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Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 02:12

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Hi mixer I'm striving to hit that striver level as you recommended. Last gamble day for me was 23rd Dec and the finances are already a lot better. Here's to go good start to 2018, thank you mixer for ur continued advice and faith in me.

Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 07:22

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Morning Mixer and all the Guru Challengers. Wishing everyone a great weekend. I am pleased as punch and 10 days gamble free.

Off to the gym shortly for a swim & a steam than spend the day pottering about. One things for sure, I won't be having a bet.

Posted on:
Sat, 13/01/2018 - 18:54

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

A quick Saturday update.

Christer1 - thank you for checking in. 'Steady as the ship sails', as they say!

Slot Fool - 9 weeks gambling free [quickly does the maths...], that's 63 days! Really great stuff SF!

Chartom3 - Good, good ... back up to Striver. All in the right direction.

Godoicul - A very warm welcome to our group. It takes a certain kind of person to join us ... you are that certain kind of person. You've made a good decision! Look forward to getting to know you.

Mitch - We'll talk about your reaching the triple day GF milestone tomorrow but great news to hear about the return of your missing wallet. I had a similar good result yesterday. I left my mobile in the cinema (good film, by the say - 'The Darkest Hour'), rushed back in and someone had handed it in. Good karma all round, Mitch? Who knows, but when we create our own luck (by not gambling), I like to think that luck generally is on our side... not always, for sure, but I'm glad, regardless of the result, you haven't relapsed.

Boxingday - enjoy that great feeling you get when you pass a major milestone. Just the beginning, in a way, but what a marker you've set :)

Adam123 - It's a real pleasure to see you are really having a go at this Adam. I continue to have faith in you - without a doubt. Really good to read your progress, my friend.

Abstainer - Thank you for the upate, Stephen, and great you're combining being gambling free with a healthy lifestyle. The perfect combination!

*** Full rollcall tomorrow! ***

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 10:20

rubybaby123

Joined:
2017-07-31

Checking in 170 days gf

New year, new me positive and focused xx

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 10:55

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Good morning, checking in with 30 days GF. Today I will not gamble good luck everyone! 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 14:28

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

226 GF DAYS ! Checking in, cheers mixer my man .

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 17:37

paulll

Joined:
2009-10-16

Checking in 102 days. 

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 17:40

marson_123

Joined:
2017-11-02

Hello fellow challengerschecking in on day 77. Hope we have all had a good weekend lets end it with another gamble free day!!!

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 20:16

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 14th January 2018

 

Good evening everyone and I hope you’re keeping well.

Now, normally I open with a preamble but, just for this week, am going to link to a post I wrote that was developed from what I wrote last week. It’s increased in length to around 1,800 words, but encapsulates much about what I’ve learned about this insidious addiction we have the misfortune to have. I’d be interested to hear what you think about it – it might take a while to read, just to warn you; but hopefully it’s worth it.

So, it’s on with the show.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck! 
  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

 

WE WELCOME

Godoicul – A warm welcome to you. As you’ve said, having gone 16 months gambling-free, your relapse was the kick up the **** you needed to shake you back onto the gambling-free path again. A no-nonsense approach that is going to endear you to other members of our Challenge group; there’s no BS here. Welcome aboard.

ROLLCALL OF HONOUR

Phil72 – Congratulations on hitting 700 days gambling free; that’s a terrific achievement and being ever-present on these forums show that every day is hard-won without an ounce of complacency. Fantastic stuff Phil!

Three new ELDERs join the ranks!

Mitch91 – Congratulations for this important achievement, proving you can handle, and have put in place an excellent strategy for, 3 solid months’ of tempations!

Boxingdayfresh – Our second ELDER meaning business. We congratulate you BoxingDay, you’ve hit that date and beyond. You know this matters. Great stuff!

Paulll102 days – And making up our triple-whammy of 100-dayers is Paul. We doff our caps, Paul, this is a real achievement hard-won and you’re ready for similarly better days ahead, proving your credentials. Well done mate.

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 705 days – ROCKING! Like you, I miss the Chatroom, what a ‘golden hour’ it is. Let’s hope the Gamcare top brass earn their brass and do something about it, soon.

Changemylife – 443 days – ROCKING! – Thank you for your kind words last week and glad you enjoyed the joke. You’ll be pleased to learn – another one today!

 

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 292 days – ROCKING! I’ve enjoyed our ‘chats’ on the Forum Chatroom (R.I.P. but it was worth a shot!). Always good to chat to a fellow ‘techie’ too; I don’t know about you but I’m never far from a screen, coding, writing documents or on here! No wonder I’m so short-sighted!

Sars27 – 226 days – ROCKING! – I’ve been reading about your speeding incident the other day, and being fined for going 42mph in a 40mph zone seems a little harsh to me. A little flexibility from our Boys in Blue wouldn’t have gone amiss. But as you say, it hasn’t ‘tilted’ you and you remain GF. That's the money shot :)

Rubybaby170 days - ROCKING! – Thank you for the check in Ruby and wonderful to hear that you’re keeping GF and, as a result, positive and focused not any being GF, but for life itself. It’s always heartwarming to receive check ins like yours!

Adamjamal2014-2017167ROCKING! – You’re sensibly, as I wrote last week, looking forward to short and medium term targets. That makes perfect sense and the way to go.

Mixer156ROCKING! I’ve been booking holidays for 2018 left right and centre (a series of short breaks), none of which would have been affordable if I’d’ve carried on gambling. This benefits my family who can’t wait. Isn’t this what life’s about?

Amt722 – 150ROCKING!Thank you for checking in and hope January’s not too financially stretching for you. Christmas always takes it out of us, but at least, being gamble free, it was worth it.

Raj148ROCKING! – You haven’t checked in for a short while but hope all’s well with you Raj. Do get it touch, always good to hear from you!

4D – 130 – ROCKING! Thank you for your kind words and great to see you’re ‘trucking’ along. Hey, the middle lane is the best place to be. A bit of slow and fast good too, as long as we don’t veer off the GF motorway.

Boxingdayfresh105 days – ROCKING! Yes, a triple figure GF and storming past the milestone. Time to relax a little, catch your breath, and pace the next 100. You’ve passed the probation, here’s the real test. One day at a time!

Mitch91102 days - ROCKING! – Once again congratulations for your ton-up. Don’t forget, once your counselling sessions have finished, keep the continuity. I’m sure your counsellor will advise you how to keep focused once the sessions complete.

Paulll102 days - ROCKING!  Excellent Paul, steadily eating up those days, days of life itself, one day at a time. Focus, interest, awareness of yourself and others; it all returns when we’re gambling free. Clarity of thought is priceless.

Our STRIVERS

Velvet796 days – ROCKING! – Haven’t heard from you for a while, Velvet; I hope all’s well with you, do get in touch if you’re able.

Marson123 77 - ROCKING! – Thank you for checking in and your sentient is right – let’s finish the weekend with a gambling free day. It might be mid-January but when you’re gambling free it’s a good time.

Christer1 76ROCKING! –  Thanks for the check in and your advice to others is spot on – self-exclude from everything. Us recovering gamblers can be very crafty so we need to block all tempations – willpower is usually not sufficient.

Slotfool - 66ROCKING! – 66 days gambling free, 2/3rds of the way to Elder. I believe you can do this, with a disciplined approach, one day at a time. I believe in you.

RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 36 – ROCKING! Yes. Back into Striver territory with a steely resolve. And delighted to hear your counselling sessions are really bearing fruit.

NiceNormalFamily  - 30ROCKING! – A key, critical milestone navigated, NNF, you should be proud of your achievement. My goodness, you will be thinking about gambling a LOT now you’re in a ‘cold turkey’ state. My advice: Think about gambling by all means! Don’t suppress the thoughts; it’s hard enough stopping. But think to yourself: thank goodness I’m not gambling, that I don’t have to do this anymore. Be happy, that, day to day, you’re gambling free! That seems a counter-intuitive view, but how relaxing it is that you don’t have to stop the thoughts, simply don’t translate them into action. In time, these thoughts will start to disippate, slowly but naturally.

Adam123 -  22  – ROCKING! – You have played this Challenge honestly and warts an’ all from the start, Adam, and I am personally delighted you’ve broken away from the usual week or two before you’ve faltered again. Let’s build on this momentum, Adam, and see you hit Striver. I promise you, that would make my day! I KNOW you’ll be honest. I’m looking forward to next week!

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 11 -  ROCKING! – Thank you checking in and I read a lot of the inspirational, supportive messages you send to others, whilst continuing to keep a strong hand at the tiller for your own journey. I will pass by your diary later!

RESTING

Moorey RESTING – It is with reluctance I have to rest you from the forum Moorey. But please get in touch if you can; you’re a member of our group no matter what. We’ll support you, you know that, Ok.

VeebeeRESTING - Sadly I have to rest you from the Challenge, Veebee, but do get it touch, and hope all’s well.

STATS FOR NERDS: Two of our team have been rested this week, and a new member has joined us. Our totals are: 2 GURUs, 11 ELDERs, 4 STRIVERs and 5 NEW/RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 22.

Let’s keep 2018 going as we mean to go on!

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

Jack was about to marry Jill and his father took him to one side.

'When I married your mother, the first thing I did when we got home was 
take off my trousers,' he said.

'I gave them to your mother and told her to put them on.

When she did, they were enormous on her and she said to me that she 
couldn’t possibly wear them as they were too large...

'I told her, 'of course they're too big. I wear the trousers in this family 
and I always will’.

Ever since that day, we’ve never had a single problem.”

Jack took his father's advice and as soon as he got Jill alone after the 
wedding, he did the same thing; took off his trousers, gave them to 
Jill and told her to put them on.

Jill said that the trousers were too big and she couldn't possibly wear them.

'Exactly,' replied Jack. ‘I wear the trousers in this relationship and I always
will. I don't want you to forget that.'

Jill paused and removed her knickers and gave them to Jack.

'Try these on,' she said; so he tried them on but they were too small.

'I can't possibly get into your knickers,' said Jack.

'Exactly,' replied Jill..

'And if you don't change your bloody attitude, you never will!”

:)

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 21:54

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Thanks mixer for the words of encouragement it means a lot. Still gamble free horray

Posted on:
Sun, 14/01/2018 - 23:43

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Cheers Mixer. The Jack and Jill joke brought a smile to my face.

Posted on:
Mon, 15/01/2018 - 13:09

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Lol at the joke Mixer. 

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 01:54

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Thanks Mixer. As always I enjoyed reading the weekly roll call. Interesting and informative with some humour thrown in. 

Hope you are at peace with the world and enjoying your gamble free life. Wishing you a good week...stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 07:08

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Surprise surprise I've let myself down again I found a online sports betting firm which I had a bet and lost but not that much but once again I'm back to zero and have that horrible failure feeling inside me again. Sorry again everyone I'm off to hide myself from the world

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 11:32

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

Hey Christer don’t beat yourself up about it like you said you are back to 0 but you are still on the forum and still want to stop. Self exclude from that site and take it one day at a time. I’ve recently done exact same thing.a few weeks down line I’m feeling much better you will too

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 14:39

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Thankyou godoicall I'm glad I come clean and not hid it. I have self exluded from there and back on the road. I am still. Mad with. Myself

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 18:38

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Agreed, Godoicul, we mustn't hide but get straight back in the GF saddle. Kudos to you Christer for being honest and upfront.

Yes, be mighty p***ed off with yourself, that's good, but then balance that with your remedy. What did you miss, what gaps allowed you to gamble? Well, it's clear here. You've got to get the software that ensures you can't register with any online gambling firm. Now's the time! 

We're with you Christer. Your honesty shows the integrity you have.

We are with you all the way, my friend.

Posted on:
Tue, 16/01/2018 - 20:43

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

There's a new Challenge out there - the Easter Challenge! 

Well worth joining. Let's get to Easter gambling free!

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 00:03

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks for the mention in the update. Great to have reached over 100 days. Checking in safely with 108 days . I’ve worked out without any further gambling debt, I could be debt free by December 2020. This is my long term goal and I’ll only get there by saying no to gambling each and every day until all my debts are paid and I’ve undone the financial damage so to speak. Feels like any other life plans like saving up for a house etc have to be on hold until all my gambling money problems are sorted. It’s three years away ... but I can do it. I’m here for the long haul . 

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 07:41

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Checking in at 70 days. 10 weeks gamble free :)

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 08:43

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Boxingdayresh - Excellent post. Targets are always more manageale when we have meaningful targets and you've found a meaningful long term one - to clear your debts in full. Whilst doing so, keep trying to reduce interest payments as much as possible; a bit of planning now can save you £££ over the next three years. It's worth taking a look at this page that may well give you food for though - check out the links on managing and prioritising your debts.

Slotfool - Great to read; I hope you're having a good month. Ok, it's January, it's cold and the nights are long, but it's still a month of life to be enjoyed! 

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 08:49

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Thankyou mixer I agree bout blocks on phone I have tried that and they mess my phone. Well it's day 3 now gfree I have to get back on track now

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 09:06

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

I do take your point, Christer. Sometimes, the blocking software has unintended consequences; but it's always worth a try. And, let's face it, it has to be applied to all of our devices, and our snealy gambling minds can always find another device.

In which case, I would take another track. Pass your cards, and all means to withdraw money, to a trusted partner or friend. Then you couldn't gamble even if you wanted to. Make sure you haven't sneakily written your card details down beforehand. Remeber, we are gamblers, we are sneaky and we must 'out-sneak' ourselves - always be one step ahead of the gambling devil that's always hovering around. Keep going :) 

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 12:09

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on 40 days gf ... first real test as been having thoughts to gamble but blocks done there job and now back to thinking straight again .... 

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 17:42

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Thank you for your advise I will look into it

Posted on:
Thu, 18/01/2018 - 19:59

degenerate

Joined:
2013-05-10

Checking in. Last time (probably) that I check in as an Elder.

Posted on:
Fri, 19/01/2018 - 22:59

boxingdayfresh

Joined:
2014-12-28

Thanks Mixer for the advice ... I’m quite into Mr Lewis and his money saving ideas. I actually make quite a habit out of saving money ... switching bank accounts, energy providers etc. In the past few months, I’ve made £250 switching friends utility bills through recommend a friend. I made £150 switching my bank account etc. All my credit cards are on interest free periods and my loan is a low apr. So ... even though I’ve been careless in accruing so much debt (largely attributed to years of gambling) I’ve always been careful and never missed any payments or gone down the route of payday loans etc. I just need to ensure that I stay gamble free now and see through my long term aim of being debt free !! 

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 00:50

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Wishing  Mixer and all the Guru Challengers a good gamble free Sunday.

Abstainer18 days since my last bet and I have no intention, or desire, to gamble again.

That might sound a bit flippant because I know how difficult it is, but to be honest I'm sick to the teeth of it. I really can't go on in a cycle of relapsing every now and than. This time I will stay focussed on one day at a time. I will not feel sorry for myself and I will  behave with courage & self discipline.

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 14:41

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Checking in with 37 days gambling free.

I couldn’t wait for Sunday to come and post in here. Watching the count going up gives me some sort of satisfaction and so it should otherwise no effort would matter. Finances are slowly improving and should see real improvement by the beginning of March. As a stark reminder will finish this entry with an actual bank transcript of my last day gambling spree 15 December: £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £30; £100; £40; £30; £30; £40; £30; £30; £30; £40; £30; £30; £70; £30; £40; £30 plus £100 on one credit card, £100 on another and £60 via paypal.

Take care everyone, stay gambling free and many thanks to Mixer for keeping the motivation alive!

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 15:20

Leeders100

Joined:
2016-02-09

I’m in if that’s ok.

I’m on day 11 and feeling strong

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 15:57

amt722

Joined:
2013-11-10

 

Checking in, not having best of time financially but have resisted to date. This is the time that I’d knew would be the test of my character and ability to refrain from the demons telling me to have a go. ‘Go on you never know might win a few thousand’ it’s needed at the moment.

I just can’t face the sleepless nights, constant juggling of finances to cover the losses and mentally it was’t pleasant for sure. 

Anyway another week abstained and that’s something positive at a difficult time. 

 

 

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 16:38

Clarance123

Joined:
2015-02-18

Hi, I have been reading through all the messages and am given a lot of hope by them. I would like to join up and hit the milestones over the coming months. Today is Day 1 gamble free, time to focus on the future..

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 17:20

Godoicul

Joined:
2016-04-13

I feel right now a massive hate for the gambling industry and the snake ******** they are. I am in general much mor positive about life at min and glad to be another week gamble free. Tomoz I’m at my nans funeral and Tuesday is another day. Take care people 

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 19:50

Sars27

Joined:
2017-06-02

233 days GF ! Thanks for being a legend mixer my man ! Keep up the good work everyone :)

Posted on:
Sun, 21/01/2018 - 20:52

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

** GURU CHALLENGE -  Latest WEEKLY ROLLCALL!  ***

It's Sunday, 21st January 2018

Good evening fellow Guru Challengers and anyone visiting!

I hope you’re all as well as you can be, and hopefully a bit better than that! It’s that time of the year and time of the month. Christmas has come and gone and the January wages/salary due - bills to pay and all that. I implore you, as always – use that hard-earned for what it was intended which is anything but gambling. Just don’t bother! That's my simple message for this week.

A short intro from me this week because I’ve been so busy but I have been researching some gambling stuff that I think will be really interesting to report next week … so stand by for that!

Back to this week now so let's see how we’re doing. Let’s cut to the chase to answer the key questions.

  • Are you RESTED? Have you disappeared from the forums for a few weeks; if so, you are taken off the Challenge. We wish you luck of course.
  • Are you RELAPSING? It happens, but you’ve been honest enough to admit it. Make sure you’re putting in place extra steps right now … else it will happen again and you’ll get nowhere.
  • Or are you ROCKING? Still gambling free? Superb… keep living the life you should; not misery!
  • Or have you RETURNED? It's always great to welcome you back.

 

WE WELCOME

Leeders100 and Clarence123 – a warm welcome to you both. Looking forward to getting to know you; your first target is, day by day, to get one week more GF under your belts. That’s the ‘induction’! I’ve written a post that you might find interesting, by the way – it’s here.

Our GURUs

Phil72 – 712 days – ROCKING! I’ve read that your wife’s away Phil and, understandably, you’re going to miss her terribly. As you say, she’s your mentor, best friend and rock. Not the same, I know, but your buddies here on Gamcare will be here for you!

Changemylife – 450 days – ROCKING! – I’m sorry to read you’re having a tough January; stresses at work are impacting your wellbeing, struggling to sleep and having a glass or two to help you through it. I’m not surprised the gambling demon is trying to tempt you – it homes in when you’re brought low for whatever reason – but you’re batting it off. Things will get better; and kudos to you for not making things worse. Hope your sleeping improves – I’d say that’s your No.1 priority – long-term sleep deprivation really screws us.

Our ELDERs

Degenerate – 299 days – ROCKING! I’m missing our convos on the Chatline immensely and we all know if course it might be down for a while. Thanks for checking in the other day; as you say, the last time as an Elder …!

Sars27 – 233 days – ROCKING! – Hey, great you’re checking in and have lost none of your motivation and momentum whatsoever! It matters a great deal to you, and helps inspire me! Going great guns, Sars!

Rubybaby177 days - ROCKING! – Hi Ruby and hope you had a good week. It’s been a horrible month weather-wise but it’s always sunnier when we keep off the gambling!

Mixer163ROCKING! Keeping it going. Went for a major drink up during the week and had way too many ‘sherbets’ but – very limited cash. Tempation successfully averted!

Amt722 – 157ROCKING!Thank you for checking in and, yes, it’s understandable when we’re a bit skint that we wonder if we can make a few easy quid gambling but – we can’t! Because if we did (and it’s odds-against) we’d lose it, and then more, because that how we are. Keep strong!

4D – 137 – ROCKING! I resonate with you regarding your latest post where you say we may never know the reason precisely why we became compulsive gamblers, it’s a fiendish condition and not an exact science. But learning why is probably helpful because it helps us understand this condition a little bit better, too.

Boxingdayfresh112 days – ROCKING! Thank you for the update and glad to see you’re up with the ‘money saving’ vibe. Strange, isn’t it, as recovering gamblers, our money management skills are top-notch. Strange but true!

Mitch91109 days - ROCKING! – By the time you read this, you’ll have (or are just about to) finish(ed) your counselling sessions. Do keep momentum and remember, after 6 months, you can have another 12 sessions if you need them. So aim for that as a mid-term GF objective.

Paulll109 days - ROCKING!  Thanks for the check in, Paul, keeping the ‘show on the road’ as we know we must!

Our STRIVERS

Marson123 84 - ROCKING! – Keeping it going Marson and it’s yielding fruit – 12 weeks today!

Slotfool - 73ROCKING! – You’re right, Slotfool – although this is a personal journey we are all in this together. Feels like we’re a ‘team’ when we think of it this way and motivates us even more.

Chartom3 (*ELDER status achieved*) – 43 – ROCKING! You ask an important question and then give the critical answer. Do you want to gamble? Yes. But are you going to? No. And there lies the thin line between success and failure, just by correctly acting on the answer to that simple question every day. Keep it going!

NiceNormalFamily  - 37ROCKING! – Thank you for your most interesting post where you spell out, in a stark matter-of-fact fashion, the results of your final gambling binge. I have to say, it follows a ‘pattern’ that I’ve similarly had in the past. We start low, then go on tilt, think we can steady the ship, and, before we know it, we’ve done our b******s. Great post, NiceNormalFamily – you’ve GOT it, my friend.

RE-RESOLVED MEMBERS

Adam123 -  29  – ROCKING! – I haven’t heard from you since last week Adam but you know I am REALLY rooting for you!

Godoicul18ROCKING! – I know what you mean about the gambling industry; during my long and damaging addiction I’ve veered between hating them and … hating them. But, I can’t blame them - they do what they do. We have to live with it and deal with it. I still hate ‘em though! May I wish you all the best for tomorrow, by the way.

Abstainer (*ELDER status achieved*) - 18 ROCKING! – Thank you checking in as always; it is, and remains, a pleasure to have your acquaintance on this Challenge.

Christer1 5RE-RESOLVED – You’ve been honest and that always scores very highly in my book Christer. It’s now about how you react to this that counts; your honest countenance puts you in very, very good stead :)

RESTING

If you haven't been in touch for a few weeks, then I rest you from the challenge. I appreciate members of our challenge may decide to 'leave' like this for many different reasons. I always wish you well.

Adamjamal2014-2017 RESTED – I haven’t heard from you for a few weeks, Adam, so, sadly, have to rest you from the Challenge. You’re welcome back any time!

Velvet7RESTED – Sadly, have to rest you Velvet but please get in touch if you can!

RajRESTED – Regrettably, resting you Raj but do get back in touch anytime!

STATS FOR NERDS: We’ve welcomed 2 new intrepid souls to our Challenge this week but sadly rested 3. Our totals are (adding our 2 new members): 2 GURUs, 9 ELDERs, 4 STRIVERs and 4 NEW/RE-RESOLVEDs; a net total of 21.

Let’s keep 2018 going as we mean to go on!

*** JOKE OF THE WEEK ***

A Man Utd fan was enjoying himself at the game in a packed Old Trafford until he noticed an empty seat down in front of him. He tapped the man sat next to it on the shoulder and asked if he knew why the seat was empty?
 

The man replied, “Yes, that’s my wife’s seat. We've never missed a game in 40 years, but now my wife has died.”

The fan offered his sympathy and asked why didn't you ask a friend or relative to take the seat so they could enjoy the game with you.

The man replied “Well I did ask some of them but they’re all at the funeral today.”

:)

Let’s keep strong; keep sharing and keep strong!

Mixer

 

Posted on:
Mon, 22/01/2018 - 10:36

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Thanks for the rollcall Mixer, a great read as usual and always nice to get a mention, our journeys are all different and such threads as this are a great help to me and im sure others on here, also like the adding the odd joke, helps lighten the mood a little ...... wishing fellow guru challengers a good week ahead.

Posted on:
Mon, 22/01/2018 - 14:58

Christer1

Joined:
2016-02-29

Hello all 6 days gfree. After my blip last week nice to be back on here with some days behind me.im curios and look forward to hearing your research

Posted on:
Mon, 22/01/2018 - 18:56

adam123

Joined:
2015-06-09

Stilll going strong and gamble free mixer horray

Posted on:
Tue, 23/01/2018 - 00:02

Stephen The Strong

Joined:
2017-05-10

Congratulations Guru degenerate. Great progress and an inspiration to all who follow in your footsteps. Keep blazing that trail my friend....stephen 

Posted on:
Tue, 23/01/2018 - 00:23

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Mixer. Congratulations on your continued recovery which is amazing. We can achieve our goals whilst realising that there's a better life beyond. Also a big token of appreciation for your massive input on this forum, with a special recognition of the 'CAN WE DO IT - YES WE CAN' link with a wealth of valid information.

What did the fish say when it swam into a wall?
Oh Dam.

Posted on:
Tue, 23/01/2018 - 13:05

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

(dup post)

Posted on:
Tue, 23/01/2018 - 13:06

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Thank you all very much for your kind messages. They are very much appreciated (and the joke, changemylife! :) )

I've been v busy today but this caught my eye: 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-42783956/joey-barton-speaks-out-about-ga...

*Update* Hmm... the link doesn't work. But if you Google 'Radio 4 Joey Barton gambling' that should do it :)

Posted on:
Wed, 24/01/2018 - 20:49

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

*** Midweek Thoughts ***

Hello everyone, I hope you're keeping well. I've had a bit of a 'weird' couple of weeks, where my research into problem gambling has provided me personally with some profound revelations and realisations that I would like to share with you. 

My weakness over the years has primarily focussed on fruit machines, be it in amusement arcades or pubs, or anywhere come to think about it (bingo, bowling alleys, anywhere there's a fruit machine). I've lost countless thousands on the bloody things. Now, I've always realised I was never going to get a 'fair' game because there were people out there who knew 'tricks'; clever ways to get the jackpot that I would never have thought of. 

What I never realised, what I never fully appreciated, until a couple of weeks ago, was how underhand some of these tricks were, in my opinion. Now, I don't mind someone getting an 'edge' with a trick that 'Joe Public' might have discovered by accident, but these tricks were so unlikely to be discovered that, in my opinion, and, if substantiated, they border on the 'illegal' in my perception if that's defined by falling foul of the Gambling Commission's rules about fair play.

Let me give you an example. There was one slot where you needed to insert 80p, then 'switch' between stakes to generate a 'faulty' super hold that would instantly give you the jackpot. Now, [and I'm only speculating and theorising here, legal eagles reading this], but what if this was a 'built in fiddle', concocted by the game's developers, testers, and cohorts 'out in the field', the secret network of professionals, who could then cash in? Of course, it may well have been the case it was an undiscovered, innocent error that was subsequently 'chipped out'; a fix rushed out as soon as the manufacturers became aware of the anomoly. My conjecture is that if this was proved to be a deliberate trick, it would have been so underhand that it would have been impossible for the casual gambler to get a fair game.

What makes this interesting is that I have found dozens of other examples of fruit machine errors similar to this. And some of these, in my personal opinion, if proved negligent, would so distort any semblance of a fair game that they might be considered contrary to Gambling Commission rules.

Why am I aware of this in the last two weeks? I do not want to give my sources because the last thing I want to do is encourage anyone here to access the sites I've been looking at, hence it rekindles any feelings about gambling again. But, take it from me, I've done the research and, in my opinion, the whole thing stinks. 

Why does it matter and why am I bringing it up? Here's why ..

  • I believe, in my opinion, based on what I have read online, the casual fruit machine player has been conned for years, in terms of not getting a fair game.
  • I believe, in my opinion, that the 'tricks' continue. I can't go into details.
  • You might be wondering: am I simply 'jealous' that I'm not in the 'inner circle', 'cashing in' myself? Well, a few years back, I would have thought that way - the sound of easy money always appeals. But 'these days' I'm philosophical; I've accepted the losses and am not going to gamble again. I have to say, this really has put me off for life (and I've never liked online slot gambling - god knows what stunts are being pulled there. So if online gambling was your 'bag', just stop right away and never go back. Seriously.)

 

Let me cut to the chase.

  • I think that the Gambling Commission need to look into this. 
  • But most importantly, if your addiction is fruit machines, for crying out loud never play them again. You, like me, are a mug punter. Don't touch them. And spread the word. You are simply providing profits for the 'tricksters'. 

 

I need to round off this post by stating that I am not accusing any fruit machine manufacturer or their staff of any foul play. I would like to think the very highest standards and integrity are enforced. However, it is right that, in the light of anecdotal evidence widespread on the internet, questions should be asked.

Finally, I would like to thank a good friend of mine for suggestions about how I sensibly word this article.

Over and out. I welcome any thoughts!

Mixer

(166 days GF and counting!)

Posted on:
Wed, 24/01/2018 - 21:33

Slot Fool

Joined:
2017-09-20

Quick check in as I'm a busy bee. Going strong 11 weeks tomorrow

Posted on:
Wed, 24/01/2018 - 22:06

Nicenormalfamily

Joined:
2017-12-15

Hi, Mixer, many years ago, long before I was interested in gambling, I was for a short period in the inner circle of such professionals. I’ve been trying recently to remember what exactly they did to the FOBS machines and I couldn’t, but I certainly remember them cheating on these for quick and large amount of cash.

Posted on:
Thu, 25/01/2018 - 15:23

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Hi NiceNormalFamily - thank you for your post. I'm aware, as you know first-hand, the professional machine players have been around for years. I never realised, though, just how underhand and contrived the 'tricks' were. I'm not for a moment passing the blame of my addiction onto 'others' - I realise, like everyone on here, I am fully repsonsible for every penny I have gambled away

It all helps underline to me, and hopefully others, yet another example of how futile gambling is.

Posted on:
Thu, 25/01/2018 - 23:10

changemylife

Joined:
2016-11-02

Hi Mixer. You're certainly getting into the details with this gambling stuff. Dissecting every little part of it, and exposing the lies, control, manipulation and conspicuous activities within the gambling industry.

Maybe all the research has become an obsession; a quest for answers, accountability and truth. But if it helps to gain knowledge and build a stronger defence then there will be just cause.

Like you say - it's not about passing the blame or non-acceptance for our own decisions and actions. As you know knowledge is power.

The gambling industry is riddled with flawed systems and a deep vein of deceit. And of course it's the sorrowful punter that pays time and time again. It's not just fruit machines or F.O.B.T's, there is plenty of fixing taking place in the sporting world, although there have been some advances made in recent years to try and counteract it.

When I think of the times that I attended greyhound or horse race meetings and then faced with the sly controlling bookmakers running the show, watching the backs of one another. And if a punter was to lay a heavy wager, it was made to lose. An animal might be over-fed, or a jockey paid off. Match fixing in snooker, football, cricket and athletics has been uncovered. Leaving the poor punter on a very uneven playing field; as if it wasn't difficult enough to win in the first place!

Posted on:
Fri, 26/01/2018 - 11:26

chartom3

Joined:
2015-03-11

Checking in on 48 days gf all good at the minute, blocks doing there job things slowly getting better.

Posted on:
Fri, 26/01/2018 - 12:44

Mixer

Joined:
2016-12-03

Changemylife - thank you for your thoughtful post. A good point regarding my 'obsession''; yes, I am a bit. But in a good way I hope; I continue to be intriuged by problem gambling and everything to do with it, but need to make sure that the knowledge gleaned is used in the right way. That is, not to get dragged back into it! And you're right - there are fiddles abound; there always have been, and there always will be. Life's about "choosing your battles" - and the most important thing we can do is fight this one; to, one day at a time, not gamble!

Chartom - very glad the blocks you're putting in place are doing the job. 7 weeks gambling free tomorrow, and over the 'difficult' Chrstmas period to boot. Great stuff mate!

 

Posted on:
Fri, 26/01/2018 - 15:48

Leeders100

Joined:
2016-02-09

Checking in.

Tough day today had to pop the post office to post a parcel and there is a bookies next door. Had 10 mins to spare and popped in stupidly but even with the horses on and the machine trying to drag me over managed to stop myself from spending anything in there.

Have to stop myself from even entering in the future

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