8 – (*ELDER status achieved*) - RE-RESOLVED  –  I hope all’s well with you, Amt 722 – you’re a long-standing and valued member of the Challenge.

Christer1 – 3 – RE-RESOLVED – Sometimes a relapsed can lead to another in swift succession; proof, as if it’s needed, of the dangers of falling off the GF wagon. But you are doggedly getting back into position and are determined to stop. What can you do differently next time – there’s always something that can be done. And full respect to you, Christer, for your honesty.

 

RESTED THIS WEEK

Mitch91 – RESTED – I have to rest you, Mitch; I hope you understand. But you’re welcome back at any time, mate – just give me the word.

STATS FOR NERDS: 1 new member and 1 rested; we currently have 3 GURUs, ELDERs, 7 STRIVERs and NEW/RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total (inc. our newbie) of 23.

 

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

Did you ever wonder why earrings became so popular with men? 

A man is at work one day when he notices that a colleague is wearing an earring.

The man knows his colleague to be a normally conservative person and is curious 
about his sudden change in "fashion sense."

He says to him, "I didn't know you were into earrings.”

"It is not such a big deal, it's only an earring," he replies sheepishly.

His friend falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to ask: 

"So, how long have you been wearing one...?"
Without hesitation, his mate replies ...

 

 

"Ever since my wife found it in my car...!"

 

:)

This is a tough time of year everyone – let’s keep strong!

Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 17:08

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Checking in.

I am okay. Looking forward to Chat working again.

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 20:00

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Thank you Mixer for yet anoyher inspirational roll call. I must admit i am humbled by your words. Life is looking up at the moment shall be moving into a new home soon, i have my financial plan set in place. Looking where i was 98 days ago i would never have thought i would have achieved so much in this time. However I do not take anything for granted the lows will come but i have my mind set and I always have this place to help keep me on track. Well done to all fellow challengers have a good week and remember why your here.

Mick

Posted on:
Sun, 04/02/2018 - 21:59

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Thanks for update mixer and words of encouragement. Here's to another successful week, adam

Posted on:
Mon, 05/02/2018 - 08:28

Smashed

Joined:
2017-08-13

Hi Mixer Going to jump on the Bus if thats OK, need to get to the year and beyond. Thanks.

Posted on:
Mon, 05/02/2018 - 20:08

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Thanks for the update mixer, I'm now on day 88 lol, please add 2 weeks on the next roll call :)

Posted on:
Mon, 05/02/2018 - 21:45

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Hello Mixer. Sorry to say I have gambled today and can't understand my actions.

I am taking time out from the diaries to try and make sense of it all and get my thoughts together.

Thank you for your support and encouragement. Would you take me off the challenge please.

Wishing everyone well...stephen 

Posted on:
Wed, 07/02/2018 - 14:10

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi Stephen (Abstainer),

I am really saddened to read that you're 'in the wars' and totally understand that you feel that you need to 'take a break' and leave the Challenge, and Forums, for a while. Sometimes, it's good to take stock and work out why you're feeling like this. The trigger, I would suggest, isn't gambling itself but something that's driving you to it. I know you have health concerns and these can put anyone off kilter - and, of course, life can be tough at times anyway.

Please take care, please keep in the loop with your family and friends; it's good to be alone but never lonely. We all care about you here, you've made some good, genuine friendships and we're here whenever you need us; you know that :)

Take care, Stephen.

 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 09:29

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Mixer. Please remove me from the Guru Challenge. Thanks for all your help and support.

You know why you never see elephants hiding up in the trees?
- Because they're really good at it.

What is red and smells like blue paint?
- Red paint.

A dyslexic man walks into a bra...

Where does the General keep his armies?
- In his sleevies!

Ha ha The old ones are the best!

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 11:13

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thank you Mixer for your ongoing support. Hope your happy and well. I am back in recovery and now three days GF. Sorry to mess you about but could I enrol again on the Guru Challenge again. That 300 days is still a goal which I would really like to reach...stephen

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 11:42

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on day 61, still gamble free .... good to see you back on board Stephen, have every faith in you, we are all in this together.

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 12:58

rubybaby123

Joined:
2017-07-31

Checking in 195 days gf

Sorry mixer been so busy lately.
Life is good, kept busy with family and work.
When the urges rear their ugly head I focus on my family and how far I've come.
Life feels so much more positive without the guilt and worry dragging you down.
Hope you are well and thank you for your support x

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 15:46

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Afternoon everyone; I've been very busy but always keeping track of the Challenge :)

Smashed - Welcome back mate!

Abstainer (Stephen) - fantastic to see you back on board too, Stephen :) that's the spirit!

Marson - fantastic to see you hit 100 days, pride of place at next Sunday's rollcall!

Rubybaby - thank you soooo much for chekcing in. Really pleased to see you're keeping focus and enjoying a life free of the guilt of gambling. Lovely to hear from you :)

Chartom - really pleased to see you eating up the days, one valuable day at a time.

Changeyourlife - I'm sorry to see you leave us, but always understand. Whatever helps you is what matters the most. You know you're welcome back anytime, Ok :)

Adam123 - keep it going :) :) :) :) :) 

Degen - hope you're Ok, Degen - the chat's back in 3 weeks we're told - can't wait for that.

Keep strong everyone. 

 

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 15:54

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Good to have u back Stephen. I day 8 gfree

Posted on:
Thu, 08/02/2018 - 17:27

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Checking in.

@Mixer I am good. 3 weeks, I guess Chat was delayed.

Posted on:
Fri, 09/02/2018 - 20:49

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks for the update Mixer. 

Checking in on 131 days now gamble free.  Keeping busy planning holidays away :) 

Posted on:
Fri, 09/02/2018 - 20:50

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks for the update Mixer. 

Checking in on 131 days now gamble free.  Keeping busy planning holidays away :) 

Posted on:
Fri, 09/02/2018 - 21:09

lea samp

Joined:
2018-02-09

Hello

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